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| Author: | seanvi [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 2:59 am ] |
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Ok so I met a girl about a week ago and had been texting her back and forth all week. I called her on Wed. and basically told her I was taking her on a date. I took her out Friday and we were both drinking alot, which is cool because I like to drink and evidently so does she. We spent probably 3-4 hours boozing and talking. Then she suggested we go to another bar closer to her house, which we did. Had another beer and THEN she suggested we go back to her place for another beer on the porch (actually her parent's place). At this point it's like 2 in the morning, we talked and drank some more until about 3-3:30. Everything seemed good BUT I think I screwed up by not kissing her, just a hug when I left. She told me to text or call her tomorrow. The next day we had a short text conversation and I tried to call her later that night. No phone answer and no call back or text since saturday. Now I really do not want to call her again or text her if she doesn't call me back because I find it disrespectful. Should I wait a couple days and try to contact her again or just let it go? |
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| Author: | Reality Show [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 7:28 am ] |
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I feel your pain. Happens to me all the time. I would definitely keep contacting her. Practically never fixes anything for me, but keep experimenting. Invite her to do something. Don't try to chit chat or anything. If you feel women are disrespecting you and you are getting offended and want to fight back or teach them a lesson, that's not good. Just take it as feedback and motivation. Anyone who is 'disrespecting' you is actually just checking to see how you, 'a confident man' deals with the situation. Keep your cool, do what feels good, what you like, lead your life and invite them along. It's a test. It's feedback about gaps in your game / life. Women who disrespect me, are just wanting me to be more of a man. Sometimes you have to pre empt them, sometimes you have to catch up. As far as your date goes. Sounded great. Problem was that she was leading most of it. The choices, the bouncing, the fact that you didn't kiss and she didn't call you back. It was your responsibility to be the man in those situations. She tried helping you. Let me guess, there were times, where you thought about doing something, but didn't know what or how, right? There were probably times where it was a bit boring just talking blah blah blah. Here is my suggestion. Whenever I get bored with girls or shit is not moving where I want it to be, then I just ESCALATE and push the limits. I pursue my enjoyment. I push their boundaries and have fun. You want to fuck and not talk? Then start touching her. Tell her to follow you to your car and go for it. Escalate escalate escalate. If she digs you, then it's on. If she doesn't dig your escalation, then run away and look for someone who does. |
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| Author: | Raziel01 [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 9:08 am ] |
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Well, what can it hurt to contact her in a couple of days? If you don't, then fine, you never see her again. If you do, and it doesn't go wel,l then fine, you never see her again. Same result. Try not to focus on the outcome and focus on the learning. And next time, escalate and try for the close. Good luck! |
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| Author: | Hammerofdawn [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 9:34 am ] |
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I agree, the fact she gave you a 'green light' on taking it on her own initiative to try bounce you back to her place. It was definitely on from what I gather from your post. It can be nerve wrecking experience whether or not you should attempt to k close but sometimes you just need to be the man, take the lead and just go for it. There's no real harm in trying to contact her in a few days, but in the mean time I'll give you a good tip by Mystery which you can use should you have and last minute doubts in future. I've used with great success in my starting out days and still can use it to this day as part of my toolkit if I am not 100% how the ground lays. Try to build some tension before hand and then, when she's in the middle of talking - interrupt her (not rudely) and say: "Shhh... you talk too much... do you want to kiss me?" *you can also put your finger on her lips for a good last bit of intimate kino* (she'll be the one to pull away from you if its not on - if she does act like you heard a noise/owl or whatever) You'll have 4 main outcomes:- Yes or any positive IOI's - GO FOR IT! I dunno/Maybe... Respond "Well... lets find out - Come here" (Swallow that pride and take lead) No Respond "Hey! I didn't say you could... you just seem to have something else on your mind" (Play it cool, then progress with the rest of the normal interaction/conversation) Not here - Respond "I Understand..." *with a playful smile or wink* and isolate (Move away from her group/friends or whoever) |
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| Author: | IwantEasyLove [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:09 am ] |
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Go buy a pair of slippers. Take a picture of them with your cellphone. Then send her a text saying "I got you a gift since you seem to have gotten cold feet as far as getting to know me :p". Then send her a picture of the slippers http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en ... x=38&ty=80 |
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| Author: | Hammerofdawn [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 11:23 am ] |
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Quote: Go buy a pair of slippers. Take a picture of them with your cellphone. Then send her a text saying "I got you a gift since you seem to have gotten cold feet as far as getting to know me :p". Then send her a picture of the slippers
Haha I love this. I genuinely laughed out loud http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en ... x=38&ty=80  A neg for future use I’m sure. |
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| Author: | Raziel01 [ Mon Sep 10, 2012 12:40 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: Go buy a pair of slippers. Take a picture of them with your cellphone. Then send her a text saying "I got you a gift since you seem to have gotten cold feet as far as getting to know me :p". Then send her a picture of the slippers
Haha I love this. I genuinely laughed out loud http://www.google.com/imgres?um=1&hl=en ... x=38&ty=80 A neg for future use I’m sure.
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| Author: | seanvi [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 3:00 am ] |
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Texted her today: This is how the convo went: Me:Hey guess what HB:Hey! What? Me: I just dropped my phone on the concrete and apparently my texting still works...thanks lol HB:Well that's good! Me: I had a good time friday btw HB: I did to  Me: So are you up for round 2? HB:Lol when is that? Me: Friday HB: I leave for the beach Thursday night and I won't be back until Sunday! Me:Lame... HB:Jealous Me:Maybe a little...how about you join me for wild wings tomorrow then? HB:I have to get math homework done before I leave :/ Me: Alright well have a nice trip I'm can't tell if she is trying to blow me off or if she is legitimately interested at this point. I figure I will call her next week. Should I keep texting her or just let it lay until next week? |
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| Author: | GKS [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 3:27 am ] |
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Better yet text her Wednesday night "OMG! you can't believe what just happened!" Then don't reply ever.... till next week. |
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| Author: | sylarjones [ Tue Sep 11, 2012 4:23 pm ] |
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Quote: Better yet text her Wednesday night "OMG! you can't believe what just happened!" Then don't reply ever.... till next week.
This is probably the best post ever. I'm so gonna use this.
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| Author: | poolG [ Sun Oct 28, 2012 9:38 pm ] |
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that cold feet post was brilliant!! |
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| Author: | Jesus_PT [ Wed Nov 14, 2012 5:59 am ] |
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remember, before inviting her to do anything, always scan if she already has plans... this way, you do not invite and feel like you got blown if they do not have plans, most of the times they will ask "why?" and then you point out the plans  good luck with that and keep us posted
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| Author: | detox75 [ Wed Nov 14, 2012 7:21 am ] |
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This isn't going anywhere sorry shes just not that into you. Try this Hail Mary "OMG! you can't believe what just happened! - //attach penis picture if she responds positively you just reset on a sexual frame, this nice guy frame you have is a fail. |
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