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| Author: | Elitekm [ Thu Aug 30, 2012 11:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Intimidated by social settings. |
This is an ongoing problem for me whenever i'm faced with a social event where there is groups of people I tend to be intimidated and dread confrontation. I'm starting a new course in college on Monday the course consists of only 16 people so I feel I need to make a good impression. My heart literally starts racing and I start shaking butterfly's in the stomach it's a terrible feeling! Anyone had similar problems and got over them? |
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| Author: | Marino7810 [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 12:22 am ] |
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I used to be nervous from just sitting in class bro, learned that its better to stop a giving a fck and not spend time worrying what other people say about you. I function a whole lot better now, with less stress and I dont feel tired from any unnecessary stress anymore. Just focus on being more positive, being yourself, and being more relaxed (By not worrying). I also listen to a lot of Bob Marley so that helps out too. Oh it takes time btw, changing your way of thinking doesnt happen overnight, took me a whole summer to change mines |
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| Author: | Elitekm [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 12:56 am ] |
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Thanks! I know it's all in my head and yet it's hard to beat it because it's all social conditioning. Been watching a lot of Tyler's videos on Rsdnation and started doing 20 mins meditation every night to help escape the likes of social conditioning, will be interesting to see any effects. |
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| Author: | charblad [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 1:32 am ] |
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Life lesson- At ages 5-40 you are caught up in what people think of you At ages 40-60 you don't care what people think about you At ages 60+ you realize Noone was ever thinking of you Why are you nervous? Because other people are judging you right? Well truthfully they're not, and even if they were what good will lying do you? Just be natural |
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| Author: | Marino7810 [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 1:46 am ] |
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Oh also remember whatever you perceive people think about you isnt true only what you think of yourself is true and will show. And a little tip you can believe yourself to be whatever you'd like. I know who I am, do you? Thats corny as shit haha I should patent that but no still its serious. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Fri Aug 31, 2012 1:08 pm ] |
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You need to create a frame that increases your social value and makes other people seek your approval. You can try being the funny laid back guy. You said you dreaded confrontation. I know what you mean. There's a lot of alphas out there that just want to belittle you and create problems for you, so you need a frame which neutralizes them. You can choose to ignore them of course. Or you can laugh along with them as they make fun of you, and act like you don't even realize they are making fun of you. Then they have to try that much harder to make it evident they are being assholes, at which point they risk losing social value by coming across as dickheads. Alphas need resistance from you in order to escalate the confrontation, so when you don't give them any, it disarms them. |
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