PUA Forum :: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner

Literally write yourself a plan of how YOU can improve. This might seem silly but it worked well for me. I wrote out my fields as: intellectually, athletically/health, artistically, other. Then I wrote out activities that could interest ME in each of those fields.

For example:

Intellectually: reading, going and playing at a chess club, reading news, going to an interest club/gathering.

Athletically: gym, jogging, sport club, swimming, hiking, backpacking, yoga

Artistically: museums, art galleries, theater, painting, drawing, playing a musical instrument, going to concerts

Other: traveling, dance classes, cooking, going out to eat, going to a firing range, collecting something

Then I picked what I would like to do. Wrote out goals and a time frame by which I would like to accomplish something in each of those fields. I included career in my list since I'm a business owner and set my own hours. Another important field is Aesthetics which include you improving your wardrobe and keeping your hygiene at a top level. Always be neat. Also the way you present yourself (i.e. posture, voice projection)

Author:	Water Wizard [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 9:39 am ]
Post subject:	Feeling Alien, Complete Loner
Does anyone feel totally alienated from everyone, that they just can't really click with anyone without faking? This has been me for the last few years, and after six months of not leaving the house more than once a fortnight and not feeling lonely, I started to wonder whether I actually want friends, or even a girlfriend. I went and lost my virginity to a prostitute, just to see whether being social could actually offer me anything, and the horrible truth was that it could... It made me feel alive, lifted the numbness, and I was greeted with lots of pain days after because of. I just don't think I'm capable of actually having a girlfriend; bars are just so intimidating, I have to hide so much of myself or else I'll be demonstrating so much negative value, since in reality I'm a complete loser, and I can't connect with anyone anyway, I'm just too alien. I was invited to a party the other month, and it was full of science students; I always thought that I'd be able to connect with more intelligent people, but it didn't happen, and the destruction of that last bit of social hope just destroyed me. I've realised that to achieve social success, that I need to do a lot of work, involving integrating myself into the collective consciousness, conform to it's ways and try to appreciate movies and other important cultural bullshit, but it's hard. I'm also thinking of going to bars and take drugs in the hopefully non-vain hope of helping me connect with some girl, but opening girls is just so nerve-wrecking. Anyone else been in a similar boat?

Author:	puaninja [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 1:36 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner
You're not alone, I can assure you of that. But you are clearly depressed and down on yourself. I realize it's a daunting proposition to become a pua and socialize when it's not something that comes natural, but it's a skillset that you can learn as long as you are willing to put forth effort and apply yourself. I'm going to ask you one question. If you had to work twice as hard in order to get half as much of what everyone else has, would you be wiling to do it?

Author:	Pickwick [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 6:21 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Feeling Alien, Complete Loner
Life isn't easy man, and we all feel lonely at some point or the other. Just can't have the good without the bad. Regarding going out, there are so many things you can do besides going to bars/clubs/parties. Try to organize yourself. Write down things you like and enjoy. This is what I did at one of the lowest points in my life, which helped me out a lot. After you do this, you just gotta go out and do it. Mind you, this was a time when life formed itself into a big black dildo and fucked me in the ass. So I was super depressed and it was tough picking up myself to actually go out and do things. Life is really about just improving yourself. People will come to you naturally when you are on your feet: Quote: Literally write yourself a plan of how YOU can improve. This might seem silly but it worked well for me. I wrote out my fields as: intellectually, athletically/health, artistically, other. Then I wrote out activities that could interest ME in each of those fields. For example: Intellectually: reading, going and playing at a chess club, reading news, going to an interest club/gathering. Athletically: gym, jogging, sport club, swimming, hiking, backpacking, yoga Artistically: museums, art galleries, theater, painting, drawing, playing a musical instrument, going to concerts Other: traveling, dance classes, cooking, going out to eat, going to a firing range, collecting something Then I picked what I would like to do. Wrote out goals and a time frame by which I would like to accomplish something in each of those fields. I included career in my list since I'm a business owner and set my own hours. Another important field is Aesthetics which include you improving your wardrobe and keeping your hygiene at a top level. Always be neat. Also the way you present yourself (i.e. posture, voice projection)

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