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Author:  Apocalyptica [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 6:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYER" ?
Hello guys.

I'll be meeting this HB9 next week. It was kind of hard to get her to meet up with me, but finally it worked out.

My tactics have been one of ignoring her (by not going to her party she invited me (more out of friendliness than really interest, she didn't know me that well).

Also, i have been putting pics on my Facebook of me and my really good looking fuck buddy.

Of course, these pics are her and me arm in arm, which can be seen as just a couple, which we are not.

One of these pics she "liked" on Facebook.

Hence, the following question. If the conversation turns to the point were she might ask about that girl/pic/lovelife/etc, or refer to it, what should I say?

- "She's just a girl, we are sleeping together but we aren't in a relationship" => signals i'm free, but she might think i'm a player
- Ignore it, or say, "oh, that's nothing, just a friend". -> i might lose the preselectoin cause i signal that i don't really "have" her.

Any advice how to convert the preselection i already builded ? How to put it in the right words?

Thanks
Author:  Defy [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 9:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYE
Dude,

all your frames are passive and reactive. What will she say, what will she think, how should I say it... you are overanalyzing.

If a girl is screening you, just give some vague answer, so she doesn't really know if you are serious or messing with her. "Ough, she is my math tutor." or something.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Dec 08, 2012 9:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYE
could probably do that ^.

Or you can just say you guys are casually dating and that it isn't anything serious- which she can interpret whether you guys are fooling around on her own.

And there is no danger in being called a player. It is a sign of interest on the part of the girl. It is a good thing. IF SHE does keep giving you shit, you will have to put on your big boy pants and tell her to cut the shit out or not to see you anymore.


BUT this scenario hasn't happened yet so calm your shit down and live your life rather than having these fantasy scenarios...
Author:  Dave Blaze [ Sun Dec 09, 2012 8:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYE
I have that same problem... As soon as I come up to a girl and be friendly she ''thinks'' I want to do shit with her (possible vibe, but im friendly in a normal way)...or a girl likes me and then calls me out on being a player and talking to all these girls. Dunno what to do about it.
Author:  smashthecrash [ Mon Dec 10, 2012 2:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYE
I'll relate my one little story. There was this HB9 I was FWB with, and had a party with her and this HB7. They both stayed til the very end, til the HB9 got tired and went to my room. The HB7 got the hint and left.

The next night, I had another party and the HB9 wasn't there. While talking to the HB7, I brought it up - "Sorry if you were disappointed last night, but that girl and I are just friends. Well, friends with benefits, but you know." HB7 stayed late again and I f-closed her EASILY. She ended up being a FWB for over 6 months :D

Letting girls know that attractive women want to fuck you, without even being in a relationship, is a big DHV. Just play it off like it's no big deal. In your case, you can just let her assume you two are fucking, but if she asks then be straight up about it. Now, your new girl knows she has competition, and you're golden as a prized man.
Author:  Dave Blaze [ Mon Dec 10, 2012 9:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYE
How bout when you get asked the question how many women you slept with? I always say 10.. But Ive been with over 25.
Author:  smashthecrash [ Mon Dec 10, 2012 10:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Social Preselection: danger for being seen as "the PLAYE
Oh, I usually dodge the number question and make a game out of it. If she really persists though, may as well be straight up, but I'm pretty content with my number (20 at 29y/o).
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