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| Author: | Siggs [ Wed Nov 28, 2012 7:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | The friend with benefits... |
Hey guys, Been a while since I posted last, but I always come back to read stories and ask advice from you fellow PUA's. I'm currently in a situation which I could use a little advice for. I started talking to a chick I work with and we hit it off pretty well. We started hooking up right away and everything was looking good. My current situation is shitty because I'm moving out of town in like a month, but I would love a friend with benefit situation for my remainder time here. Here's the problem, a week after we were hooking up on the regular she gets a call from a guy she likes one night, and BOOM the whole situation changes. The next day she was acting different, like not giving me the time of day, change in body language and attitude (almost sad), and she didn't want to hang out anymore. Now I'm not dumb obviously this guy is probably the reason why shes acting weird. I asked her to chill once since then and she declined. What should be my next move? I want to keep hooking up with her, shes cool as shit to be around, if I wasn't leaving so soon I would honestly date this chick. But I don't want to come off needy or give the impression that I'm falling for her or anything. I was thinking maybe FB messaging her or talking to her and just getting her to tell me whats wrong and explain what my intentions are, but I feel like that could be a little up front. Any advice would be appreciated, Thanks! Siggs |
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| Author: | Fly_Swatter [ Wed Nov 28, 2012 7:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The friend with benefits... |
How do you know it's the call that changed it all? It could be you for all you know. Eitherway, it's pretty simple... Do not even think about contacting her. Freeze out and let her come back to you. To get your mind off her, go sarging. Pretty simple. |
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| Author: | Siggs [ Wed Nov 28, 2012 3:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The friend with benefits... |
I understand where your coming from, but it just seems weird how she just changed personality's all of a sudden. I have been kind of freezing her out, I text her on the odd occasion with just some random bullshit, nothing like "hey lets chill." I guess I will continue the freeze out and see if she comes around... |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Wed Nov 28, 2012 5:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The friend with benefits... |
You can be persistent to an extent. But if she doesn't cave then why would you persist for someone who gives you the cold shoulder? If she is just ignoring you move on and meet other women. |
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| Author: | ItsAlwaysOn [ Wed Nov 28, 2012 5:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The friend with benefits... |
Quote: Eitherway, it's pretty simple... Do not even think about contacting her. Freeze out and let her come back to you. To get your mind off her, go sarging. Pretty simple.
exactly.1. dont contact her and wait for her to get back to you. 2. meet and spend time with other girls. if/when she contacts you again, then you can decide how you want to play it at that point. the ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can do at this point is start chasing her and begging for her affection. it will kill whatever attraction she has left for you and make you come across as a needy loser who cant handle a casual fb/fwb relationship. definitely not cool. ideally you wanna stay on the radar as a guy she can casually fuck when shes horny. dont ruin that. also, this just in: girls sometimes are only really with you because theres no better options in their life right now. i know guys dont wanna think about that but its true. she def likes you on some level but also she could just be with you because she wants to get laid. maybe shes really into this new guy, or maybe you did something to fuck up, or maybe shes just going through some personal shit right now, or maybe tons of other things, really who cares? bottom line is shes not feeling it right now, so leave it alone. balls in her court, she'll contact you if shes interested. |
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