I’m a dude who loves hanging out with women for nights or short periods of times: I love watching them, listening to them, tasting their skin, getting a glimpse of who they are and why they are like that, and eventually becoming them for a moment.

Honestly, (and this is the point of the thread), when I’m kissing or am in bed with a girl, I feel like I’m doing them (other than myself too, obviously) quite a gift. What I mean is, I love seeing joy in their face, I love their smiles and I feel honored when they open their souls to me with no trace of fear.

When I think about it, though, I have some perplexities: I know a kiss is just a kiss, and a ONS is just a ONS. They are not magical pills with the power of making any girl happier, neither I've got any power to decide what is absolutely "better" for them, so I'm not sure I can really leave one "better than I found her".

After all, I have little desire for fat/ugly girls, and I’ve only ever tried to get close to girls which I really liked. That’s why I’m starting to think that my “good” intentions may be some sort of covering in order to hide and sublimate my egoistical desires. Which makes me feel not so good since I would like to be a kind person before everything else.

I’ve always stated my intentions before closing any girl, but sometimes I generated pain since they expected something more despite me not promising long-lasting love (which I don’t know if I will be able to feel anyway).

What do you think? Do you think desire for their happiness can guide your path as a PUA, or should PUA be considered just fucking girls without trying to find a higher meaning in your actions?