PUA Forum :: What to do with my lacking looks/appearance?

Looks always matter.

I would say just be confident and show girls that you are happy with the way you look, even if you aren't. Don't let height be so involved, although it is preferable to women to have the man be taller in most situations, there isn't much you can do about it. If there is nothing you can do about it why worry? It's quite funny because I'm 6'6 myself, and I actually prefer women who are much smaller.

I think your priorities are screwed up. If your trying to get a girlfriend of cold approach, is gonna be rough, especially in country like US. What you need to do is start talking to multiple women and start dating them. Screen and pick one from there.

My cousin (female) is 5'10" (I'm 5'9").. She married a guy that was 5'6". He was otherwise good looking, and masculine (a firefighter). Also a very nice guy and in great shape. If height is your only problem, you'll be fine. I'm average looking, and scrawny as hell. I have a receding hairline, less-than-perfect teeth, and I'm out of shape, and I still manage to land 10's.

If a woman ever negs you on your height, tell her "we're all the same height in bed.", and proceed.

Furthermore, if a woman is too snobbish to give you a chance based 100% on your height, then she's not worth your time.

You are one of the few here who understood my situation. Personally speaking, I have NO problem standing next to a girl taller than me. I love tall girls. I had no problem with my height either until yesterday when I spoke with a guy who basically told me that my life is fucked and to pull girls even from social circle will be extremely difficult for me. So, ideally speaking, my personality is good, social, cool, fun and interesting, and physically speaking, I got a good smile, got hair on my head, good teeth, no scars, but if you are are looking at me, you might think, that the only thing this guy needs to have is to be much taller. Otherwise, I am fine with myself. What I need for a woman to see me for my cool personality, and date me, and thats all.

I've seen really tall guys who suck with women and really short guys who are naturals and get laid all the time.

With an attitude like that, I think you'll be fine. As long as you aren't insecure about your height, it will not have a big impact on your game. Be confident and learn to handle "shit tests" about your height without breaking a sweat. If you want to focus more on looks, then get a 6-pack and bulk up a bit if you can.

/I really liked Ether's line about how we're all the same height in bed. =)

-Wolf

Author:	mapleleaf [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 4:02 pm ]
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I would say I am an average looking guy. I would say I have a great smile. However, I'm only 5'3''. I have no deformities in my face or any missing limbs. I am here to get a relationship, not to get one night stands. What are my chances to be with a girl and how can I improve it? I like girls who are above 5'3'' to 5'7''. Guys please help me out, and post any sort of suggestions or ideas. I have never been told that I am short by a girl, and most women who I interact with are very cool with me. I have gone out, and told about 10 women, "you look absolutely adorable." But they were mostly around my height. They never brushed me off or blew me out. So, what can I do, to make up for this? How well do my game needs to be to get girls that are 7-8 in scale, and maybe 9s? And, most importantly, will I be successful with getting women in my life? What are my chances to date women who are 5'6 to 5'7s? Thanks everyone.

Author:	HeavyRota8tion [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 4:10 pm ]
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Looks always matter.

Author:	mapleleaf [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:13 pm ]
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Quote: Looks always matter. Can you please answer my question next time?

Author:	ItsKarma [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:26 pm ]
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I would say just be confident and show girls that you are happy with the way you look, even if you aren't. Don't let height be so involved, although it is preferable to women to have the man be taller in most situations, there isn't much you can do about it. If there is nothing you can do about it why worry? It's quite funny because I'm 6'6 myself, and I actually prefer women who are much smaller.

Author:	mapleleaf [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:37 pm ]
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Quote: I would say just be confident and show girls that you are happy with the way you look, even if you aren't. Don't let height be so involved, although it is preferable to women to have the man be taller in most situations, there isn't much you can do about it. If there is nothing you can do about it why worry? It's quite funny because I'm 6'6 myself, and I actually prefer women who are much smaller. I wasn't worrying abt it. I personally belive that if I project a man of higher values through my perosnalty, she will like me, disregarding of my looks. I have a great smile. Maybe that will cut it. But, how do I display that through my personality? Like you I think tiny petite women are cute, but I dont want to stop myself from dating a 5'6 or 5'7 woman who I find attractive, thats why we are in pickup, to turn the table around into our favor.

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Author:	0uch [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:43 pm ]
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I think your priorities are screwed up. If your trying to get a girlfriend of cold approach, is gonna be rough, especially in country like US. What you need to do is start talking to multiple women and start dating them. Screen and pick one from there.

