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Author:  bigbam1231 [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 10:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Hey guys, really need a hand.
HB8, who I had played really well, met on tagged, talking to her on cam via facebook for 8 days, was due to go on date on wednesday. Now me and this girl had everything in common, music, movies, opinions on life. Problem is I got oneitis for this girl, and played it keen, and she did the same.
Anyway I was walking past the local cinema today and saw her holding hands with another bloke. Jealous, oneitis'd me took over, sent her a text after (she couldnt see me I had my hood up. She had told me she was going to the cinema with a friend from work previously.Here is the text conversation that followed.

Me: Thanks a lot
HB: What?
Me: I didn't know friends held hands.
HB:Its raining? We were running for food. Yes can hold my friends hand mr jealousy.
Me: Bullshit. You WALKED past holding hands past the medicine bar and then right. Then he put his arm around you.
Me: Are you even going to text back?
HB: Cause it's raining?! I was freezing cold. bigbam1231 grow up.
HB: Yes stop behaving like a child.
Me: Its fine. Its pointless being jealous. You were never mine to begin with.
HB: What not even going to reply?!
HB: Whatever bigbam1231
Me: Dont worry about it :)
HB: Just leave it yeah?
*half an hour later*
HB: If you going to be like this all the time then I dont want to do
*10 minutes later
HB: Oh what your not going to reply "/
Me: Sorry I snapped earlier. Hopefully you can understand why I was upset. We arent together and have never met, but I like you so it upset me a bit
HB: Its fine
Me: FB? :)
HB: Nope

Any hope to get this back? Is it worth it? She seems like it but I duno. She works at 6am so shes asleep I know.
What can I text her tomorrow? To get the show back on the road? Is there anything?
Author:  redsky [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 10:29 pm ]
Post subject:  move on
Next her. The only thing you can do is move on and maybe she will get dumped by the dude you saw her with and come chasing after you but most likely not. You obviously don't mean enough to her, so look for someone else who will appreciate you more.
Author:  bigbam1231 [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 10:51 pm ]
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Thats the thing though. We SPAM every night for more than a week, and she set her phone background to me and everything. Im hoping the fact she text back 3 times in a row shows there's still something.
Author:  clearspeak [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:02 pm ]
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What is interesting is imagine if it was reversed. Imagine if you were the guy with your arm around her in the rain and then you found out there is this other guys (in reality this is you) who she talks to constantly on FB and so on.

You'd come on here saying "Guys, I hold this girl in the rain so I think she must like me. But then I find out she is FB'ing with this other guy all the time."

Then you'd get the complete opposite advice here. People would say "Obviously if she is talking to this other guys every night, she actually is really into him and just likes you putting your arm around her to make her feel good. Let her go or tell her to stop talking to this other guy."

Interesting isn't it?

I think you may very well still have a chance with her. She still seems bothered if you don't talk to her.

The question is more whether you really want her or trust her.
Author:  TheNamesDrew [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:09 pm ]
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Honestly you should've just played it off cool. Jealousy ruins all relationships. Shows insecurity, etc, not what girls like.

Don't talk to her for a while, she'll forget about the whole thing. In a while (week - a few months, whatever you think) talk to her again if you haven't found someone more interesting, and if you still want her.

What you did was needy, but can be saved.

Definitely start gaming more girls ASAP. You'll naturally be much, much less needy if you have options. And if you have options who knows if you'd even still want this girl.

I'm of strong belief that you shouldn't get in a relationship until you have options with women (something I read on this forum once and really stuck with me), not just one but a few. Hell, I waited until that point - where i had a few girls and I picked one - and I still ended up breaking up with her.
Author:  bigbam1231 [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:51 pm ]
Post subject: 
Is there any point in sending this message tomorrow?
"Heya, I know that if u weren't interested you wouldnt have spoken me on cam every night for the past week. Make it up to you tomorrow? Im going to be shopping in town, and will be at Waterstones at 12, I'll b there for ten minutes if you want to meet up. I heard theyve got new pasties at the greggs next door and you know what Im like :p"
Author:  bigbam1231 [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 9:41 am ]
Post subject: 
Update - so I got this text this morning

"You really upset me, so I don't think its wise we see each other tomorrow. I wont put up with shit like that "/"

I replied with (all true, and we have talked extensively about my bro)

"Im hoping you haven't fully made that decision. It was a temporary lapse in judgement on my part. I hadn't told you my brother was back in hospital and was v.Homesick (just moved back to uni) So I hope you'll forgive the misguidedness of a very sexy man who has you on his mind :P. I just want a laugh and to show you who i am really. 12@12 xx "

Any good? Too much? Could I follow it up?
Author:  bigbam1231 [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 11:43 am ]
Post subject: 
Update.
Okay got the date back on. How do i turn this around and get her to pick me as she's obviously dating around, as i am since i just got another date. Plus the other guy liked his status on fb and he is ugly as sin ( couldnt see his face yesterday - didn't have my specs on )Not feeling the scarcity no more but anything i can do. I told her i needed to go shopping so how can i turn this to my advantage ?
Author:  Dusty-Page [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 12:53 pm ]
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Quote:
Update.
Okay got the date back on. How do i turn this around and get her to pick me as she's obviously dating around, as i am since i just got another date. Plus the other guy liked his status on fb and he is ugly as sin ( couldnt see his face yesterday - didn't have my specs on )Not feeling the scarcity no more but anything i can do. I told her i needed to go shopping so how can i turn this to my advantage ?
It's obvious that this chick liked you. I mean she made your needy ass her Background!?
Anyway you really fucked up my dude, you played the jealous bf role and your not even together yet? I hope you learn from this, and never AND I MEAN NEVER FUCKING EVER DO THAT KINDA SHIT AGAIN. It was painful reading that text convo.

But you have apologised and admitted that you were in the wrong, now stop apologising. Go on the date and see whats up, if she is still bullshitting ya, NEXT HER.
I don't see any reason for you to contiue pursuing this girl anyway.
Author:  applesauce22 [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 3:25 pm ]
Post subject: 
you asked to be FB after all that?
Author:  bigbam1231 [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 6:01 pm ]
Post subject: 
Erm. Fb over here means facebook.
Author:  Crypto [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 6:07 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Quote:
Update.
Okay got the date back on. How do i turn this around and get her to pick me as she's obviously dating around, as i am since i just got another date. Plus the other guy liked his status on fb and he is ugly as sin ( couldnt see his face yesterday - didn't have my specs on )Not feeling the scarcity no more but anything i can do. I told her i needed to go shopping so how can i turn this to my advantage ?
It's obvious that this chick liked you. I mean she made your needy ass her Background!?
Anyway you really fucked up my dude, you played the jealous bf role and your not even together yet? I hope you learn from this, and never AND I MEAN NEVER FUCKING EVER DO THAT KINDA SHIT AGAIN. It was painful reading that text convo.

But you have apologised and admitted that you were in the wrong, now stop apologising. Go on the date and see whats up, if she is still bullshitting ya, NEXT HER.
I don't see any reason for you to contiue pursuing this girl anyway.
Thats some real deal "Tough Love" right there!!! Kudos...

Now you failed as soon as you replied to her when she said "Oh what your not going to reply "/." When you said sorry you lost this girls respect in an instant. Drop her ass for a few months and then try to open her again so this embarrassing moment will be forgotten.


Peace...
Author:  applesauce22 [ Wed Sep 12, 2012 12:27 am ]
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Erm. Fb over here means facebook.
lol my bad
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