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| Author: | dinomosin [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 9:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | What should I do when my girlfriend starts crying? |
I've got a new girlfiend that I have been very Alpha with. We have been fucking like bunnies for the past couple weeks. It hasn't happened yet but I know it eventually will. Sooner or later something I do or say will make her cry. This time I want to be ready. In past relationships me, being the AFC I used to be, if a girl would start crying I would turn into a pile of goo and start with the "Oh, I'm sooo sorry, honey. What can I possibly do to just make you stop crying. Anything you want, I'm soooo sorry." Anything just to get her to stop crying. Total beta behavior that any wise woman could immediately take advantage of and most probably did. I have no intention of doing anything to make her cry but you know how chicks are. You give the wrong answer to "Does this shirt, dress, pair of Jeans, hairstyle, these shoes make me look fat?" and the waterworks begin. So guys, please share any advice on how to handle this situation that inevitably happens in any relationship. |
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| Author: | Fvckitimout [ Wed Oct 03, 2012 12:52 pm ] |
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Girls cry about anything. You'll have to get used to it. |
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| Author: | chilipama [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 9:01 am ] |
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As Fvckitimout said, girls cry about anything, I would say depend on how much she cries and what does she cry about, if you fuckup (try not to) then you should fix things to the best of your judgment, if she cries for no reason, MOVE ON! she will turn your life to hell (out experience) lol |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 9:56 am ] |
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Some girls do cry for anything but not all. When she starts, think about if you have done something worth crying for. If it is your fault and you have been a bad rabbit, comfort her and apologize. If it isnt your fault, comfort her but dont apologize. |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 12:54 pm ] |
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Oh, girls know it is becomes awkward for men when they cry, they're aware of this weakness which resides in (some of) us. I've had so many women ask me "Does it get awkward for you guys when we cry?" When she's weak, she needs someone strong. I suppose that's fairly simple to understand. Secondly, being a woman while she's expressing feelings, being a man you support them with (comforting) rationality. Tell them if they're right or wrong. Now if you really did fuck up, please do assume your responsibility. In an LTR, being a rational, responsible & genuine man is Alpha. Especially when she's weak. Of course physical comforting, listening (and not giving advice unless absolutely necessary) will do you good. |
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| Author: | dinomosin [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 1:59 pm ] |
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Thanks junglepimp this is what I was looking for... Quote: Now if you really did fuck up, please do assume your responsibility. In an LTR, being a rational, responsible & genuine man is Alpha. Especially when she's weak.
If/when I do really fuck up I will own it. But now I have this little voice in my head that pops up time to time and says "Remain Alpha!" In this case that would be rational, responsible & genuine.Of course physical comforting, listening (and not giving advice unless absolutely necessary) will do you good. When she is crying for some reason not involving me the physical comforting and listening without giving advice seems spot on. Usually when women tell us their problems they just want us to listen to them and know we are there for them. It used to be when a woman would tell me about her problems, my first instinct would be to quickly reply with the obvious solution to FIX her problem. I have learned the hard way, that is not what women want. When we, as men, just listen to them and support them they are much more appreciative. We all know how great an appreciative woman can be in the bedroom once all that BS crying is done. |
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| Author: | nomar_1 [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 3:07 pm ] |
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I like what I'm reading... just wanted to add that in my experience a, "So what are your options?" or a, "So what are you gonna do now?" keeps you from blurting out unwanted advice and gets them talking a bit more... |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 3:43 pm ] |
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Exactly. Of course, the way you accept your responsibility should be like a responsible man who knows how to fix things and has control over the situation, not like an overly apologetic doormat. Not your fault? Just hold her, let her cry her heart out on your shoulders, pat her and kiss her  
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| Author: | puaninja [ Thu Oct 04, 2012 3:46 pm ] |
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I've got some interesting interpretatoins. I was watching that Rehab show and the addicts will freak out and start crying and complaining, and rightfully so. But to a doctor/therapist this is no cause for alarm or undue concern. The addict will start sobbing and be like "I feel so sick, I'm having a panic attack and my heart feels like it's going to explode!" And the doctor calmly says "Right. That's normal." with a blank expression on his face. I do this Outward Bound sort of thing with adolescents and they find themselves in dangerous and challenging situations, climbing mountains and what not. Sometimes they get scared and cry and throw a fit. But this is mainly an inner obstacle they need to overcome--facing their fear and overcoming the physical challenge. When a kid really starts to break down, I'll go over and stand or sit next to them and calmly give them advice. Then I'll just sit their quietly and wait for them to do whatever they gotta do. This shows compassion and encouragement, but you don't baby them. I think that if these stories are any indication of human behavior, you can apply this to dealing with whiney women as well. Be there with them, but don't let them draw you into their emotional state of being. Let them know its okay to vent and cry, but you aren't going to make it better for them. They have to deal with their own emotions. |
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| Author: | dinomosin [ Sat Oct 06, 2012 3:48 pm ] |
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Love the cartoon Junglepimp. It is spot on. |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Oct 06, 2012 6:16 pm ] |
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Haha. Found it on 4chan's facebook group. |
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| Author: | HeavyRota8tion [ Sat Oct 06, 2012 6:18 pm ] |
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If it has nothing to do with you simply console her don't try and fix things, women typically prefer this they want emotional support. If you did something be direct, but gentle about it and ask her. |
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