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Author:  qwerty_dfl [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 8:10 am ]
Post subject:  Help with major damage control
After reading through the book "the game" ive realized that I have really fucked it up with a specific girl I want to be with. I'll start from the beginning. I started a new job, a very pretty 9.5 brunette striked conversation, although shes a very awkward girl and hard to clique with. Didn't talk much with her but one day she was sitting alone on break and I decided to talk to her. I sat down next to her and she right away turned to me and started talking, I feel like we cliqued at that moment and we started flirty playing and hanging out around work together(Theater). I added her on facebook and she messaged me, conversing until she asked for my number. She texted me, but shes a shitty texter and takes about 45 mins to text back? we hung out for the first time and at the end of the night i told her i liked her(big mistake). she texted me telling me she had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and wasnt ready for commitment but confirmed that she really did like me, although i was just trying to get a kiss and not looking for one. This did not stop texting and hanging out. we would flirt but she never really wanted to be touchy, just flirty actions like pushes and jokes. After about 2 months and 12 or 13 hang outs i finally tried to kiss her, she said she wasn't ready. Keep in mind everyone at work thinks were "together". After the kiss incident we didnt hang out or talk much for 2 weeks. we finally hung out again and this time with a few drinks, and she was all over me, feeling my arms, resting her head on me in front of all of my friends and the next day at work she was more flirty and insisted i drive her home, where we sat in her driveway for 15 minutes, where i feel she was waiting for me to ask her to hang out but i didnt want to be too easy. A female coworker that likes me asked her if she's still talking to me and she told me she said yes, I know she doesnt talk to any other coworkers and she insists that she doesnt talk to other men and she gets extremely jealous if I talk to female coworkers( most of the female coworkers are attracted to me). she tells me she's going to text me but doesn't, and tells me shes going to ask me to hang out but doesn't. There's no denying that she's attracted when were physically by each other but it seems when were not she doesn't make much effort to talk to me. I feel like i gave the cat the string way too early, any advice? I feel like shes trying to be the dominant one and she wants me to be the cat with her in control of the string.
Author:  HeavyRota8tion [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 8:34 am ]
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Become aloof, stop pursuing her, have the pursuer become the pursued.

You've dealt your hand too early with her and on top of it hungout a dozen or so times without any physical escalation (time can often be the biggest killer of seduction, you were on pause way too long to be declared much else than a friend).

Go occupy yourself with other endeavors, women included. She'll come around if you stop chasing, be mysterious, elusive, women love this. Being predictable is the other killer to any seduction. She knows you want more, she's in the driver's seat and she knows it.

If she tells you she's going to hangout with you or whatever, simply tell her "depending on my schedule, we'll see".

If she is truly attracted to you all this is simply a game to see how far you'll go to validate her insecurities (pump her tires). She knows that by giving you access to her sexually too early you may 1) lose interest soon after, and/or 2) the gig will be up for her in terms of feeling that she's in control setting the pace of things. Why not be the one when you're hanging out to simply not touch her, let her get frustrated and make a move (provided you're absolutely sure she's attracted to you).

In the mean time keep engaging your female coworkers, if she gets jealous all the better. This is all part of your abundance frame (demonstrating you've got other options without explicitly stating it). Let her sit and wonder what's going on why you are actively engaging with other women and not chasing after her so much anymore, and then sit back and watch her come to you (at this point its vital to not fold and go back to your old mode of pursuer as she'll surely lose interest again).
Author:  theindiankid [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 8:50 am ]
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In the mean time keep engaging your female coworkers, if she gets jealous all the better. This is all part of your abundance frame (demonstrating you've got other options without explicitly stating it). Let her sit and wonder what's going on why you are actively engaging with other women and not chasing after her so much anymore, and then sit back and watch her come to you (at this point its vital to not fold and go back to your old mode of pursuer as she'll surely lose interest again).
GOLD! If you've read 'the game', I'm pretty sure you've familiarized yourself with the jealousy plotline routine! Have fun, homie!
Author:  puaninja [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 1:50 pm ]
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9.5, eh? Got pics to prove it? Please PM me her facebook page.

You may have tossed her the string already, but you can still snatch it back away from her.
Author:  Crypto [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 2:29 pm ]
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9.5, eh? Got pics to prove it? Please PM me her facebook page.

You may have tossed her the string already, but you can still snatch it back away from her.
What is the point in asking for the girls Pic and FB page? One mans HB 9.5 is another mans HB 10 and anothers HB 6. Neither my nor your opinion really matters in what he sees as "his idea" of a HB.

Great Advice in your second sentence tho...!
Author:  qwerty_dfl [ Fri Oct 05, 2012 11:05 pm ]
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9.5, eh? Got pics to prove it? Please PM me her facebook page.
I would feel a little bit weird if i sent out her info
This is great info and im definately going to use it when i go into work today. Thanks so much guys, this helped alot.
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