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She's often texting me but putting off my date requests. ???
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Author:  lespauldude [ Tue Dec 18, 2012 5:06 am ]
Post subject:  She's often texting me but putting off my date requests. ???
I did daygame at the mall a couple weeks ago and had an instant date with a girl. We've been texting for two weeks but haven't met up still because she's often said she's either busy or has work. What's frustrating isn't that she's putting up resistance to meeting up, it's just that she'll generally be very responsive and even proactive with communications, but getting a first date with her has been a pain in the ass. She'll text me throughout the week and ask "how are you" and be very talkative, but when I bring up the date request, she'll have some way of putting it off.

For instance, the first time I asked her about iceskating, she said she liked the idea but said she was busy that weekend and said maybe the weekend after. That's reasonable, but it was a Tuesday when I asked, so that would push the date to 1.5 weeks later and she didn't even consider a weekday an option.

It ended up raining that weekend so we couldn't do it, but when I asked her if she wanted to go rock climbing instead or even just get lunch, she said she'd love to go rock climbing but might be hungover from the company party the night before. That was fine and all but she didn't even respond to my second option, which was lunch.

I ended up texting her a couple days later (this morning) with a date request for dinner this week specifically. Day is over and I haven't heard back so I'm guessing she's simply not interested in meeting up.

I wish I didn't have to waste so much time texting her. She was initiating the text conversations and it turns out she doesn't even want to have a date.

Why do girls do this?
Author:  Fly_Swatter [ Tue Dec 18, 2012 6:11 am ]
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Seems like she might have initially been interested but gradually lost interest because you didn't game her correctly. When a girl turns me down for a date, I just brush it off like it's whatever and don't ever bother asking her again. Instead, I just focus on building even more attraction and wait for her to at the very minimum hint at a date.
Author:  lespauldude [ Tue Dec 18, 2012 6:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She's often texting me but putting off my date requests.
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Seems like she might have initially been interested but gradually lost interest because you didn't game her correctly. When a girl turns me down for a date, I just brush it off like it's whatever and don't ever bother asking her again. Instead, I just focus on building even more attraction and wait for her to at the very minimum hint at a date.
Hmm, I guess I often get so focused on the goal, which is at the moment, a date...so I just keep at the date requests. I probably am not doing a great job at texting because of that, but I never assumed you could build much attraction over texts.

I teased her a little over texts (which was a little dangerous as they could get misinterpreted) but I don't know what exactly to do to build attraction.

So how do you build more attraction at this stage?
Author:  mPUA Savior [ Tue Dec 18, 2012 7:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She's often texting me but putting off my date requests.
Generally i just text and say hey! your a cool chick, but i'm not interested in being your text buddy. So i gotta say good-bye.


im not saying this will get her to text you back and say what you got going on this weekend. and if she did id say sorry, but if you were interested in hanging out you would of made that effort weeks ago.

basically im telling her to f off and go find some other text buddy cause i aint got time for that shit. nor do i have the time to evaluate my texts and see how can i tweak it for her to want to see me.


if she keeps blowing you off man she aint interested in you...end of story....get the point?

so id do yourself a favor and tell her .....hey! your a cool chick, but i have no interest in being your text buddy. glad i met you but gotta say good-bye.


she may text back saying why..to which you can say whatever you want..

let us know how it goes
Author:  HardToKill [ Tue Dec 18, 2012 7:30 pm ]
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So how do you build more attraction at this stage?
Just be more sexual with every chance you get. You might have to wait a while for an opportunity, but when you do, purposefully misinterpret the shit she writes. Like if she talks about going for a long hot shower after the gym or something, say "you're such a horrible tease, stop trying to get me to think of you naked... ugh, too late" and that sort of thing, just be playful and funny as opposed to creepy of course ;)

Then if that doesn't escalate things to make her throw hints at meeting up, here're your two options.

1) Break contact completely. Freeze her the fuck out. You're wasting your time if she's not going to meet you, so, get -her- to qualify herself to -you-. Get her wondering if you've met someone else and she's missed her chance, and you might get her to a date. And why not actually get a different date anyway? She's been pretty disrespectful so far. She will either come back to you or she won't, who cares.
2) Go balls out. Tell her you want to see her at (this time) at (this place). If she flakes, or doesn't respond, or sends you some other crap, do NOT reply to her, or send any follow up texts. It can take -days- of ignoring, but eventually, she'll stew over your invite, and more than likely accept it or set up something else with you.

Good luck.
Author:  ItsAlwaysOn [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 12:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She's often texting me but putting off my date requests.
youve become the text buddy, which is ofc lame. youre probably screwed as youve pretty much just been LJBF'd. maybe not as bad, but close. what i would do first is repsond a lot less. i would still try to get her out and then if she blows you off cut off communication for a few days. be fun and playful still, just less available.

what ive done in the past in these situations before is to ask them questions about a girl youre 'seeing'. she can be real or fake. maybe that'll get her attracted/jealous a little bit.

likely a lost cause, but who knows maybe you can turn it around. either way, invest less if shes not going to hang out with you irl.
Author:  Dave Blaze [ Wed Dec 19, 2012 3:03 am ]
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This is what I do......

1.) You ask to chill (Let's get coffee at 7:00)- she dicks
2.) You ask to chill- she dicks (you leave it up to the girl the next time to ask you when you want to chill, hmu when your not busy)

If she hits you up your in, if she doesn't then she's not worth your time AT ALL.
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