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| Author: | W1lder [ Wed Dec 05, 2012 8:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Hovering between Bf/Friend |
Hi! i'm quite New to this, So i apologize in advance if this post is in the wrong section. I'll try to explain the situation as well as i can.Any kinds of help will be well recieved. I met this girl about 3 months ago, and we really hit it off. We became quite close and we were intimate( haven't had sex with her, but did just about everything else). When we met she had gotten out of a 2-year relationship and din't know where she wanted things to go with me. I was( very) understanding and told her it was Okay for her to take her time, but after a while she started becoming rejective whenever i made any kind of move on her. I asked her straight out if she still liked me, and she did. This is where the drama started. As we were quite close before, i had no problem being a litte intense with her, So i kept reassuring her that i was very taken by her, but she stopped returning those feelings little by little until i finally had enough. (sidenote: whenever i tired of her constantly sending me pictures or texts, she would come back crawling telling me she liked me). Suddenly she telle me she just wants to be friends, i thought about it and Agreed. Problem was that she would't stop texting/sending pictures. I asked her why she's So dependant on having So much contact with me, and i got the usual BS answer. ..she didn't know. I thought it was obvious, So i gave her an ultimatum. It was either all or nothing. She Said she couldn't make the decision, So i ended up making it for her and i cut all contact with her. Later i thought i had been an ass to her So i texted her telling her i was sorry and that we could be friends instead ( i know..biggest blunder ever). Later on, we finally managed to have a normal, fun conversation without Said drama...or So i thought. At some point during the conversation she telle me that i am no longer a candidate for her, cause i "left her" ( the ultimatum). This is where i finally snapped, and i told her that if she was going to continue being an idiot towards someone who cared for her So much, she could go take a hike. Even the next day she was sending me Pictures of mainly crap that i Don't give å rats arse about. i didn't bother returning them and she stopped after å couple of days. A few days went by and i sent her å text asking her how she was doing and now we're back to square one. She sends me crap but i'm trying to be a little more laid-back answering her indifferently. I need some serious help here guys cause Even though she can be a bitch, she's still kinda special. Any advice on how i can get this girl will be much appreciated. Thanks in advance! |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 4:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hovering between Bf/Friend |
You're wasting your time here. The woman used you as a rebound to get out of the sadness of her broken relationship. Now that she has sucked whatever she could have out of the rebound, she's not getting her fill and wants to move on. But at the same time, since she's used to the feelings associated with you which numb the pain/loneliness associated with her past relationship, she is apprehensive about losing the "comfort". Women are not very good with their rational approach and hence resort to the emotional approach, as is clear here (You: Relationship or nothing. Her: indecisive). Take pride in the fact that you're not a passive-aggressive person and simply move on. Also, asking if "we could be something sometime" is a big mistake. Her word means nothing. If she says you can be something today, she FEELS you can be something today and she might very well feel otherwise the very next moment. You need to take the emotional cues instead of asking her for a logical answer. |
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| Author: | W1lder [ Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Hovering between Bf/Friend |
Just received some amazing help. Maybe things might work out if i do shit right. Thanks to Skandi and Pumpington for amazing help! |
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