Hey guys, it's been awhile. I've been learning a lot and have gotten my own type of style going that fits well with my personality. I am currently in an odd situation and I need some advice on how to approach this and how to avoid, or at least reduce the damage of heading to the friend zone. Here's the situation:
I've been seeing this chick for a couple weeks and I've been escalating pretty well. As soon as I kissed her (and she kissed me back) she told me later that night that we couldn't get into a relationship because she will be moving away when she finishes school next semester and she takes it really seriously blah blah blah. I say that's fine but I keep doing my thing and things continued to progress. So she goes home for Thanksgiving (states away) and I just pretty much leave her be and let her initiate all the texting and calling, telling me she misses me, etc. Things were going fine until the night before Thanksgiving. I guess the reason she put that big block about relationships up right off the bat was because she was waiting to move back and get back with her ex, they have been loosely seeing each other when she goes home and this kept her hopes up and she was banking on this. So this guy contacts her and tells her that he has been dating her ex (she is bi) and whatever I don't know all the details but this shatters the picture she had painted in her head and she feels betrayed and pissed. She tells me this story, which is the first indication of the friend zone, and now we just had this little text conversation:
Her: I'm tired and driving
Me: don't die or I will kick your ass
Her: Of my dead body? My family wouldn't find that very respectful!
Me: I will just let them know who I am and all will be well
Her: haha ok
Me: you don't sound too impressed
Her: after the week I have had I don't trust anything that comes out of a guys mouth
(what the f do I say to that?)
Me:
Her: Reminded me why I date girls
I didn't reply. She is in a really crappy mood right now... hungover, driving hours and hours back to school and her big plan with her ex got destroyed. I know she isn't in the mood to think or deal with anything relationship related right now, but how do I keep myself out of her friend zone? Do I just keep doing what I've been doing? What do I say to her last text? I assume I have to change frames? Should I just cut the whole thing off? I'd rather not we have tons of fun together which is why I like hanging out with her, and she is attractive. The problem is I only have 2-3 more weeks before she goes back home for Christmas break for 2 more weeks. I'm still an AFC need some help!