I am wondering how is the best way to know if your being gamed,

If you find your doing shit for them without sexual reward, your being gamed!

Ignore her immediately. Be emotionally distanced, and even arrogant/cocky, incredibly slick, laid back, but totally bad ass.

yeah thats what i think, however i do like her as a friend, she is more like a bloke than a girl when it comes to interests.
I just like knowing where i stand with people, regardless i am learning a lot from her

haha thats true
On a side note, what i find kind of depressing and boring, is how social dynamics are so predictable, there isn't any true substance, or people valuing each other based on their character, it all comes down to approaches. hmm oh well

People do value each other based on character, but how would you expect someone to know the quality of your character after having met them in a bar ten minutes ago? Go up to a girl and be like, "Hi, I'm Jim. Did you know that I don't cheat on girlfriends and I donate money to help starving kids in Africa? You can trust and confide in me, I'm a good guy."

Also, only people with good character value people with character. Bad people don't give a shit either way. Not saying most people are bad, but a lot of people in the gen x, y, and z generations have a different set of morals, and not necessarily good ones. It is sad that a lot of these tricks and tools of social dynamics are just a perversion of how people should behave an interact, but it is what it is unfortunately.