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| Author: | NiceGuy85 [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 6:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Help! Possible Oneitis |
So first a little bio about me: I'm 27, tall, athletic, good looking, good career. I was in a LTR from the age of 21 - 26 and before that I looked into PUA material but never got any field experience. I tend to attract alot of women but I rarely make a move on them unless if I am intoxicated. I've been always perceived as the nice guy and I think that is one of my main problems. So last weekend, I went up to Montreal with a few friends to party for halloween. On the first night we were having some issues getting into the club as the club had an issue with us being 5 guys, so I noticed an HB8 and her girlfriends waiting in line aswell so I talked to them and told them our situation and to put us on their guestlist. They were cool and we introduced ourselves but the bouncer still didnt let us in. The HB8 apologized and went inside. Then luckly we had a friend who knew someone so we were able to get in. Inside, I ran into the HB8 and she was shocked that we got in so I teased her on it and she gave me some IOI's telling me how she could tell I wasn't from the city and that I'm hot. I didn't want to act like I was stuck on her so I said I had to go find my friends and walked away then later I found her with her friends and took some pictures with her and danced and started just chatting and at the end of the night we all headed out at the same time, and we were waiting for our friends to get out of the club and I talked her into coming back to the hotel to party to chill and my friend hooked up with one of her friends so it all worked out. We got to the hotel and got her in bed but she was tired and would only make out and wouldn't even me let me feel her up and she ended up falling a sleep then had to go b/c her friend had early morning work. When she left, I noticed she left her earrings back so I sent her a text and told her if she wants them then she is going to have to come see me to pick them up but she asked if I could give it to me friend as he was going to meet up with her friend. I just played it and was like "you dont want me to come drop it off for you?" and she was like you can but I am going to be studying all day. The night before she wanted to meet up in the morning so I got a little annoyed by her asking for me to just give it to my friend so didnt really txt her much. We ended up staying that night and meeting up with them at another party, at the party she gave me a hug but was acting a little distant and i thought maybe she just wanted to dance with her friends so I didnt try and be aggressive and she was a little intoxicated. When she was isolated I tried to talk to her and offered her a drink but she said she was fine and just continued to dance so I got annoyed and just danced with my friends then like an hour before the club closed she started dancing with some random average dude so I just pretended not to care and do my own thing and talk to other girls. She danced with the guy till the end of the night and my friend was planning to take her friend back to the hotel so HB8 came back and i gave her earrings and she said thanks and I pretended like I didnt care about what went down. Then we went to grab some food and she starts feeding me fries...then she was showin another friend a photo on her phone and it was her Facebook profile pic which was of me and her from the other night...... so at this point I got confused and we were about to leave and she got in cab with other friends and her friend stayed with my friend and came back to the hotel. I was a little intoxicated and got desperate and ended up texting her being needy and asking her to come to the hotel and she said no and that she has class in the morning and she is already on the way home. So I did something that I wouldn't do normally and got all needy and asked her "if she was upset with me" and she said "no" and I told her that "I like to try and understand women" lol and she didnt reply so I left it at that. I felt like an idiot the next day so i tried to cover it up and I sent her a text blaming my friends saying they took my phone and sent some stupid txt and to ignore it. She just replied with "if I made it home?" and to make sure I sounded real, I replied with asking her to tell me what my friends said as I think they might have deleted the texts. She didnt reply to this so the next day I just sent a simple txt saying "Hi" and she replied with "Hi". So i just asked her if she was studying away and if she can send me some pics from the weekend. she said "oui oui" and i just said "english please" and told her i just messed up my back at the gym. That was tuesday and I still havent heard back from her. I didn't add her to facebook but I looked her up and noticed that she still has my picture up as her profile picture? Should I just drop her completely or what do you guys suggest? I got other girls I talk to but I think b/c I failed with this girl that i'm still thinking about her.. I'm not trying to make her a LTR but I want to keep in touch with her so the times I do go up to her city I can see her. |
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| Author: | NiceGuy85 [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 9:10 pm ] |
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Bad idea to send another text ? |
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| Author: | Don Horneone [ Sun Nov 04, 2012 1:21 pm ] |
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I think the best thing you could do now is send her a message on Facebook saying you've just (note, JUST) noticed this profile pic and how she's using your image without permission and how she should pay you royalties for every day she has you on her profile. This would be your best way to create a frame where you have value instead of being this guy who's always worrying about upsetting her. If she then just takes the pic down, you know she's not interested. To be honest, it sounds like she's not interested and your "possible oneitis" thing is a bit silly. You don't sound like you're really that bothered about this girl if you're being honest, you've just latched onto her because she showed you some small amount of interest and you're clinging on for dear life. |
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| Author: | NiceGuy85 [ Sun Nov 04, 2012 4:41 pm ] |
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I actually never added her on Facebook. I did send her a small txt around 8pm to ask her how her weekend was going and she responded with great and that she on her way to bake some cupcakes. I tried to be playful and said "I didn't know you were a chef ? When do I get to taste these cupcakes?" She replied with "Ahhh not a chef, but I like to bake  ". I haven't txt her back since then.
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| Author: | Plutoman [ Sun Nov 04, 2012 5:04 pm ] |
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Girls I find are extraordinarily good at reading people. Yes, through texts, too. She probably knew exactly what went on when you tried to cover it up. I'm a big fan of text game, but really - when you send a simple text, "Hi", you come off as completely uninteresting. Give a real opener, say something that will make her smile (not compliments, but teasing, phasing into flirty). There's several threads floating around with ideas. Make her want to reply to you, not just feel obligated to reply to you. If you want to deal with text game, keep it light and playful at all times - make it fun, not a hassle. She should be looking forward to your texts. You made a few mistakes prior to that, but it seems like you realize them at the least. Don't apologize for anything, don't bring it up. That's all I can say off the top of my head with any sense of certainty, though. |
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| Author: | r1cking [ Sat Nov 10, 2012 6:06 pm ] |
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I agree with Plutoman. She probably knew it was you all along. Girls are very smart. But that's ok, don't worry about it and don't apologize. I've experience similar situations. Now to get back to your questions... "Should I just drop her completely" - I say NO. Keep in touch. "What do you guys suggest?" - Don't be too pushy. that does not attract any girl. Try to be genuinely interested in her hobbies/life and when you communicate with her try to be flirty. From your description she seems like the type of girl that wants whats not hers or that is hard to get. She started giving you "special" attention when you started to completely ignore her (fries part). Ignoring is a good strategy, but you ignored her because your where upset. Use that a strategic tool! and keep you eyes on the goal! So keep in touch by messaging and next time your in town try to meet her up, talk to her but don't be all over, try to be distant/ignore her when in group. socialize with her friends! Then when your alone with her dancing or drinking, give her your full attention and do your move. I'm far from an expert but that's what I would do. PS: I recognize myself in your story. My profile is same, nice guy and LTR's. We should hit TO streets together one day. Check PM. |
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