A few random thoughts:
1. Obviously I can't tell exactly as I wasn't there, but from how you describe it, it doesn't sound like you got friend zoned. It sounds like like you just pushed too far too fast, and she used the friend thing as a way to reject your advances. It sounds like you had attraction, but no connection or comfort.
2. This is good news, it means you've still got a shot with her.
Quote: I thought it went well but since we didn't kiss I think it failed. So she didn't accept the second date but she never says not either.
Honestly, if she didn't accept the second date, then you fucked up. Pretty much any response other than her wanting to go on a second date, means you fucked up.
Quote: I have to mention she didn't let me grab her hand at the end of first date.
Some girls are just weird about certain things. I've had girls that would give me a blowjob, but wouldn't hold hands with me in public. However, you then say she did let you grab her hand the second night, so it's not that. This is beggining to sound like a lack of comfort/connection...
Quote: ME:we should meet up again.
HB:well ,maybe but what's the plan and where?
ME:At my place
HB: doing what?
Me:having fun
HB: what kind of fun?
ME:playing bord games getting drunk etc..
HB: I don't wanna get drunk but I like playing board games blah balh...
You are pushing too far, too fast. You need more comfot/connection. "at my place" and "having fun" are obviously hinting at sex. 99% of the time, it needs to "just happen", unless you have got huge attraction and the girl is horny. You needed to say to go for a glass of wine at a bar then take her home after the date. Trying to get her straight over to your place to fuck, is too much of an ask for most girls.
Quote: I event told her let's go back to my place she was like I can't leave my friends I promised them since it was one of her friends birthday.
This is what I'm talking about above - you are pushing too far too fast. She likes you, otherwise she wouldn't still be talking to you. If she didn't like you and you said this, she would just find a way to leave, she wouldn't stay around and give reasons why she couldn't. She likes you, but you need to give her reasons you like her. Build a fucking connection - it only takes 15 minutes.
Quote: ME:I am not looking for friend and I have enough friends.
HB: But you just talk to all of girls like tonight and you just want to have fun
ME: yes I want to have fun but when I ask you to come out with me it's serious but if you like to be friends I am sorry
HB: So you want to forget me?
ME: me yes,I'll.
This is your ego stopping you getting laid. You want to have the power and be the powerful one walking away from the conversation on your terms. This way you feel it is not her rejecting your advances, it is you telling her you don't want to be friends and walking away. It's you rejecting her friend advances. This is your male ego talking, and it is literally stopping you getting laid. She is telling you how to win her over: Quote: HB: But you just talk to all of girls like tonight and you just want to have fun - Translation: you just want to get laid, you don't care about me. Build a connection, and tell her what you like about her other than you want to fuck her. She is hearing that you want to fuck her loud and clear, but she's not hearing any other reasons that you like her. All you had to do was cut the thread here and move into building a connection, but instead you went down the ego route of the "I don't need any more female friends".
Quote: ME: yes I want to have fun but when I ask you to come out with me it's serious but if you like to be friends I am sorry
Too obvious, she knows you're full of shit when you say this after you've just told her you want to fuck her.
Quote: HB: So you want to forget me?
ME: me yes,I'll.
Your ego talking again.
In conclusion, you need to work on telling a girl why you like her. You need confort, trust, and connection. Get to know her while you are touching her up, and you can make a connection while increasing the sexuality. You don't have a problem with leading, touching, or getting sexual, which is good. Most guys suck at these things, so you're doing good there. You need to add a little more nice guy connection into the mix, then you'll be golden.
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