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Author:  xzoto [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 4:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Need help playing this out...
Met a 10/10 this past weekend. She gave me her number but the next day she told me she's not interested at this point in time because she is 'kinda seeing someone'. I dropped the convo (we were texting) there. She texted me back hours later and we chatted for awhile and she mentioned her current situation with her date isn't working out very well. I take it that she gave me her number because she's totally interested and is finding a means to break it off with her current date. I don't want to over text her and would love to just meet up with her but she's not comfortable enough at this point to hang out.

How should I keep playing this until she agrees to hang out?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 5:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Need help playing this out...
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she's not comfortable enough at this point to hang out.

How should I keep playing this until she agrees to hang out?
Give her an ultimatum: Hang out or lose your number! You don't have time for games! And the every time you think of her, want to have sex with her, your thinking about it NOW!

Your honesty will be completely disarming.

If she doesn't bite...oh fucking well!

So she's hot, there are lots more of them!
Author:  xzoto [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 5:15 pm ]
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Yeah, I've thought about that. She thinks I'm "really nice" which to me usually indicates "friend-zoned" but I believe it's NOT the case here. I don't wanna completely blow it with the ultimatum which would probably be the case now and will probably think I'm a cocky twat. I firmly believe she texted me back to feel out the situation better before agreeing to a hang out. There definitely is a lot of hot women, but this is literally the hottest one I've ever received a number from.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 5:53 pm ]
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You could tone it down a little, with even a little pre-text, build some sexual tension, then the ultimatum.


Or you could tell her your feelings, and that you would do anything for her, even run to the store for tampons!

But you have to ask yourself "Is my goal to have a very hot LJBF? Or do I want to have sex with a 10?"

If you pussy foot around very long at all....it will be LJBF!
Author:  Don Draper [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 7:12 pm ]
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Can you fault her for trying to establish some sort of comfort base-line with you, before pulling the trigger on her other attachments?

I can't.

And yes, maybe there is a whole lot of "chemistry" between you and her, but she has to rationalize it to herself why she's picking you over her other options. Instead of giving her directives and ultimatums, give her reasons that would reinforce your case.

A week to 15 days ,of solid "comfort building" and "escalation" should work out well for you. Post this period, you can ask her out and I'll guarantee it that you won't receive a negative response.
Author:  xzoto [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 8:19 pm ]
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Can you fault her for trying to establish some sort of comfort base-line with you, before pulling the trigger on her other attachments?

I can't.

And yes, maybe there is a whole lot of "chemistry" between you and her, but she has to rationalize it to herself why she's picking you over her other options. Instead of giving her directives and ultimatums, give her reasons that would reinforce your case.

A week to 15 days ,of solid "comfort building" and "escalation" should work out well for you. Post this period, you can ask her out and I'll guarantee it that you won't receive a negative response.
This is essentially what I was thinking. We ended our conversation last night by saying "goodnight" and have yet to text her today. Should I make a move or wait to see if she texts me first?
Author:  Don Draper [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 9:55 pm ]
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Ideally, the "investment" in any sort of relationship should be fifty-fifty. But, ideal situations don't really exist.

At the starting, you will have to invest the bulk of the attention, 60-40, sometimes even a 70-30 split, until you've got her 'interested' in you. After that point, she will be the one equaling or exceeding your investment. Trust me.

Right now, you will have to initiate more conversations, make more calls, put in more efforts and all that jazz. But, if you manage to successfully pique her curiosity in you to the point when she wants to do and know more things about you/with you, then it will all be smooth sailing.

Go forth and make your move.
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