Test the waters with a vague text ("Still alive?
") then go from there. If she still flakes or doesn't respond, next her.
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| Author: | Hansen88a [ Mon Aug 13, 2012 10:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Date cancelled by her. How should I play it? |
Hey I did a direct daygame approach to a 9. We talked for 5 min and i did a number close. Here's how our text conversation looked like afterwards: "In the beginning we send a few texts and she says she can't meet me for a few days. After that she texts me and says 'lets meet for coffee tuesday?'. This is what I reply: Me: Yea, sure! Let's meet up at X 17:00? Her: Hey X! I messed up my schedule, im so sorry, tomorrow wont work at all. It has now passed 1½ week since i approached her and my texting game with her has been really bad. So the attraction i built during our meet is probably gone. And basically she cancelled the date in a very cold way, not naming an excuse or adding 'lets meet another time'. I really want to meet her, so how should I play this? |
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| Author: | myth00 [ Mon Aug 13, 2012 10:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Date cancelled by her. How should I play it? |
Quote: Hey
This happened to me once as well (It didn't turn out well). I'd like to get opinions on this as well.
I did a direct daygame approach to a 9. We talked for 5 min and i did a number close. Here's how our text conversation looked like afterwards: "In the beginning we send a few texts and she says she can't meet me for a few days. After that she texts me and says 'lets meet for coffee tuesday?'. This is what I reply: Me: Yea, sure! Let's meet up at X 17:00? Her: Hey X! I messed up my schedule, im so sorry, tomorrow wont work at all. It has now passed 1½ week since i approached her and my texting game with her has been really bad. So the attraction i built during our meet is probably gone. And basically she cancelled the date in a very cold way, not naming an excuse or adding 'lets meet another time'. I really want to meet her, so how should I play this? |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Mon Aug 13, 2012 10:16 pm ] |
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Test the waters with a vague text ("Still alive? ") then go from there. If she still flakes or doesn't respond, next her.
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| Author: | Gifted1ne [ Tue Aug 14, 2012 12:03 am ] |
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Traveler that is a good text, I personally wouldn't send it though. To me it sounds like the guy is looking for attention or just a response from the girl. I would act casual like nothing happen. You don't want to overact because a girl flaked one time, it sounds like you didn't build enough comfort with the girl or she really had something come up. Just keep pinging the girl and plant a seed. You want to show you have confidence, are comfortable,secure in your situation and could careless if she wanted you or not. Do what you did in the beginning to get the girl to build attraction. |
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| Author: | graham111 [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 8:27 am ] |
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In my limited experience.. I always - ALWAYS - fuck up with text. However, it can always be redeemed with a phone call. When you have an night free just give her a call and say "hey I'm gonna bbq tonight, come over for some wine and chicken" or ANYTHING like that. It can be a friend's bbq, some people going to the park, I don't care. Just something normal that's easy for her to come join in on.. Chat with her for maybe 5 minutes and then eject. She will either make plans, or make an excuse, but unlike text you can kinda suss out when she'll be available next, and if you're chill and laugh and chat with her she will feel more of a connection than any text will ever create. I tried to learn text game and found it was futile, but a quick phone call will solve all your problems. And in the end, if she is a flake, there's nothing you can do but cut her off. You're better off without her flaky, lame personality in your life. Move on, there's millions of hbs out there. For a little background, this is coming from someone who's struggling to get back in the game after a few years of easy lays (being a dj) and some relationships. Once I get a girl in person, I can be cool and make it happen, but for some reason always flop on the texts. Forget the impersonal crap, call them and make it happen, seriously! |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 10:17 am ] |
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I find it a little amusing that no one is addressing the root of the problem - it's HIM, it's not HER. Did you not read carefully? Quote: my texting game with her has been really bad.
Hansen88a, unless you utilize the power of 'texting' to it's fullest, you'll find that such no-shows will be a common occurrence. Texting is a great way to build comfort and engage in smart and sometimes, sexual banter.The first step should be to stop segregating it from your "game", it's not really another field exclusive from the rest. Texting is basically exchange of written dialogue. Treat it as if you were having a casual chat with the other person, the only difference being that you cannot physically see them in front of you. If you need to convey emotions and moods more effectively, then you could utilize the emoticons. Basically, what I mean to say is do not get worked up over something as simple as 'texting'. Now, you can re-approach her with a "Hey, how is your day going today?" text and lead the conversation from there, as you would in-person. Good luck. |
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