Heyya again,
So yeah attraction and stuff doesnt really work by you telling her you like her in that way after you've been hanging out like that but I guess you have worked that bit out
By virtue of her texting meeting up and stuff its kinda already said so when you tell her in that explicit way it kinda fucks it up, you wanted just move things forward so you do that by kissing.
So it sounds like it was going well and stuff so theres no reason to say that you just take it to the next levels.
And if your having a good connection instead of "letting her know ur feelings" you just kiss her.
Infact thats pretty much exactly what a kiss is saying to her you like her, so instead of kissing her you say you like her. That tells her a hell of a lot about you and the way you go about things which is pretty much counter to how she wants it to go.
The ljbf shouldnt even come up so reacting to it is damage control which is just silly waste of time.
Just move on and learn your lesson
If for some reason she does say that just be like cool and just chat a bit longer then try kiss her rinse repeat till she tells you to fuck off, unless you wanna be mates with her?
If you honestly feel this girl is the most amazing once in a life time girl who you want to marry and have children with and there is no other girl in the world then sure stay in contact or summin and hang out a bit or whatever fuck knows or get over the oneitis thing which isnt real anyway.
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What did surprise me about the whole "Nah not into you quite in that way" was the fact that nature of her texts and behaviour were consistently flirtatious and interested with lots of questions about me and my interests
Yeah well the moment you did that it pretty much changed what she thought about you
if it was all real then shes expecting a kiss, which if that for some reason didnt go well then you wanna take a lot of steps back in thinking where it was at.Because it means your attraction wasnt there in the first place and your not able to work out legit interest.
Or maybe she likes you but didnt wanna start dating you, most people wanna hook up before making that commitment.
Fucking weird that shes msging u saying all that stuff since, I really wouldnt think about it too much. If shes saying she really really wishes that she liked you. What shes saying is she really wishes u had more game and could get her more attracted in you. Shes saying I NEEDED MORE ATTRACTION.
Well you can be nice to her respond and stuff just dont get emotional about it maybe work out if you want to be friends or not but dont think about making it work or anything just forget about it is a good idea.
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But do you realistically think that she will come back or re-discover those feelings of liking me?
Who knows maybe in the future you guys will bump into each other at some party some time and chat and have a few drinks and make out then why not.Ohh 6 months ago? wtf why didnt you make out with her then or summin? sounds like you took so long it put her off. The window of opportunity isnt open for that long. And a guy who doesn't take opportunity and push things further when giving the chance or opportunity to do so is very unattractive enough to turn a girl off totally and forces her to put that guy in friends mode because hes not gonna make a move so hes a mate.
It sounds like you were playing a weird girl type dating game and stuff dont try bridge the 2 worlds it doesnt bode well.
I guess you could work on re attracting her but that's such a fucked mentality you dont wanna think ohh shes said ljbf how do I fix this? Its more you hear that and think oh I fucked up how do I ensure this doesnt happen again in the future with someone else I like and you move on. I just think the mentality in general of wanting to fix this is a big stumbling block and will impede you immensely so the best advice is to just focus on that notion and forget about it.
You will do well to know why it fucked up and how to stop it fucking up again with someone else thats where your mentality should be at for sure.
Hope it helps
all the best.