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Author:  Criss hell [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 1:05 am ]
Post subject:  Need urgent help about this text ,plz Help!

Hey guys,
I met this hb 8 on Saturday night, She was pretty interested in me and she is new to the city.We exchange number we had few texts on Sunday and on Monday, these are the texts around 8 pm:

ME : Hey, how was your day so far?
Hb(after 20 mins) : I am doing great blah blah... u?

At this point I wanted to make the first call to talk to her so I waited for 15 mins but after calling her there was no answer.So I texted back:

ME: doing great , call me.

So around 11:30 pm she texted back:

HB:Sorry been driving the past 2 hours :(

So it's been 1 day and I don't want to lose time since the attraction I think goes away but I don't know what to do right now, should I call or text or should I wait?
I don't want to fuck it up.
Thank you guys!

Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 1:09 am ]
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"women know how to drive :p??"

Author:  Criss hell [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 2:19 am ]
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Quote:
"women know how to drive :p??"
Lol yeah driving for 2 hours...
Obviously it was a excuse not to call me back for any reason.
But since she gave me a excuse I think she is interested.
But I have no idea what to do now. Any help?

Author:  NorthBoy [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 3:21 am ]
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First of all, your first text is the kind of text you want to avoid. It's the typical boring text that AFC send. Sorry to be rude but at least my point is clear :wink: . When you text a new girl, you want to generate the same feelings to her that she felt when she was with you. Let's say you two talked about snowboard, you can open her by texting something like "Hey I wish we were doing snowboard right now! You could teach me how to do a backflip :D ". You can probably find something better, but anyways you probably get the point.

Second of all, IMHO you made a mistake by saying "call me" after she failed to answer your call. It seems needy to me. If you had said "doing great, call me" WITHOUT calling her previously there you would have had the right frame because you show that you're the one who leads instead of asking her to call you.

Personally, I think that, if you're scared to mess it up by texting, you should limit your texting/calling by only using it to set up a meeting. I hope it helps!

Author:  Criss hell [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 3:40 am ]
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Quote:
First of all, your first text is the kind of text you want to avoid. It's the typical boring text that AFC send. Sorry to be rude but at least my point is clear :wink: . When you text a new girl, you want to generate the same feelings to her that she felt when she was with you. Let's say you two talked about snowboard, you can open her by texting something like "Hey I wish we were doing snowboard right now! You could teach me how to do a backflip :D ". You can probably find something better, but anyways you probably get the point.

Second of all, IMHO you made a mistake by saying "call me" after she failed to answer your call. It seems needy to me. If you had said "doing great, call me" WITHOUT calling her previously there you would have had the right frame because you show that you're the one who leads instead of asking her to call you.

Personally, I think that, if you're scared to mess it up by texting, you should limit your texting/calling by only using it to set up a meeting. I hope it helps!
Thank you for the reply.
I have to clear some points:
All of my actions were based on what I read from PUA forum especially the calling part and believe me 80% won't call you if you text them to call us.
Also, I cut the first part of the texts which were based on our meeting and it was not boring and I tried to avoid the texting part as much as possible(AKA cut the bullshit.)
We had a agreement to see each other again on the night we met.So my goal was sending a typical text on the second day of texting, make sure she is near the phone and call her to set up a date and you know the rest.
I think she was somewhere or with someone so she didn't feel calling me back or answering.
But I want to know the best thing I can do NOW to avoid looking needy and also not losing her interest and attraction.

Author:  HeavyRota8tion [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 4:05 am ]
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Quote:
Quote:
First of all, your first text is the kind of text you want to avoid. It's the typical boring text that AFC send. Sorry to be rude but at least my point is clear :wink: . When you text a new girl, you want to generate the same feelings to her that she felt when she was with you. Let's say you two talked about snowboard, you can open her by texting something like "Hey I wish we were doing snowboard right now! You could teach me how to do a backflip :D ". You can probably find something better, but anyways you probably get the point.

Second of all, IMHO you made a mistake by saying "call me" after she failed to answer your call. It seems needy to me. If you had said "doing great, call me" WITHOUT calling her previously there you would have had the right frame because you show that you're the one who leads instead of asking her to call you.

Personally, I think that, if you're scared to mess it up by texting, you should limit your texting/calling by only using it to set up a meeting. I hope it helps!
Thank you for the reply.
I have to clear some points:
All of my actions were based on what I read from PUA forum especially the calling part and believe me 80% won't call you if you text them to call us.
Also, I cut the first part of the texts which were based on our meeting and it was not boring and I tried to avoid the texting part as much as possible(AKA cut the bullshit.)
We had a agreement to see each other again on the night we met.So my goal was sending a typical text on the second day of texting, make sure she is near the phone and call her to set up a date and you know the rest.
I think she was somewhere or with someone so she didn't feel calling me back or answering.
But I want to know the best thing I can do NOW to avoid looking needy and also not losing her interest and attraction.
Your texting style is boring as hell and doesnt distinguish you from others, unless she has major attraction to you already.

