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Author:  sugasuga [ Fri Nov 30, 2012 7:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Girl slept over BUT nothing happened...
I met her through mutual friends, so we've been in the same social circle for about 5 months. Two months ago, I started flirting with her at first she wasn't that receptive, but now we text each other EVERYDAY...she responds right away and initiates text just as much as I do. We smoked together and went out to eat a few times...

Yesterday, I invited her over to my place to smoke and chill (it was like 2AM). It was late and we were high, so she ended up sleeping next to me on my bed, but we didn't hook up. She wasn't hinting or giving me any signs to make a move at all.

Here's my question: Am I just her attention/text buddy or is the mere fact that she agreed to come over to my place at 2AM and agreed to sleep next to me on my bed enough evidence that she wants me? Only reason I think I might be her attention/text buddy is because her ex bf met somebody and shortly after she became more receptive to my flirting and stuff. On a side note she has my name with a smiley face on her phone.
Author:  LouiePUA [ Fri Nov 30, 2012 7:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl slept over BUT nothing happened...
Why the fuck didn't you take initiative? You'll notice it when she doesn't want it. Be the alpha male!

I've had the same thing as you like 4 times before, the girl never took initiative. Ok, maybe once. But the other times I took it and they wanted it.

So next time let her know how you feel.
Author:  Versalis [ Fri Nov 30, 2012 7:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl slept over BUT nothing happened...
No, you weren't wrong to not try to fuck her. If you've never even kissed this chick, the odds of her wanting your dick in her is low. How physical are you with her? If you're not very physical, start touching her a lot more. Tell her you're attracted to her, but not in a needy way. And in the next few times you try to hang out, when you're vibing, get to some more personal topic and go for a kiss. If she rejects you, you have your answer. If she's down with it, you may well be fucking her same night. Certainly not much longer.
Author:  smashthecrash [ Fri Nov 30, 2012 8:22 pm ]
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You'll never know unless you escalate. Do something with her that's a little more fun, go somewhere with her, etc... nothing that screams "date" but get to know each other and work on that kino. So next time you take her back to your place to smoke and chill at night, you can finish escalating in a good location. If she's unreceptive to kino while you're out, then you know where you stand.

There's nothing wrong with having a female friend or two to just have company and sleep next to, as well. You have needs besides sex, don't you? I have a couple platonic friends that I keep kino up and they stay at my place, but I don't escalate simply because I'm not interested in more than a friendship at the time, or they'd make poor logical choices as fuck buddies.

Every wednesday night, I have a friend of mine sleep over, we cuddle and watch movies, play guitar, backrubs, shit like that... reduces my "need to get a girlfriend" mentality. It's funny, because she's more affectionate than my latest FWB. Between the two, it's almost like I have all the benefits of a relationship - without any commitments or responsibilities :)
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Nov 30, 2012 9:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl slept over BUT nothing happened...
I had a rock solid HB9 MILF, stay over last night, without sexy time. Scatterbrain ignored her power bill long enough, they cut her off as they promised. She slept on my couch, I in my bed.

I have fucked her before, and she has winged for me, on numerous occasions.

There was no Pre-escalation, and her body language/demeanor, indicated that to be a fruitless endeavor. Even though there was lots of hints the night prior via text.

Sleeping over is a strong IOI, But it ain't the golden key, certain things must happen first.

The point is: There was no sexual escalation. Unlike us men, a woman usually takes some time warm up. You could say that a woman's sexual energy is like a pot on the stove. It takes some time to warm up the water before boiling.

If you don't heat her up first, there ain't going to be any pussy stew! A you must be the flame.
Author:  sugasuga [ Sat Dec 01, 2012 12:26 am ]
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Fuck this girl is impossible to read. From the clues at hand, u guys think I'm just attention text buddy or someone shes into?
We text everyday for hours and responds right away, she agrees to chill one on one, and she slept on my bes for gods sake. We haven't known each other for awhile so I doubt she sees me as her good friend. In the other hand when other ppl ask about us she says we r just seeing each other and makes it clear that we r not dating. I know u can't really tell from this but with these clues what would u say I am to her
Author:  Versalis [ Sat Dec 01, 2012 3:37 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl slept over BUT nothing happened...
I have no idea what you are. If you don't, I don't know how I can. And honestly, she herself probably isn't sure. What we're telling you is basically the same, though. You need to start getting physical with this girl. You'll have your answer in a few days. If she's into you, you'll be having sex. If she isn't, there shouldn't be much lost. It's very rare for girls to flee from friends because he came onto her. Provided it's in a non-needy/creepy way.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Sat Dec 01, 2012 2:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl slept over BUT nothing happened...
Quote:
Fuck this girl is impossible to read. From the clues at hand, u guys think I'm just attention text buddy or someone shes into?
We text everyday for hours and responds right away, she agrees to chill one on one, and she slept on my bes for gods sake. We haven't known each other for awhile so I doubt she sees me as her good friend. In the other hand when other ppl ask about us she says we r just seeing each other and makes it clear that we r not dating. I know u can't really tell from this but with these clues what would u say I am to her
She is SIMPLE to read, she wants to fuck you. You must lead her to that, once you fuck her soliid, she will be what ever you want her to be!

Now stop being a pussy and take control of this. Or just give me her number, I'll take care of it.
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