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Author:  Artifact [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 6:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Is she really interested, shit-testing me or BS'ing me?
Hi Guys, I'm hoping some of you have dealt with this kind of thing before and can lend me a guiding hand.

First some context, so you guys can see where I'm coming from. I work in a group of IT support staff which basically means whoever is on shift waits for phone calls from users having problems with their computers and stuff and goes there to sort out the issues.

So, here's the deal: There's this girl at work; cute, engaging, confident-the works. I like her, would like to get to know her better. But here's my problem: ever since we met (about a month ago), she's been the one actively flirting with me and not the other way around. That first time she called our office phone, I was the one on shift that day and I went to her workstation and sorted the problem out. She asked me for my name ( I reluctantly gave it to her) and for my phone number (to which I told her to just call the office line if she had a problem with her system. I had an idea she was talking about my private phone number and for some reason I still can't explain, I felt giving her my number would be the unwise thing to do and so I did not.)

So now every time I see her she gets all flirty with me, in front of her friends, calls me "Artifact, my dear", gives me all this stories about her day, her weekends e.t.c. Four days ago, a friend of her's called the line for some issue and when I went to sort it out I found this girl there also. This time she flat out asked me for my number--my PERSONAL number--right there in front of her friend. I felt on the spot, joked that if she wanted it she could have it but it wouldn't be for free and then went on fixing her friend's computer without giving it a second thought.

Now, two days ago this girl apparently called the office line and asked the guy who was on shift that day if she was talking to me. The guy told her I wasn't on shift that day, so she sounded disappointed and whatever.

So my question is: is she really interested, is she shit-testing me or BS'ing me?
Author:  Andre2807 [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 6:55 pm ]
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Here's a small test. Investment. Or IOI's (Indicators of Interest). If she is investing enough, or showing lots of IOI's. You are in. If not, game her. Tease her. Neg her. Challenge her.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 7:25 pm ]
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Just pursue her and enjoy the chase. Stop asking questions and take action.
Author:  Artifact [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 8:06 pm ]
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@Mr. Assertive
I would, except I still don't know whose chase this is, mine or hers?

@Andre2807
I'd thought on calling her out on her BS(if that's what it is) by coming on real strong. Only problem I saw was it would probably cause her to lose interest if she was seriously interested... (and even now, as I write these words I'm seeing the AFC in me, afraid to make a mistake and lose this girl I've NEVER had. What a chump I am!)
What kind of a challenge can I throw her way?
Author:  Nate The Great [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 8:26 pm ]
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From what I am reading from what you typed, I believe that she is interested in you but is also shit testing you. She is being direct with you with you which is good, this girl seems to be a little bit of a gamer. So here's the deal play a game back with her. Enjoy her flirting with you and keep your cool. Whatever you do, you cannot show her that you are intimidated by her and you cannot show too much interest. I like the fact that you told her that you will not give your number away for free, this presents a challenge to the girl and will keep her interested, that is why she called to see if you were working that shift 4 days ago. She what moves she makes and pay attention to them very carefully and you will know how to make your move with her. But don't get too comfortable because if you do she will end up being bored with you and will show disinterest.

Be like a counter fighter: What they do is fight based off the other person mistakes. One person may try and hit them, and then they block and hit the person that tried to hit them. But if you are just being defensive then you will loose. So take risk and follow the advice that will best help you play and win the game she is trying to run on you.
Author:  Nate The Great [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 8:31 pm ]
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Quote:
@Mr. Assertive
I would, except I still don't know whose chase this is, mine or hers?

@Andre2807
I'd thought on calling her out on her BS(if that's what it is) by coming on real strong. Only problem I saw was it would probably cause her to lose interest if she was seriously interested... (and even now, as I write these words I'm seeing the AFC in me, afraid to make a mistake and lose this girl I've NEVER had. What a chump I am!)
What kind of a challenge can I throw her way?

You will know the challenges to throw her way based off what she does. You did it before when you saw what move she was making and you told her that you will not give your number away for free.. and then you went to fix the other girls computer, you will know what to do. Play off of her and go from there.
Author:  Artifact [ Tue Nov 13, 2012 8:34 pm ]
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Thanks Nate The Great, I'll try to come up with challenges I can throw her way, see what kind of reaction I get.
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