Have you tried telepathy?

"my game is good" "but how do I attract her"

??

As Wayne Gretzky said: You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

So you want to be able to sit down and talk with someone you have only seen 2 times in 5 years. A girl who must not want to talk to you very badly since she has never contacted you. And you don't want to text/call/email her because something to do with family pride but she lives 2 hours away so you never run into her. Sounds like you are fucked.

Now what would I do, even though I am white? You gotta text her man. I dont give a shit about what your beliefs are or what your family thinks. If you like this girl as much as it sounds, you just gotta stop caring about what other people want and do what you want. Its your life. TEXT her. If you decide to text her, I have a pretty solid example text that is perfect for breaking long silences between 2 people.

As Wayne Gretzky said: You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

I saw her recently and didnt have the chance to approach cuz she was with her fam but she gave me a few glances here and there so I don't know what to make of that.

Probably because you were staring at her... lol...

With everything that's been said the one thing I can think of that hasn't been tackled yet is how much you've changed over the last five years. It's very possible she has as well. Meaning one of two things:

a) she may not be the same girl you fell for when you were 16. Sure she's beautiful but she may also have become someone that you're not interested in intellectually or emotionally anymore

b) she may have outgrown the childishness that enabled her to disregard your culturally sensitive situation. It's very possible that she's now someone that you can text first and she'll keep it in confidence until it grows into something more.

You really will never know until you try. The one piece of advice that I do have with certainty: DO NOT leave a voicemail with your phone number so she'll call you first, wondering who it is. You'll get proof that she called you first but it really won't matter, because that's really creepy. Thinking of the girls that I know, they wouldn't call the number back. If they were worried enough, they'd probably get a male friend or relative to call it instead.

I've been lucky enough to be born in one of the most open-minded Countries in the world and for this reason I apologize that my insight is limited. I do feel for you bro, I really hope this works out for you.

rather than trolling, I'd really like to know your thoughts on this. heard you give quite the advice.

Alright, you have a few solutions. You can make a fake Facebook profile, or use someone else's to message her and on the pretense of being that mutual friend, that you heard [your name] has been trying to get in touch with [her] but couldn't for X reason. You can also use a friend's phone, on the pretense of being that friend. Same thing. That way, you have a legitimate defence in that you weren't the first to contact her. If that doesn't work, I don't know what else will.

But as someone else pointed out, you've barely talked to her in 5 years... How do you know she hasn't forgotten who you are? Or how do you know she has no love interest? I just think you're setting yourself up for a major setback and as humans, we should protect ourselves.