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Author:  rflook [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 4:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
Hi,

Hoping someone can give me some quick help with text game.

Been out with this girl a few times and not really escalated properly with her until the end of the last date we went on. She is interested but need to get this right to ensure I don't get put in the friend zone, which I fear is something I am teetering on the edge of

Here is the last set of texts from today

Me: how was you sat night? You as hanging as you expected to be?
Her: not quite as bad as em who compared her hangover to being strung out on heroin :/
Me: ouch. Feeling fairly wonky myself today. Ended up at a roller disco las night and then an impromptu house party at mine until 5am. Popcorn or crisps?
Her: haha, awsumno. Crisps without a doubt
Me: salt and vinegar or ready salted
Her: s and v
Me: just in time thanks
Her: are you playing random text roulette?

And that is where I have left it at the moment, feel like I should reply but can't think of anything other than something slightly witty and then to ask her about the random text roulette game she is talking about (genuinely no idea what she is talking about).

But that option seems a bit lame and I would like to hook her in a little bit more, ideally to get her on another date or more preferable would be to get her round to mine for 'dinner'.

Anyone got any suggestions on how/where I should take this?

Cheers
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 5:38 pm ]
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you are aware that you don't have to respond to every text she sends...I personally don't acknowledge text that I feel don't deserve a response. What i would do is change the route the conversation is going. Time for you to drop the act and get to business: in this case setting up that date.
Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 6:20 pm ]
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this conversation is just gay and weird
Author:  detox75 [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 7:01 pm ]
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Time for you to drop the act and get to business: in this case setting up that date.
+1

Trying to raise attraction via text, especially when you already have credibility and rapport, is silly at best. Knock off the text game.
Author:  rflook [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 8:54 pm ]
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this conversation is just gay and weird
Why so?

On another note I understand that I don't need to respond to every text she sends and yes I agree that I need to set up another date. I suppose what I am 'worried' about is that I don't have any free time for ages to be able to see her and so I want to keep rapport going to an extent.
Author:  gonzalez7 [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 10:25 pm ]
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this conversation is just gay and weird
lol
Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 11:41 pm ]
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this conversation is just gay and weird
Why so?

On another note I understand that I don't need to respond to every text she sends and yes I agree that I need to set up another date. I suppose what I am 'worried' about is that I don't have any free time for ages to be able to see her and so I want to keep rapport going to an extent.
things were going fine until you said salt and vinegar.... like what are you trying to accomplish by playing these "or" games?
Author:  Warped Mindless [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 12:25 am ]
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Cut the shit and ask her to hang out.
Author:  SexAddict911 [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 3:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
Quote:
Hi,

Hoping someone can give me some quick help with text game.

Been out with this girl a few times and not really escalated properly with her until the end of the last date we went on. She is interested but need to get this right to ensure I don't get put in the friend zone, which I fear is something I am teetering on the edge of

Here is the last set of texts from today

Me: how was you sat night? You as hanging as you expected to be?
Her: not quite as bad as em who compared her hangover to being strung out on heroin :/
Me: ouch. Feeling fairly wonky myself today. Ended up at a roller disco las night and then an impromptu house party at mine until 5am. Popcorn or crisps?
Her: haha, awsumno. Crisps without a doubt
Me: salt and vinegar or ready salted
Her: s and v
Me: just in time thanks
Her: are you playing random text roulette?

And that is where I have left it at the moment, feel like I should reply but can't think of anything other than something slightly witty and then to ask her about the random text roulette game she is talking about (genuinely no idea what she is talking about).

But that option seems a bit lame and I would like to hook her in a little bit more, ideally to get her on another date or more preferable would be to get her round to mine for 'dinner'.

Anyone got any suggestions on how/where I should take this?

Cheers
You need to state your interest in her, your desire. This can be done easily and can be worked into any conversation. What's important is that you make the conscious effort.

Here is an example of how you could of replied in that particular text convo:

Her: are you playing random text roulette?

YOU: What's text roulette? If it involves you + me and any kissing, hugging and touching. I'm definitely! game to play :D ( it really doesn't matter what you say, as long as you dictate the tone with sexual interest in her)

See how she responds, if she takes it well or even returns the flirtatious tone, simply escalate from there. Keep a sexual flirtatious tone, set up another meet.

Good luck.
Author:  rflook [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 11:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
Quote:

You need to state your interest in her, your desire. This can be done easily and can be worked into any conversation. What's important is that you make the conscious effort.

