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| Author: | Smallson619 [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 4:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girl wants to not see me anymore because of personal issues |
So I had been dating this nice girl for couple months now.Everything was cool,I felt we synced pretty well and we were having good time. Like 4 weeks ago she started to be really depressed.Once when I was visiting her she cried for 2 hours telling me how she isn't feeling fine.I listened to her and tried to help.I thought it would go away soon.She skipped couple our arranged meetings because she wanted to be alone and think about everything.I was a bit worried it was about me but she always said its not. Now I met her last saturday and she told me that she has developed some serious depression and is visiting some professional helper.She also told me we can't continue dating at this point because she can't handle it because of her problems.Again she told me it has nothing to do with me. What should I do now? I am fucking sad at this point as everything was going really good and I can't even blame myself this time for fucking things up. Should I keep in touch with her and try to help or what? Obviously im really worried about her and I would like to do something. |
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| Author: | Jbj [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 5:42 pm ] |
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Probably best to stay away. I read somewhere on this forum someone who was in a similar situation. Basically, guys that try to help, even if they mean well, usually do more damage than good in terms of the relationship. She has problems and needs to deal with it, and by jumping in saying "ill help you", they will usually get pissed of since she will prolly perceive it as you trying to "fix her". Better bet is prolly to let her deal with her own issues first and check in with her now and again, not to help, but just to see how she is doing. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 5:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girl wants to not see me anymore because of personal issues |
Quote: Should I keep in touch with her and try to help or what? Obviously im really worried about her and I would like to do something. I get the vibe your always up her ass asking "whats wrong?" "Is it Me???" very needy behavior! She is not the only girl out there you know? |
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| Author: | Smallson619 [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 6:04 pm ] |
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Thanks for your reply.I was thinking too that it wouldn't be really wise to help too much,I mean like texting her constantly about how she is etc. I was planning on talking to her now and then to remind her that I care. Anyways im trying to wrap this around my head now,still pretty confused about this whole situation,do I have chance with this girl in future or is this kind of situation affection killer? aka should I move on completely and forget everything I had with this girl and never look back.Or should I take it cool and wait when shes at better situation with her life and try to hook up again? |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 7:28 pm ] |
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Quote: should I move on completely and forget everything I had with this girl and never look back.Or should I take it cool and wait when shes at better situation with her life and try to hook up again?
Either way, just chill it for a while, don't send the "I'm still here, because I care" Bullshit. Let her wonder about YOU for a change, you are the prize not her. Proceed as if you have moved on, that's what she would do easily |
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| Author: | ItsAlwaysOn [ Tue Sep 25, 2012 8:12 pm ] |
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this sounds like huge trainwreck dramabomb nightmare that you dont need to be part of. i would just use this opportunity to get out this potentially awful situation esentially for free. look at it this way: if she was your gf youd have to stick by her and deal with her depression/moodiness/whatever issues head on. and probably just be stuck in an all around miserable situation. just take a step back and let her get her shit together. wait for her to contact you again. maybe every couple of weeks send a text to check on her if youre worried, but id probably just wait. if she gets back to you maybe things will go back the way they were. if not, its probably best to distance yourself from the whole thing. since shes trying to break off communication with you, its likely that the relationship isnt going as well as you seem to think it is. just tell her that theres no hard feelings and to take as much time as she needs. then wait for her to get back to you. |
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