you can only become manipulated if you allow it,
you want her to stop playing games?, stop playing them yourself, stop being such a girl about this
you tell her what you want, and why, she either complies or does not comply,
there are no games beyond this, her actions will speak volumes
since this is what you have somewhat done (although from the sounds of your post, not sure if your intentions were very clear, even though they were understood), and she has not complied, this means that she is un-available, deal with it, it is how it is
you are also aware she has a boyfriend (this is most likely why she is non-compliant), and she is not available, but she is still attracted to you (judging by her flirting), and you have to be around her, so now you have to make a descision, keep giving her attention, and getting attention in return that you are well aware won't lead to anything, the more you react to her and invest in this, the more needy for her you will become, or... you can just cut off the attention, cut off the flirting, be professional at work, stop shitting where you eat, and cut it out all together, stop investing in her, and meet other women since you are obviously becomming emotionally invested in a girl that is not invested in you enough to escalate with you over her boyfriend, and further investment from your end will only lead to oneitis
now, there is the third option, but I suspect you can't follow suit on this one, still be her friend at work, but DON'T BE NEEDY, stop thinking of this girl in the tense of you and her being something, some sort of item, stop trying to get her, stop focusing on her, be normal at work, don't hit on her unless it is fun to do so, don't talk to her unless it is fun to do so, don't try to get anything from her or get her to do anything with you, don't try to be her boyfriend, just de-tach from her, don't stop doing any of the above things in order to ''get her'' that completely defeats the purpose, just actually stop trying, you don't need her, only hang with her from moment to moment when it suits the moment and will increase your enjoyment or you can make things better then how they are, no other reason, not to get something, she can get you if the moment is right, but don't go out of your way to get her, she is not needed
^ for this to work, you have to actually not care, and for this to be the case, usually that means you actually have some options, and if you are in this headspace, getting her or not is irrelivant completely, if you are emotionally investing in some girl just cause she smiles at you, talks with you, and flirts from time to time, this would show me that this isn't exactly the case and you probably are not meeting enough new women on a regular basis
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