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| Author: | Zolstice [ Thu Oct 11, 2012 5:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | In an ugly predicament |
So I dated a girl who wasn't really returning the affection. We broke up, she admitted she was just stringing me along. Fast forward two months, she says she wants my friendship still but I don't. I genuinely cared for her, and she betrayed my trust. We did get physically intimate during our time together, and she said she wants to be friends with benefits. I know she is only saying this because she wants my friendship and nothing else. She only added on the benefits to get me to say yes, I agreed but I have yet to see any benefits to come out from this. But for now, she keeps asking me for stuff or to do things for her. I said, those are things I would do only for someone I was dating. What should I do from here? I don't mind having a slampiece if she actually lets me get it in when I want to. |
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| Author: | HeavyRota8tion [ Thu Oct 11, 2012 6:03 pm ] |
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Solution is simple as pie: "I’m sorry. You are a nice girl. But I just can’t be around you because I am too fucking horny for you. I’m like a predator. You are not safe around me." Sets the sexual frame, and if she wants to hang with you again she knows the deal. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Oct 11, 2012 6:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: In an ugly predicament |
Quote: I don't mind having a slampiece if she actually lets me get it in when I want to.
So I see you have given her all the power to make the decisions? Why would she need to fuck you if your giving her reward without compliance? Do you understand the concept of FWB? how-to-get-a-fuck-buddy-vt147961.html?highlight= Example A: You- "DTF?" Her- Yes (your golden) Example B: You- "DTF?" Her- No! You- "Call me when you are!" (Then wait!) NO MORE CONTACT!!!!! |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Thu Oct 11, 2012 6:15 pm ] |
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Let's do some frame analysis. What's her frame? What's yours? Her: A girl who can manipulate guys to get them to do what she wants without having to give much back in return. You: A hurt guy who is reluctantly hoping his ex will become a fuck buddy. Who has the dominant frame here? You need to change your frame so that it overpowers hers. Change it to this: You: A pua who doesn't give a fuck and is only going to associate with a woman if she puts out. |
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| Author: | ItsAlwaysOn [ Thu Oct 11, 2012 6:56 pm ] |
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just break off communication. you have no interest in being friends with her. she has manipulated and hurt you in the past. you dont trust her. she seems to be a user. theres really no need to continue this relationship/friendship/fwb/whatever it is. getting to fuck her occasionally (which, based on your post, doesnt even seem to be guaranteed) just isnt worth it. have some backbone and get rid of her. a big part of becoming good with women is having standards and not dealing with women who dont conform to them. you just dont need this nonsense. |
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| Author: | HeavyRota8tion [ Thu Oct 11, 2012 7:22 pm ] |
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I've been in a similar situation a year ago. Young chick, flags were already there, she and I were very intimate the first few weeks of meeting but the following few months she controlled the frame and had a friendshp with intimacy but there was no more sex, it never ends pretty under such circumstances; cut and run would have been my best option, or even better holding the sexual frame from the getgo rather than having dropped it a few weeks later. Distance yourself if she misses you she'll pursue, if not then you lost nothing and can simply move on with your life. |
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