Quote: like when i took her hand the other week. at first she resisted but when i was firm with her she gave it to me.
dude, maybe this wasn't thoroughly explained well enough when you wrote your first initial posts, one of the first parts of the pickup, is the screening process, getting to know her, seeing what she is like, screening for compliance, screening for chemistry, everything
lets put it this way man, this girl is not sexually available for you right now, she is not interested in sleeping with you, but because you work together, she gives you an ''I like you, but no'' to protect your ego, so you get away from this ordeal without a hurt sense of pride, she gave you the nice girl SPAM
she also told you she had another guy, then later came up with a different excuse from a different frame that she just wans't sure it would... blah blah blah
her behavior is highly inconsistent from her words
Quote: perhaps if i were to go all caveman on her, pull her aside and go for the kiss, what do you think?
I know you're super needy for this girl, but you don't have chemistry with her at all, this is a one sided infatuation because you don't have anything else going for you, you say that you are meeting alot of girls etc., but obviously things aren't working out for you and it isn't a regular thing, or just asking a girl out on a date wouldn't been as big a deal for you as it was, you have to get that shit handled in your life, not cling to every girl you make an emotional investment into, if it really means that much to you just to invest as little as asking a girl out, then you need to put yourself out there more until making your pitch isn't a big deal to you anymore, it's easy to think an attractive girl is perfect, if that's the only attractive girl you know and socialize with, some guys even go so far as to take extreme disrespect to the point of abuse just because a girl is good looking and gives them attention when other girls don't (even if the attention is negative and abusive), and they will justify this with retarded reasons, like, she's so smart, she's funny, she's special, she's just joking around
if you were having sex with a girl who was just as good looking, you probably wouldn't give a shit about this girl, what kind of chemistry could you possibly have with a girl, that is even hesitant to give you her hand (you can get this kind of compliance from alot of girls, without even speaking to them, let alone actually having rapport, such a low level of investment on her end to turn down), what kind of chemistry could you have with a girl that isn't even willing to go on a date with you, not even to humour you?
doing this sort of thing at work when you have already had signs that she is non compliant, is just down right creepy and it's likely just going to lead towards trouble rather then sex, you're playing with fire
you're going to do what you're going to do, after all emotion is involved in this, but just as it has been posted before, keep shit professional at work, don't get all creepy and start hitting on her when she has no out, especially when she's expressed she isn't into it, but you do what you do, and don't be upset if this goes terrible for you, and she ends up trying to avoid you, or making complaints
she's already been looking for the exit, let it be, talk to other girls, and sleep with them, if you're not getting laid, the answer is not more focus on one girl who is not interested, the answer is more focus on getting laid in general and talking to as many women as it takes to make that goal attainable, if this was within your reach and easily accessable, it's highly unlikely something like this would be of a high emotional relevance to you as girls quickly lose their lustre when they waste time or do weird shit and you have better options
and on top of that, if this girl had any interest in you, she'd be trying to get that date, instead of trying to avoid it, compliance says it all
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