PUA Forum :: Need interpretation of a situation w/ engaged girl- getting

I think you are misinterpreting things and assuming they are IOIs. You haven't even talked to her before, plus she's engaged, so the chances of her being genuinely interested right now are pretty low. That's not to say you can't change that, but come on, she's engaged anyway. Leave well enough alone and find someone else.

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So what is she doing if I am misinterpreting them? Well after the IOIs I DID start talking to her and she would come up to me and talk to me every time i saw her from then on. I mean she might not be interesed in a relationship but maybe a fling.

For the record shes out of the picture, but I just wanted to understand what she was doing and why she ignored after that completely. These werent little IOIs these were like a girl having a serious crush IOIs so i want to understand the situation thats all, im not acting on anything

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You didn't list anything that I see as a big, obvious IOI that is anything different from what a lot of neutral females might do, so if you left something out feel free to add it. Everything you listed is something that any normal female might do. She sat by you, but it's school. She has to sit somewhere, and maybe she's comfortable with you since you spoke to her a few times. Regardless, that's not to say she ISN'T interested in you. The only way to find out is to strike up a conversation, try to flirt with her, and see how she responds.

Author:	supraman [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:03 am ]
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-In school (professional school, so campus is just inside one building) noticed a blonde would always check me out. Will eye me literally every single time we are around the same area -Would take long routes just for me to acknowledge her -Would make it be known that she was around. Aka talk loud, would look in my direction to see if I look back. -Noticed her friends look at me a lot -I ask about her, find out shes engaged w/ bf of over 5 years or so. Bf in another state -One day, i am sitting in a class doing some work and there are a ton seats open, about 5 ppl in there. She sits directly next to me. -Im thinking, well doesnt get any more obvious than this. I act like i dont know what Im doing and we talk. When we talk im mainly askin questions, shes not like askin the same questions back but still engaging ina convo. - Since then we would talk A LOT. Again would see I was at my locker, she would walk by getting out of her way to say hi to me. Few times walked by w a low cut shirt (farrk). - One day i thought i was slick, she walks by me as im talking to my friend and I say, sorry what were we talking about again as she walks by (her backside was facing me) as if she distracted me (wanted to flatter her? lol) friend starts laughing then she walks back and i say hey whats up she like has this look on her face, doesnt say anything - Ever since then, ignores me FULLY. doesnt say hi, look my way, avoids me. wtf??? I need an interpretation of this. Was she interested in me if i was smoother and kept things on the Dl? Did she feel like I blew up her spot and know she thinks im telilng people about her? (bc she is engaged). What do u guys take of this. I doubt any normal girl that wasnt going to get down would act like this. It was like ridic how much attention she was giving me

Author:	daffy duck [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 9:46 am ]
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A woman already engaged to another and giving IOIs? I wouldn't touch her with a bargepole. Anyway, apparently what she is doing is the oldest trick in the book. Now she has your attention (and she knows it) she totally ignores you to see how much of a man or how much of a wuss you are. Do you: a) break down and whine (like you are currently doing) and start chasing her? or b) take it like a man knowing there are plenty more fish in the sea and any girl engaged and giving clear IOIs is not a girl worth wasting time on.

Author:	Snarg [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 12:38 pm ]
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I think you are misinterpreting things and assuming they are IOIs. You haven't even talked to her before, plus she's engaged, so the chances of her being genuinely interested right now are pretty low. That's not to say you can't change that, but come on, she's engaged anyway. Leave well enough alone and find someone else.

