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| Author: | wingman3 [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 1:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Got caught in a lie, she's trying to break it off, now what? |
Bare with me, here goes... Without getting into "the lie" she decides to tell me this after about 3 hrs of sex, so I'm fucked up in the head not expecting any of this, instead of owning up to the lie initially I asked her "Why you bringing this up now?" (As in, why after i bust like 3 orgasms are you coming at me with this). Suffice to say this pi$$ed her off bigtime, she cust me out...And just was extremely mad at the suggestion from me that bringing this up now is ruining my pleasant time (Instead of me just feeling bad for her, I'm feeling mad she ruined my after sex chill) I apologized, yada,yada,yada, but she still left angry...It's the biggest fight we've ever had and we've been together 9 months now...What's funny is about 2-3hrs later she comes back, fixes me something to eat and goes to sleep...In the middle of the night she crosses over the bed and starts to hug me and we wake up in a tight embrace...I apologize again, say I'm happy you came back, and leave for work... So about noon I get this email about how she slept on it and while one lie shouldn't ruin a relationship, it can point to who a person really is...SO she says she's decided she doesn't want to be with me anymore and that I should let her go SO I'm like WTF is going on here????????????? So what should be my next move? I do care and want to be with her...I just don't know what my next move will be because this girl is really impulsive when she gets mad... |
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| Author: | wingman3 [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 12:45 pm ] |
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Quote: Sounds pretty severe but hard to judge whether she is blowing this shit out of proportions or you just fucked up by lying and she doesnt trust you anymore.
More like I lied about my age by one year because in pickup I used the old, "How old are you?" , I say "guess", she says "32":, I say, "Good Guess"...Having no idea she would become my girlfriend I said nothing, hoping to use the tactic I learned where by the time she finds out I give her the speil about "I didn't want age to come between us, or become a determining factor..." but she hit me with it out of the blue after an awesome sex session, and i handled it wrong by saying "Why are you asking me this $hit now?" SO in essence she thinks if I lying about something so minor, then all the other minor times she felt like I was lying I was, and now I'm a liar ;/Was the lie more like: "I forgot the date" while you watched a ball game with your mates or "I forgot to mention i strapped a pound of C4 under your car baby" ? So...there it is... |
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| Author: | Crypto [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 1:52 pm ] |
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Tell her, if she thinks that you not saying "Nope I am 30" is the lie that dictates who you are as a person, then she is not the right one for you anyhow! Tell her you will see her around, and break ALL contact! Give it a few weeks and she will most likely return. Peace... |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 2:03 pm ] |
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From what you wrote, you didn't lie, you just didn't say anything. You stayed mysterious which is fine. Did you clearly say "Yes I am 32" or did you just stick with "Good guess" and never mentioned it again? If you did stick with "Good guess" you could have very easily said that that is clearly not a lie, just a statement of her guessing abilities. I too never bring up age unless she's seriously asking. I always say "Guess" and then they guess, and then if they are wrong I don't mention it at all, or say like you did, "good guess" and move onto another topic. Many times the girls don't know my real age, thinking I am at least 22-24, when I am only 20. |
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| Author: | longtin [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 2:40 pm ] |
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yeh crypto is right..n trust me bro u dont want a woman who blows things outta proportion ...they are the devil...(my Ex comes to mind).. |
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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 4:00 pm ] |
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It doesn't seem anything huge, like other posters said. Yes, it is probably awkward not to know your significant other's age. But how long have you guys been dating with (as BF and GF)? And did you repeatedly lie to her about it *AFTER* the exclusivity talk? If you just played mysterious initially, then forgot all about it, and proceeded to an happy and satisfying relationship for a while, and then she found out the lie and called you out on it, she might feel weirded out as in "is this guy real? is that his real name? hometown? job?" what you could do is tell her about pickup and that the one line comes from there, and that you had no idea you would start dating her, and then by the time it happened, you had forgotten all about that initial lie. maybe show her your ID or something with your real age. say you are sorry one more time. then it's her call. if she still can't trust you, let her go. if she is willing to forgive this not-really-huge deal and move on, game on. |
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| Author: | wingman3 [ Thu Sep 13, 2012 2:25 am ] |
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Quote: It doesn't seem anything huge, like other posters said.
We've been together 8 months, after this incident she wrote me a huge email, telling me about all the times I had inconsistencies in my stories..She was on point yall...Yes, it is probably awkward not to know your significant other's age. But how long have you guys been dating with (as BF and GF)? And did you repeatedly lie to her about it *AFTER* the exclusivity talk? If you just played mysterious initially, then forgot all about it, and proceeded to an happy and satisfying relationship for a while, and then she found out the lie and called you out on it, she might feel weirded out as in "is this guy real? is that his real name? hometown? job?" what you could do is tell her about pickup and that the one line comes from there, and that you had no idea you would start dating her, and then by the time it happened, you had forgotten all about that initial lie. maybe show her your ID or something with your real age. say you are sorry one more time. then it's her call. if she still can't trust you, let her go. if she is willing to forgive this not-really-huge deal and move on, game on. Long story short she tried to breakup with me, but somehow we worked it out...I came clean with a few things, and I feel like the relationship is worth it so it is what it is...I used the tactic about coming clean saying the "good Guess" thing was a pickup move and then I simply didn't think about it again, so we good...For now.. Stay tuned... |
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| Author: | Czech. [ Thu Sep 13, 2012 2:37 am ] |
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Glad things worked out. After a fight, the natural "pua" reaction is to move on and game on. However, relationships are different. This girl cares for you-- she wants you to show that you care too. Give it some breathing room, confessing your undying love, kiss and make up :) Let us know how it continues to go. And don't lie again! :p |
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