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| Author: | Verite [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 5:07 am ] |
| Post subject: | Question to all PUA's that are currently/been relationship |
Ok, here is my question gentlemen. I have the tendency to spoil my girlfriends here and there. I like to do it. But I know that if I overdo it. Not only will they expect more and more. But they will probably have less appreciation/value for me. I wanna hear your input on this. On exactly what is the fine line on spoiling your girlfriend. Should it be something done here and there? Lastly on a side note guys. What should I do with my urge to be clingy. I have days that I'm perfectly ok. Then I have intolerable days that it is just so hard to bear. My mind literally races one million miles per second. I've been able to cope with it thus far. However, I wanna do better. Before I would text multiple women etc. So my clinginess would be divided. However, in a relationship it feels wrong.. I don't want to have to solely rely on such a tactic. Another thing that helped me was being productive/busy. But again.. this just felt like a coping mechanism nothing more. And at times it didn't really help much. Thanks in advance guys |
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| Author: | Hijo de Puta [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 5:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Question to all PUA's that are currently/been relationsh |
try some meditation to quite your mind man, ross jefferies recommends some cool breathing exercises designed to help you quite the constant dialogue in your head. And get some hobbies man, dont text her all the time, and FLIRT with girls. you can be faithful but don't get oneitis. Girls always have backups, so should you. if you game other girls you won't get needy cause you will know if she leaves you can get another. |
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| Author: | iwishiwasimportant [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 5:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Question to all PUA's that are currently/been relationsh |
Quote: Ok, here is my question gentlemen. I have the tendency to spoil my girlfriends here and there. I like to do it. But I know that if I overdo it. Not only will they expect more and more. But they will probably have less appreciation/value for me. I wanna hear your input on this. On exactly what is the fine line on spoiling your girlfriend. Should it be something done here and there?
Sounds to me like you need to play poker. You can get your mind fix and be all productive, all the while flirt with teh ladies.
Lastly on a side note guys. What should I do with my urge to be clingy. I have days that I'm perfectly ok. Then I have intolerable days that it is just so hard to bear. My mind literally races one million miles per second. I've been able to cope with it thus far. However, I wanna do better. Before I would text multiple women etc. So my clinginess would be divided. However, in a relationship it feels wrong.. I don't want to have to solely rely on such a tactic. Another thing that helped me was being productive/busy. But again.. this just felt like a coping mechanism nothing more. And at times it didn't really help much. Thanks in advance guys |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 6:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Question to all PUA's that are currently/been relationsh |
Find something you really like to do. Don't do things just to keep busy. You should always be improving yourself no matter if you are seeing ten women or seeing one. Live your life on your own. It is okay to spoil your girl if she is behaving well, nothing wrong with that. Just make it a unpredictable sort of thing, which makes it much funner and better for your relationship overall. You want to have productive life where she would be one wanting to cling onto you. |
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| Author: | GKS [ Tue Nov 20, 2012 7:22 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Question to all PUA's that are currently/been relationsh |
I know what you meant. I'm going through the same thing at the moment. It was quite an transition from gaming multiple chicks at once to commit to just one girl. It was a huge step for me. And after being in a 4 months relationship with this girl, I realized most of the PUA concept doesn't apply really well here. It all comes down to honesty, compromise and passion. I found myself spoiling my GF most of the time, I like to do it but recently I feel more and more as if I was under appreciated, she stopped trying and just took me for granted. For the moment there, I felt like I have lost myself into the relationship so I decided to make some changes. I started to do stuffs that I like instead of what she likes, space out the amount of time I have for her every day and alternating between freezing out and qualifying with a bit of push and pull. The idea is reintroducing the frame that she hasn't completely won me over yet and I can still walk away from her. I can't tell whether if it's working or not at the moment. But I'll keep you posted. |
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