Author:  Criss hell [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 4:22 am ]
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HeavRotattion, buddy as I said I am trying to avoid texting. I don't want to text, I hate it. I think it's a waste of time and energy.
So to be honest she was kinda DTF that night but didn't happen since we were not in a right time and place.
She gave me major IOIs/compliments and I think she is inserted otherwise she didn't give excuse not calling me back she could have ignored me. Am I wrong?

Author:  BITmixit [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 4:47 am ]
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Just reopen, pretty obvious here tbh.

I also hate texting, I try not to use it that much but girls fucking love it. Does my nut in. To be honest if you don't text a girl that has attraction/likes you you get the standard fucking

"You don't text me enough" bullshit which is worse then actual texting.

Author:  Criss hell [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 5:14 am ]
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Quote:
Just reopen, pretty obvious here tbh.

I also hate texting, I try not to use it that much but girls fucking love it. Does my nut in. To be honest if you don't text a girl that has attraction/likes you you get the standard fucking

"You don't text me enough" bullshit which is worse then actual texting.
Thank you for the answer. The reason I made a thread for it is that it's gonna happen again and again for me and probably for others.
Obviously, I have to reopen and probably not to call. I have to text and say something. But my question is that should I wait for a day to text again or not?
The problem is her losing interest after a while( I was kinda direct and we had the vibe of having sex) vs looking needy if text her everyday
So I think the good plan is waiting one day with no texting and text her again tomorrow noon or something like that. Any better idea?

Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 6:23 am ]
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Quote:
Quote:
"women know how to drive :p??"
Lol yeah driving for 2 hours...
Obviously it was a excuse not to call me back for any reason.
But since she gave me a excuse I think she is interested.
But I have no idea what to do now. Any help?
edit, just kidding

reopen her with something that draws her into your life, offers value, and doesn't require a response

Author:  LD [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 8:16 am ]
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Ok,

its not all that hard. You leave her alone for a couple of days, then you call her on an evening, but not a friday evening nor a saterday evening, but sometime in the week, after work. You call her. If she picks up you say: hey, its me, i want to see you again. where and when?

If she doesnt pick up the phone, leave a voicemail saying the same message. If you have done that, the balls is in her camp. If you is as as attracted as you say, she will text/call you back for a meet up. If not, NEXT!!!! And if i was you, i wouldnt wait until she responds. Go see other girls as well. As of now you dont have any responsibilities towards each other anyway. Go nuts and make yourself happy.

Always with the stupid texts and the fear of losing attraction. That is the whole problem TBH. Fear of losing attraction, fear of losing her. An AFC is afraid for losing whatever. Therefore he needs to make sure that it doesnt happen by all means possible. This makes for a needy demeanor. You should be confident that the attraction is there and then just go for what it is what you want.

cheers and good luck.

Author:  NorthBoy [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 5:18 pm ]
Post subject: 

Quote:
Quote:
Just reopen, pretty obvious here tbh.

I also hate texting, I try not to use it that much but girls fucking love it. Does my nut in. To be honest if you don't text a girl that has attraction/likes you you get the standard fucking

"You don't text me enough" bullshit which is worse then actual texting.
Thank you for the answer. The reason I made a thread for it is that it's gonna happen again and again for me and probably for others.
Obviously, I have to reopen and probably not to call. I have to text and say something. But my question is that should I wait for a day to text again or not?
The problem is her losing interest after a while( I was kinda direct and we had the vibe of having sex) vs looking needy if text her everyday
So I think the good plan is waiting one day with no texting and text her again tomorrow noon or something like that. Any better idea?
Do you see why I tell you to generate the same emotions that she felt whe she was with you? If she was DTF, you must get her mind something physical! It could be so many things. Obv now you'll have to stop texting for at least 1 day and then please reopen with something that will put her in the good state of mind

Author:  HeavyRota8tion [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 6:36 pm ]
Post subject: 

Quote:
Ok,

its not all that hard. You leave her alone for a couple of days, then you call her on an evening, but not a friday evening nor a saterday evening, but sometime in the week, after work. You call her. If she picks up you say: hey, its me, i want to see you again. where and when?

If she doesnt pick up the phone, leave a voicemail saying the same message. If you have done that, the balls is in her camp. If you is as as attracted as you say, she will text/call you back for a meet up. If not, NEXT!!!! And if i was you, i wouldnt wait until she responds. Go see other girls as well. As of now you dont have any responsibilities towards each other anyway. Go nuts and make yourself happy.

Always with the stupid texts and the fear of losing attraction. That is the whole problem TBH. Fear of losing attraction, fear of losing her. An AFC is afraid for losing whatever. Therefore he needs to make sure that it doesnt happen by all means possible. This makes for a needy demeanor. You should be confident that the attraction is there and then just go for what it is what you want.

cheers and good luck.
Fear of NOT losing something will ironically lead to losing it.

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