Here is an example of how you could of replied in that particular text convo:

Her: are you playing random text roulette?

YOU: What's text roulette? If it involves you + me and any kissing, hugging and touching. I'm definitely! game to play :D ( it really doesn't matter what you say, as long as you dictate the tone with sexual interest in her)

See how she responds, if she takes it well or even returns the flirtatious tone, simply escalate from there. Keep a sexual flirtatious tone, set up another meet.

Good luck.
Appreciated and my goal is to set up another meet but I am slightly wary of pushing to hard and too fast with this girl, my ultimate goal with her is not for sex, I think there could be more to it than that with her.

How about (based on Sexaddict911's idea)

What the hell is text roulette? If it involves you and me going out on Monday then I'm definitely game :-D
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 2:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
Quote:
Quote:

You need to state your interest in her, your desire. This can be done easily and can be worked into any conversation. What's important is that you make the conscious effort.

Here is an example of how you could of replied in that particular text convo:

Her: are you playing random text roulette?

YOU: What's text roulette? If it involves you + me and any kissing, hugging and touching. I'm definitely! game to play :D ( it really doesn't matter what you say, as long as you dictate the tone with sexual interest in her)

See how she responds, if she takes it well or even returns the flirtatious tone, simply escalate from there. Keep a sexual flirtatious tone, set up another meet.

Good luck.
Appreciated and my goal is to set up another meet but I am slightly wary of pushing to hard and too fast with this girl, my ultimate goal with her is not for sex, I think there could be more to it than that with her.

How about (based on Sexaddict911's idea)

What the hell is text roulette? If it involves you and me going out on Monday then I'm definitely game :-D

If you are one of those guys who likes to go on a shit load of dates then more power to ya. Sure, your ultimate goal might not be sex, but you should always push for it (and back off a bit if she isn't totally ready). I am just saying, might as well have sex with her if you can and then you can decide if you want to spend more of your time with her. Time is valuable and you aren't doing her a favor by not having sex with her.
Author:  rflook [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 2:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
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If you are one of those guys who likes to go on a shit load of dates then more power to ya. Sure, your ultimate goal might not be sex, but you should always push for it (and back off a bit if she isn't totally ready). I am just saying, might as well have sex with her if you can and then you can decide if you want to spend more of your time with her. Time is valuable and you aren't doing her a favor by not having sex with her.
Yep I kind of see where you are coming from, just get this vibe that if I push with this one too much she will cheese it (run away). Some girls it is fine to do this with, I'm just not getting that vibe from her.

How about a slight tweak:

What the hell is random text roulette. If it involves you and me spending some quality time together instead of a rushed snog at the end of the evening then I'm definitely game :-)
Author:  rflook [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 2:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
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If you are one of those guys who likes to go on a shit load of dates then more power to ya. Sure, your ultimate goal might not be sex, but you should always push for it (and back off a bit if she isn't totally ready). I am just saying, might as well have sex with her if you can and then you can decide if you want to spend more of your time with her. Time is valuable and you aren't doing her a favor by not having sex with her.
Yep I kind of see where you are coming from, just get this vibe that if I push with this one too much she will cheese it (run away). Some girls it is fine to do this with, I'm just not getting that vibe from her.

How about a slight tweak:

What the hell is random text roulette. If it involves you and me spending some quality time together instead of a rushed snog at the end of the evening then I'm definitely game :-)
Author:  VietnameseProdigy [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 3:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
@rflook

you're getting the right idea, but your message is still awkward, and cringeworthy. Why do you need to emphasize on quality time? Are you trying to get a two hour dinner date, and then a walk in the park?

also, i'd prolly ignore her last text, and just reinitiate, "What sort of troubles you causing missy? I hope a lot ;)"

then transition into a meetup
Author:  rflook [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 3:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Quick advice needed on text game/escalation
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@rflook

you're getting the right idea, but your message is still awkward, and cringeworthy. Why do you need to emphasize on quality time? Are you trying to get a two hour dinner date, and then a walk in the park?

also, i'd prolly ignore her last text, and just reinitiate, "What sort of troubles you causing missy? I hope a lot ;)"

then transition into a meetup
Cheers for the advice. Not exactly after a two hour dinner date and walk in the park, but I do like doing stuff with ladies which doesnt have to be sex, you know art galleries, cool pubs/bars etc etc.
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