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Author:  TheOnlyTaylorEver [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 12:49 am ]
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I just got friendzoned. I did kino and we made out a lot but any time I tried to stick my hand down her pants she'd stop me and say she wanted to take it slow with me, I said I was perfectly fine with that cause I legitimately liked her. After hanging out for a month she friendzoned me. I found out today from a friend that there was another guy. I feel that if I would have fucked her she wouldn't have friendzoned me, so how do I respond when a girl denies me sex?
Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 12:56 am ]
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"My penis is upset. The night is still young, I'm literally going to call another girl to come fuck me. You can fucking leave now, my penis is extremely disappointed."
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 2:20 am ]
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The reason that LMR might happen is because you fail to generate enough comfort which is why she slapped you with the take it slow.

But besides that, you will have to push pull the girl into wanting to sleep with you. Make out and then stop. Make out again and then stop. She will miss your affection and attention after each takeaway. Make her part of her own seduction, tell her you can't help yourself. If she gives verbal "we shouldn't do this" or "I don't know you", just give her the old cliche Yes, I know this is bad but it feels so good frame.
Author:  Thessius [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 3:10 am ]
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Yo Mr. Assertive, so you wouldn't recommend saying anything as blunt as what Vietnameseprodigy said?
Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 2:47 pm ]
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bro when I get denied sex in a way where I can't plow through the resistance

I let her know I have abundance

And I tell her to fucking leave.

Adapt this abundance mindset brah
Author:  vicparkguy83 [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 3:56 pm ]
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If I meet a chick and there's a clear opportunity to have sex but she turns me down, then I will NOT initiate contact. If she initiates contact, I just act pretty disinterested at first, this will put her on the back foot and she'll think she has to do something extra to keep me in her life.

And if I do give her a second chance, it is my place or hers, not coffee not drinks not bowling, my place or hers. She gets the picture.
Author:  AdamThomas [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 4:28 pm ]
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The reason that LMR might happen is because you fail to generate enough comfort which is why she slapped you with the take it slow.
Attraction/arousal > comfort. I've fucked girls 10 minutes after meeting them, comfort isn't as important as a lot of people make out.

When I'm denied sex I will usually persist. I remember the last time a girl gave me that. We were kissing and she kept pulling my hand away when I tried to go for her pussy. She said she wanted to take it slow because she didn't want to seem "easy". I (calmy) told her that I thought this was bullshit, I reassured her that I would want to see her again, that I don't judge girls like that etc. but what I think was the most important thing was the way I turned her on.

I started telling her what I wanted to do to her, and told her that I was so turned on (which will turn her on if she likes you enough to kiss you). Being good at dirty talk is very helpful. Once you get her horny enough her logical mind goes out of the window and the resistance stops. I had this girl go from not wanting it to pretty much begging me for it.
Author:  TheOnlyTaylorEver [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 4:58 pm ]
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I like the idea of stopping during the make out, whats the reason you tell her for stopping it though?
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 5:57 pm ]
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The reason that LMR might happen is because you fail to generate enough comfort which is why she slapped you with the take it slow.
Attraction/arousal > comfort. I've fucked girls 10 minutes after meeting them, comfort isn't as important as a lot of people make out.

When I'm denied sex I will usually persist. I remember the last time a girl gave me that. We were kissing and she kept pulling my hand away when I tried to go for her pussy. She said she wanted to take it slow because she didn't want to seem "easy". I (calmy) told her that I thought this was bullshit, I reassured her that I would want to see her again, that I don't judge girls like that etc. but what I think was the most important thing was the way I turned her on.

I started telling her what I wanted to do to her, and told her that I was so turned on (which will turn her on if she likes you enough to kiss you). Being good at dirty talk is very helpful. Once you get her horny enough her logical mind goes out of the window and the resistance stops. I had this girl go from not wanting it to pretty much begging me for it.
Of course every girl is different and it may take less to get them into bed, so calibrate accordingly. For one night lays have to ramp up the sexual tension and the attraction so she knows the deal, so I agree with on some level
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 6:07 pm ]
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I like the idea of stopping during the make out, whats the reason you tell her for stopping it though?

You know how girls try to frame it as you being the sexual aggressor? You turn the frame against her. You kiss her and tell her that you have to stop because you guys shouldn't be doing this or she is turning you on so much. Like the previous poster said, talk dirty to her and tell her the things that will happen if you guys keep going down this road. Have an erotic storytelling time session ;)
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Sat Oct 27, 2012 6:38 pm ]
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Getting laid with consistency has 3 easy steps:

1. Attraction - She should be attracted to you. Remember attraction is not just about looks but about how you make her feel.

2. Connection - It can be a deep connection or simply a moment, but a connection is as simple as paying attention to her. This builds trust and thus compliance.

3. Sexual Tension/Escalation - Making her want sex more than you is the easiest way to get laid. If you start trying to finger her and she backs you off, aim to turn her on more. Apologize not for you wanting her but for disrespecting her. Tell her you don't want to have sex, you just want to please her, make her feel good and before you know it you'll be fucking her because she'll be asking you to.

Any one area can make the two other areas better. If you have the Attraction and Connection -which if you were making out with a relationship means you had both- then all you need is sexual tension. Here is an article by Warpedmindless I really enjoy http://realnaturalseduction.wordpress.c ... ion-guide/ and here is a thread on shock and awe (cieran's) that can help as well shock-and-awe-technique-by-ciaran-not-a ... +shock+awe

Adam was spot on, persistence and sexual tension. He turned her on.

Some Keys:

-Women want and enjoy sex as much as men
-Give her the sex she instinctively needs
-Women worry about the slut reputation -Anti-Slut Defense
-Make her want sex more than you through sexual tension - > arousal
-Persistence is important remember there is a difference between "No" and "Not yet" (one study said people need to go through 7 "no"s to get to a yes)
-"Not yet" is a lot sooner than you think
-Sex isn't that big an ordeal

Just my 2 cents...

Peace and Love,

Vic
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