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| Author: | IwantEasyLove [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 1:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Conquering Anxiety |
You get anxious for a couple reasons. You don't know whats going to happen or You believe something bad will happen. You don't what is going to happen because you have inexperience, but there is an element of randomness when you don't know a person and the affect your actions are having on them. On the flipside there is also the expectation of something bad happening. Often, the worst thing that can happen is that you will feel embarassed or be disliked. I suppose you reputation can be hurt as well; girls do gossip and its rather nasty sometimes, rather vicious. Fear is a protective mechanism, getting embarassed can be rather crushing for your self-confidence and can cause a vicious cycle where you build up your confidence enough to deal with your anxiety then you fail and feel embarassedd and you have to build up your self-confidence up again. Really, the best way to develop confidence is to succeed and to keep succeeding until you expect to succeed; this will really help your attitude. Before you can expect to succeed you need to find a way that works. Besides expecting to succeed you can not care about what happens which I think is not the common reaction because people generally veiw rejection as saying somethign about their value, personality, appearance, etc...but if you can have the attitude that you don't care that could help conquer anxiety. Ultimately, you need to have a good attitude where you expect to succeed, but know how to deal with failing because you should plan on winning but you have to be prepared for the worst. Girls also feel anxious when random guys approach them. What you need to do however is take advantage of this by not hesistating and this allows you to get your thoughts in before someone rejects you. A Couple Things to do: 1.) Why not? This is the question to ask yourself when you see a girl. You want to talk to. Why not? is there a good reason not to talk to her? Is there ? Is there? Then if you want to tell if your making an excuse ask yourself would you talk to her if you did not have that reasons and if you think you wouldn't you know you're scared. 2.) Accept that you have to take risk in life. You have to risk crashing and burning if you're going to fly. 3.) Embrace the anxiety. When you get out of your comfort zone, when you do something new that you don't have expereince you're going to be anxious. 4.) Have a plan. When people feel anxious its hard to think what to do and that leads to paralysis. Also people feel pushed to do random things and this leads to sense less behavior. So having a plan helps you to not do any old thing when you feel nervous. Know what you want to do. Honestly, you need to visualize the situation and what you would do in that situation. Even better, think about situations where you did not approach or messed and think about ways you could have improved this. 5.) Repitition of Affirmations- this will build your confidence and give you the right attitude. 6.) Work on your skills. This will give you confidence as you expect success. 7.) Don't hesistate and portray confidence. The girl will be unsure of whats going on when you approach her. So you can take advantage of her hesistance to make a decision by diving right in. By portray confidence you will make her feel comfortable. |
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| Author: | Chinopants [ Mon Sep 17, 2012 2:10 am ] |
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good advice. I some times just for fun have fun. Know its reckless and ridiculousness the things that I say. Its for my enjoyment and entertainment. I've never be mean or cruel just goofy. Some times a bit dirty or over the top. Intelligent girls get it and run with it and have some fun with you. The ones that get uptight are usually confused and don't get that you do not take your self to seriously because you are better than that an are full of self-confidence. Not all the time I do this just once an a while. Wit and humor they say is a type of intelligence. |
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