I met this girl in my college class. so far i was a cool guy, just socialized with her. she talks a lot, thats good. we have 2 classes in common, i only saw her 3 times in total. no there was no attraction routines (no teasing/pushpull/bantering). so, what can i do to get this girl out on a date? i plan to ask her tomorrow to have lunch with me, and then maybe on friday to go to an exciting place with me. how does that sound?

i kinoed her 2x, (tapped on her shoulder 1st day, gently touch her arm like social kino the 2nd day). what else do i need to do in terms of kino?

how and when do i express my interest to her, given that she is in my class and i dont think she won't be interested in me. i dont want to play the social circle alpha man game.

any help would be appreciated.

Thanks. Basically, I never had a girlfriend in my life. And once I used cold approach tecnhique with a really attractive girl in my class, and it came off as awkward. So I wont be making that mistake again. Just a note on this girl, she is a 6 to 7 (not obese), but is really open minded, very social. Just loves to talk about her life. I asked a couple of questions and she started to tell me about her hobbies, her mom, dad, and etc... So, how else do u think I should build comfort. I don't really know how ppl get girlfreinds in college, since i never had one in my life, so, I don't know what these guys tell the girls, and how they attract them. I am saying that girls dont find me attractive because I am not an handsome dude. I am 5'3, and this girl is around my height. Women like tall men. So, what else do you guys suggest I should do? Should I give her compliments, like I really like her personality (which I do). This is just my first impression on her. I dont know that much about her. Any more help guys?

Do not mention the word date, it puts too much pressure on her and she doesn't know you well enough yet. Always say hang out or get together. Don't worry so much about routines and all that crap, asking her to lunch is a great start. Kino should be natural, if you are sitting there trying to figure out when or where to touch her, it will come off as unnatural and clumsy. You need to focus on building rapport and establishing comfort with her.

Once you've done this, it is time to show your interest.(some interest will already be implied just by inviting her to lunch) By then you should get a better idea if she has any attraction to you. Look for lots of eye contact, her asking a lot of questions about you and just a general intrigue. A woman that has attraction to you will show you in many many ways. It's up to you to see the signs and react accordingly.

If everything flows well during the lunch and you have a good feeling about it all, then simply suggest something fun to do and invite her along. If she's interested in you, she will comply.

Use your next encounter to show your interest, and to escalate, by then she should be comfortable enough and have an idea if she has interest. This is your time to escalate physically with kino and verbal.

Good luck

Do not mention the word date, it puts too much pressure on her and she doesn't know you well enough yet. Always say hang out or get together. Don't worry so much about routines and all that crap, asking her to lunch is a great start. Kino should be natural, if you are sitting there trying to figure out when or where to touch her, it will come off as unnatural and clumsy. You need to focus on building rapport and establishing comfort with her.

Once you've done this, it is time to show your interest.(some interest will already be implied just by inviting her to lunch) By then you should get a better idea if she has any attraction to you. Look for lots of eye contact, her asking a lot of questions about you and just a general intrigue. A woman that has attraction to you will show you in many many ways. It's up to you to see the signs and react accordingly.

If everything flows well during the lunch and you have a good feeling about it all, then simply suggest something fun to do and invite her along. If she's interested in you, she will comply.

Use your next encounter to show your interest, and to escalate, by then she should be comfortable enough and have an idea if she has interest. This is your time to escalate physically with kino and verbal.

Good luck

What if she asks, "Are you asking me out on a date?" Which option would be best?

-bold yes
-yes, if that's what you wanna call it
-nah, i just want to hang to get to know you better, i like your personality