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| Author: | freedurk182 [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 3:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | the girl from work. how to proceed? |
i posted last night, but woke up this morning without the same conviction. i always seem to get to this point with a girl i actually WANT. i get "stuck" and dont know if pushing will come off as moving too fast, or if backing off will get me friendzoned. i work in retail, and that is where we know eachother from. ive already fucked a girl from there (she is a loner and doesnt talk to many people, so im not afraid that she has told anyone or many, which could stiffle my chances with other girls, or adversely UP them), but this one girl has had my absent attention for a while now. I have decided to take it slow from the begining.....just talking to her sporadically, getting her comfortable with me, etc.... i number closed a week and a half ago after i had us meet for break, then have been texting her every couple of days until now. ive been keeping the texts breif and jovial. i admit i havent been very sexual at all, but have been focusing on making her laugh, which i have been doing fine with. anyway, we were both at work the other day, and we were texting back and forth for a little while (she has never texted me first, but always responds....sometimes immediatly, sometimes after ten minutes. we have only texted probably four times since i got her number. four "sessions", not actual texts) but then i felt like i was doing too much pushing after she didnt answer one of my questions (just the vibe i got from myself.), so i froze out and havent contacted her since. that was two days ago, and she was the last to send a text. now, im just "stuck". do i keep pushing, and ask her out, or do i fall back some, and wait? i always seem to fuck things up at this stage because the fine line between pushing too much and not enough beconmes blurry to me. she isnt the only girl that i talk to, and i get laid every other day (granted, with a girl im not very into), but she has my focus--its almost like oneitis without her being the only one. how should i proceed from here? i felt absoulutely fine previous to our last texts, and i felt like i had things under control, but now im thinking about her too damn much, which i wasnt doing before. advice, please. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 3:54 pm ] |
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What you did right was focusing on building rapport before pushing too hard for a date. But you've done several things wrong. You are too much in your head, you are developing oneitus, and you are afraid to actually ask this girl out. |
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| Author: | freedurk182 [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 4:33 pm ] |
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you are absolutley right. and i know it. im just gonna bite the bullet and text her to see if shes available, then call her and ask her out. fuckin girls. |
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| Author: | freedurk182 [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 4:44 pm ] |
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it wasnt so much that i was AFRAID to ask her out though. i was just afraid that it might be the wrong TIME to. like, keep going slow, or jump in right now and ask? when do i know when the time is right? |
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