Author:	supraman [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 5:56 pm ]
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Quote: I think you are misinterpreting things and assuming they are IOIs. You haven't even talked to her before, plus she's engaged, so the chances of her being genuinely interested right now are pretty low. That's not to say you can't change that, but come on, she's engaged anyway. Leave well enough alone and find someone else. So what is she doing if I am misinterpreting them? Well after the IOIs I DID start talking to her and she would come up to me and talk to me every time i saw her from then on. I mean she might not be interesed in a relationship but maybe a fling. For the record shes out of the picture, but I just wanted to understand what she was doing and why she ignored after that completely. These werent little IOIs these were like a girl having a serious crush IOIs so i want to understand the situation thats all, im not acting on anything

Author:	Snarg [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 6:03 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: I think you are misinterpreting things and assuming they are IOIs. You haven't even talked to her before, plus she's engaged, so the chances of her being genuinely interested right now are pretty low. That's not to say you can't change that, but come on, she's engaged anyway. Leave well enough alone and find someone else. So what is she doing if I am misinterpreting them? Well after the IOIs I DID start talking to her and she would come up to me and talk to me every time i saw her from then on. I mean she might not be interesed in a relationship but maybe a fling. For the record shes out of the picture, but I just wanted to understand what she was doing and why she ignored after that completely. These werent little IOIs these were like a girl having a serious crush IOIs so i want to understand the situation thats all, im not acting on anything You didn't list anything that I see as a big, obvious IOI that is anything different from what a lot of neutral females might do, so if you left something out feel free to add it. Everything you listed is something that any normal female might do. She sat by you, but it's school. She has to sit somewhere, and maybe she's comfortable with you since you spoke to her a few times. Regardless, that's not to say she ISN'T interested in you. The only way to find out is to strike up a conversation, try to flirt with her, and see how she responds.

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Author:	supraman [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 6:11 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: I think you are misinterpreting things and assuming they are IOIs. You haven't even talked to her before, plus she's engaged, so the chances of her being genuinely interested right now are pretty low. That's not to say you can't change that, but come on, she's engaged anyway. Leave well enough alone and find someone else. So what is she doing if I am misinterpreting them? Well after the IOIs I DID start talking to her and she would come up to me and talk to me every time i saw her from then on. I mean she might not be interesed in a relationship but maybe a fling. For the record shes out of the picture, but I just wanted to understand what she was doing and why she ignored after that completely. These werent little IOIs these were like a girl having a serious crush IOIs so i want to understand the situation thats all, im not acting on anything You didn't list anything that I see as a big, obvious IOI that is anything different from what a lot of neutral females might do, so if you left something out feel free to add it. Everything you listed is something that any normal female might do. She sat by you, but it's school. She has to sit somewhere, and maybe she's comfortable with you since you spoke to her a few times. Regardless, that's not to say she ISN'T interested in you. The only way to find out is to strike up a conversation, try to flirt with her, and see how she responds. I guess some backround info on me I am an attractive dude so I know when a girl is more neutral vs this one, who was making it honestly like obvious. Yea she sat next to me, but the room was just about empty, i know I wouldnt sit next to a girl I didnt want to talk to. The first day I talked to her I did flirt a little and she seemed to get even more engaged with me after that. And if it was so neutral, why did she ignore me after that comment I made? An experienced friend who happens to be a classmate told me that she was prob interested in havin a fling if i was smoother about it but me makin that comment esp to someone else might hvae put her on blast, and she realized what she possibly could have been doin and got cold feet about it.

Author:	daffy duck [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 6:31 pm ]
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no-one is going to know the answer to this except the girl in question. some guy sitting behind a computer on a pua forum isn't going to know that's for sure. even if he did have a theory that does make sense you're never going to be totally sure until she tells you. at best you can suspect but you will never be sure. women are experts at this. which is why not caring is your best defence.

Author:	supraman [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 7:43 pm ]
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yea I feel you. I honestly just think she wanted to see if she still had it, just liked me bc i was attractive, was being innocent and when I said that she thought I liked her and she is indeed engaged and thus stayed clear. I ignored her back and she started talking to me again lol

Author:	Kirin [ Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:02 pm ]
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You're way over-analyzing. Once you saw attraction, you should have just asked her out and let her tell you she is engaged. If she doesn't, ask her about it because you heard it from a "friend". She will most likely says some BS about wanting to leave him, that's your cue to be a gentlemen and leave. Conclusion: Her respect for you goes up, you walk away without a strained relationship and a potential one in the future if she really does leave him.

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