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Author:  jimpartUSA [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 11:58 am ]
Post subject:  Should i kiss her before the first date
We started as friends, then built the relationship up over 2 weeks. Holding hands, teasing each other, then i told her it was serious and i liked her and she told me the same back. We're meeting up tomorrow, not a date, but just to talk things through. Should i go for the kiss? Or do girls have some timetable or rule? I know i can make it romantic and spontaneous but im just wondering if this will do me a favour or knock me down a few points
Author:  Crypto [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:05 pm ]
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Talk things through!?!?! WTF? Ya'll already said everything that needs to be said! I like you, you like me...Lets just let shit happen!

What I am trying to figure out is why after two weeks of holding hands and teasing you have not kissed her already!? YES KISS HER! Don't just run up and kiss her, but say something like "Hey, come here" then kiss her

What exactly are ya'll gonna talk about? I see this getting really weird, really quick and ending not so well.

Remember: Saying less = Listening more!

Peace...
Author:  jimpartUSA [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:14 pm ]
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Damn, that makes sense. What should I not do to make it weird? I didn't see it as weird but it hit me and it could be. Also she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years, 2 days ago for me...
Author:  puaninja [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:24 pm ]
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As soon as you are around her you act as though you could kiss her at any moment, but you don't. This shows confidence and builds suspense. In the meantime you do kino escalations during your conversation, also not allowing the conversation to get too awkward. Then at an opportune moment, yes, you go in for the kiss.

I would avoid asking her a question about kissing, but if you must, ask her if she would like to kiss you, and NOT "Can I kiss you?"
Author:  JimD [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:26 pm ]
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Damn, that makes sense. What should I not do to make it weird? I didn't see it as weird but it hit me and it could be. Also she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years, 2 days ago for me...
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Author:  jimpartUSA [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:27 pm ]
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okay i'll do that, good advice.
Author:  Crypto [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:36 pm ]
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She broke up with her BF of two years only two days ago? She is NOT ready to be in another relationship!!! Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dude, I need to drop a little tough love on you real quick!

You are about to get royally fucked up by this girl! She is going to have you there by her side as she recovers from the loss of a relationship she was invested in, you will be there to listen to her and tell her everything is going to be ok. Once she gets him out of her system, which ironically is easier when another guy is there helping her, she is going to find another guy or return to her Ex and you get left to carry the pain!

I suggest that you ESCALATE like there is no tomorrow, because in essence, there is no future. I would try to meet her where an "F-close" is possible, and I would make that my objective.

I hope I am wrong here, but in my 43 years of life experience, this screams danger, Danger, DANGER!


Peace...
Author:  jimpartUSA [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:46 pm ]
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She broke up with her BF of two years only two days ago? She is NOT ready to be in another relationship!!! Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dude, I need to drop a little tough love on you real quick!

You are about to get royally fucked up by this girl! She is going to have you there by her side as she recovers from the loss of a relationship she was invested in, you will be there to listen to her and tell her everything is going to be ok. Once she gets him out of her system, which ironically is easier when another guy is there helping her, she is going to find another guy or return to her Ex and you get left to carry the pain!

I suggest that you ESCALATE like there is no tomorrow, because in essence, there is no future. I would try to meet her where an "F-close" is possible, and I would make that my objective.

I hope I am wrong here, but in my 43 years of life experience, this screams danger, Danger, DANGER!


Peace...
So your telling me if i had wings i should fly away basically? :P
Jesus, So much harsh wisdom in that message you sent. However, she did break up with this guy entirely for me, she even said that the relationship was failing and she had feelings for me the moment we met, 2 week ago.

But that could be a sign that she is fickle and bounces around guys? But i certainly do not want to be an emotional diary for her, so should i just escalate immedinatly and tell her that this has to be serious and not a rebound? Or not say anything at all and just caveman and then leave?
Author:  Crypto [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:14 pm ]
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A girl will trypically become more invested once she sleeps with a guy, so she will then place a little more value on you! You should not tell her anything, let your actions do your talking for you (Words kill attraction often).

Unless she is a cheater I don't think she is fickle because she was with that guy for 2 years, but I do have a strong gut feeling that you seem like an easy target for her to rebound with. When she talks to you about her "emotional state/feelings" dealing with her break-up, don't give advice! Again, DONT give advice!!! Just tell her "I am here if you need me". If she pushes for more than that, call her on it and stand your ground!

Don't change anything about the way ya'll act around eachother except adding "sex" into the routine. If she senses you are distant (which she will) tell her "You just got out of a long term deal, and I want to make sure you are ready to be more than what we are now." She will probably get mad, let her! Don't back down, make her come to you and tell you she is sorry for being mad (which she will). Then keep doing your thing. She needs to think, atleast in the beginning that you are willing to lose her.


Peace...
Author:  jimpartUSA [ Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:19 pm ]
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A girl will trypically become more invested once she sleeps with a guy, so she will then place a little more value on you! You should not tell her anything, let your actions do your talking for you (Words kill attraction often).

Unless she is a cheater I don't think she is fickle because she was with that guy for 2 years, but I do have a strong gut feeling that you seem like an easy target for her to rebound with. When she talks to you about her "emotional state/feelings" dealing with her break-up, don't give advice! Again, DONT give advice!!! Just tell her "I am here if you need me". If she pushes for more than that, call her on it and stand your ground!

Don't change anything about the way ya'll act around eachother except adding "sex" into the routine. If she senses you are distant (which she will) tell her "You just got out of a long term deal, and I want to make sure you are ready to be more than what we are now." She will probably get mad, let her! Don't back down, make her come to you and tell you she is sorry for being mad (which she will). Then keep doing your thing. She needs to think, atleast in the beginning that you are willing to lose her.

Peace...
Perfect!
I'll ring her tonight,
Cheers.
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