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Author:  Maxi199189 [ Mon Aug 20, 2012 11:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Help! What am I doing wrong??
Hi, I'm going to college in Mexico and there's a superhot girl in campus I'm after, I actually good looking but I'm really shy, I've been reading The Game by Neil Strauss so I decided to grow some balls and start talking to her, but when I negged her ( I noticed she was wearing contact lenses so I said "oohh are those contact lenses?? How dissapointing It's probably not your real eye color, is your hair fake too??) she said "how rude" and walked away pissed off. How can I recover from that?? Cause I really like her any advice?

Pd: Sorry for my lack of english I'm mexican
Author:  insta3 [ Mon Aug 20, 2012 11:31 pm ]
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Hola amigo, I'm french, so it's a good mix right ;)
I would just suggest that you read this, cause I've read the game too and it doesn't tell everything in detail.

http://www.bestpuatraining.com/negs

And what I think about the neg in a bar with a group of people it can work well, cause the rest of the people are listening to you and so you have the time to change the negativ emotion to a positiv emotion.

But one on one... it's still good... but better if you do it in a funny way... Like a big brother teasing her a bit. If you're too serious, it might not do the effect ou wanted.

Second advice : remember that you think you like her cause she's hot... But it's an image, so when you Mystery gives this magical phrase (wich works like a charm on a set) : "you're beautiful, but beauty is common". Make it a personnal philosophy.
I think it will help you gain confidence to approach such women...

But hey, i'm still learning too, so take what you want from what I'm saying..

If not to get back to her maybe you could take some info from those link and make a mix :

http://theattractiveu.com/day-game-appr ... ion-close/

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0gvW5-8bcY

those guys have great info than can help you go further in you're gaming.

Good luck and tell us how things turn!
Author:  Pickwick [ Mon Aug 20, 2012 11:51 pm ]
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Your mistake was breaking all the Mystery Method down and actually going and negging her.

Create an image in your mind that you're the fucking boss. If you're good looking, if you take care of yourself, if you don't embarrass yourself every time you talk, then the best method is...

to grow some balls and be sincere with her. Most attractive trait is confidence, and there is absolutely no reason why she would say no to get to know you; unless, of course, she has a boyfriend and she for some reason thinks that every time she talks to a new person she is magically cheating on him.

With your situation, give her a break to forget the whole thing, then come up to her, apologize, and say that you say stupid shit when you see a beautiful woman. If she doesn't give you time after you say that, maybe it's for the better, let her ponder on how this absolute stranger called her beautiful. Then in a day or two come up to her and start talking.

Put everything into your perspective. If somebody randomly came up to me and said, "oohh are those contact lenses?? How dissapointing It's probably not your real eye color, is your hair fake too??" or something of that sort, if I'm in a good mood, I would say something nonchalant as fuck. If I'm in a bad mood, I would tell them to go fuck them self. So I don't blame her.
Author:  kasabi [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 12:13 am ]
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You didn't neg, you insulted.

Think of the things you would say to your baby sister to get her riled up, feisty, and laughing . . . that's a neg.
Author:  Snarg [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 12:15 am ]
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Holy fuck was that rude. Did you really expect this to work? Make sure that when trying to apply pickup to your life, you make sure you're still acting like a human.
Author:  .Storm [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 3:03 am ]
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Yeah bro you've mistaken what a neg is! You don't say "Damn you hair is fake, and are those contacts?! How ugly!" (I know that wasn't exact but that's how she took it, imagine someone saying that to you). You're supposed to say "Is that your real hair? Oh.. well it looks nice anyway" or something like that. You're not supposed to insult her, it's supposed to be more of playful teasing.
Author:  DeathShredder23 [ Tue Aug 21, 2012 3:11 am ]
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The truth is you might not "recover" from it. You could've already blown your chance, butttttt maybe not. As much as I would like to say that we men in the community have this approach of picking up women down to a science, we don't. Every girl is in some way, not matter how small, a wee bit different. Some methods of approach that will work on some girls might not work on others.
Author:  Maxi199189 [ Wed Aug 22, 2012 2:37 am ]
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Thanks for all of your repllies. I saw her again today and she said hi to me so I think she's not mad anymore, but I don't know what to do next, should I approach again and apologize or just be nice to her like complimmenting her or a joke?? I really like this girl any advice?
Author:  Maxi199189 [ Wed Aug 22, 2012 2:44 am ]
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Hola amigo, I'm french, so it's a good mix right ;)
I would just suggest that you read this, cause I've read the game too and it doesn't tell

Good luck and tell us how things turn!
Thanks for that link, I think I misunderstood what a neg was :s I hope I can recover haha
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