Author:	mapleleaf [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 5:45 pm ]
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Quote: I think your priorities are screwed up. If your trying to get a girlfriend of cold approach, is gonna be rough, especially in country like US. What you need to do is start talking to multiple women and start dating them. Screen and pick one from there. So, are you saying that I should just give up approaching? And from where do I start talking multiple women if it isnt through cold approach?

Author:	Etherimp [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 7:00 pm ]
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My cousin (female) is 5'10" (I'm 5'9").. She married a guy that was 5'6". He was otherwise good looking, and masculine (a firefighter). Also a very nice guy and in great shape. If height is your only problem, you'll be fine. I'm average looking, and scrawny as hell. I have a receding hairline, less-than-perfect teeth, and I'm out of shape, and I still manage to land 10's. If a woman ever negs you on your height, tell her "we're all the same height in bed.", and proceed. Furthermore, if a woman is too snobbish to give you a chance based 100% on your height, then she's not worth your time.

Author:	mapleleaf [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 7:27 pm ]
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Quote: My cousin (female) is 5'10" (I'm 5'9").. She married a guy that was 5'6". He was otherwise good looking, and masculine (a firefighter). Also a very nice guy and in great shape. If height is your only problem, you'll be fine. I'm average looking, and scrawny as hell. I have a receding hairline, less-than-perfect teeth, and I'm out of shape, and I still manage to land 10's. If a woman ever negs you on your height, tell her "we're all the same height in bed.", and proceed. Furthermore, if a woman is too snobbish to give you a chance based 100% on your height, then she's not worth your time. You are one of the few here who understood my situation. Personally speaking, I have NO problem standing next to a girl taller than me. I love tall girls. I had no problem with my height either until yesterday when I spoke with a guy who basically told me that my life is fucked and to pull girls even from social circle will be extremely difficult for me. So, ideally speaking, my personality is good, social, cool, fun and interesting, and physically speaking, I got a good smile, got hair on my head, good teeth, no scars, but if you are are looking at me, you might think, that the only thing this guy needs to have is to be much taller. Otherwise, I am fine with myself. What I need for a woman to see me for my cool personality, and date me, and thats all.

Author:	Wolfwoodd [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 8:01 pm ]
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Quote: You are one of the few here who understood my situation. Personally speaking, I have NO problem standing next to a girl taller than me. I love tall girls. I had no problem with my height either until yesterday when I spoke with a guy who basically told me that my life is fucked and to pull girls even from social circle will be extremely difficult for me. So, ideally speaking, my personality is good, social, cool, fun and interesting, and physically speaking, I got a good smile, got hair on my head, good teeth, no scars, but if you are are looking at me, you might think, that the only thing this guy needs to have is to be much taller. Otherwise, I am fine with myself. What I need for a woman to see me for my cool personality, and date me, and thats all. I've seen really tall guys who suck with women and really short guys who are naturals and get laid all the time. With an attitude like that, I think you'll be fine. As long as you aren't insecure about your height, it will not have a big impact on your game. Be confident and learn to handle "shit tests" about your height without breaking a sweat. If you want to focus more on looks, then get a 6-pack and bulk up a bit if you can. /I really liked Ether's line about how we're all the same height in bed. =) -Wolf

Author:	mapleleaf [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 11:07 pm ]
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Quote: I've seen really tall guys who suck with women and really short guys who are naturals and get laid all the time. With an attitude like that, I think you'll be fine. As long as you aren't insecure about your height, it will not have a big impact on your game. Be confident and learn to handle "shit tests" about your height without breaking a sweat. If you want to focus more on looks, then get a 6-pack and bulk up a bit if you can. /I really liked Ether's line about how we're all the same height in bed. =) -Wolf I was never insecure until after I spoke with that PUA guy I know. He told me that my life is doomed. But after reading your post, and asking myself questions such as if a guy isn't even willing to understand women, or even trying to connect with her, and show her his good qualities, instead focusing too much on having sex, I don believe that no matter how good looking he is, he won't be able to succeed with women. However, I am stepping up to understand her, connect with her and show her that we can really get along, and even after that she still doesn't want to be with me, then there are other women for me who will love to have me. But I just couldn't accept the fact when he told me that because of my situation here, my life is doomed and being successful with women will be extremely hard. And, no I am not displaying my cool personality just because I am not 6ft tall, even if I was, I still would have put more emphasis on actually listening to what she has to say and connecting with her.

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