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| Author: | Lerroy [ Sat Aug 04, 2012 3:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | She dumped me, what is the right thing to do? |
She dumped me, what is the right thing to do? Well i got into a relationship with this girl that i had known for one year. We started going out 3 months ago and we were really happy together. We both said we love each other and we would make things work out, but she went to mexico to see family for two months. During the first month we always saw each other,had fun, and got lovey duvy. During her time in mexico we still expressed our love on SPAM and facebook and we talked all the time. Now a week before she came back she told me through SPAM that she can't get over her ex that she had been with for one year and the love she had for me was a lie, the thing is he cheated on her and she still misses him? WTF?! Honestly i balled my eyes out and expressed everything in my mind about how i don't want to lose her and we could work things. It has left me shattered and i feel like the world is going to end. She told me that in the future we could get back together when i forget about my ex. But i know thats a straight up lie. Well i need some help on what to do now, this all happened last night. Will she ever regret this desicion? Will she ever return? I am about ready to initiate "No Contact" once and for all. |
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| Author: | Tr@veler [ Sat Aug 04, 2012 3:33 pm ] |
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Stop contacting her. Delete her number, unfriend her on Facebook, delete every single text message you sent and received to and from her. Read up on Pickup. Go out to bars, clubs, shopping malls, Starbucks and talk to those fine girls you see. Build a connection with them. Go on dates with them. If your now ex contacts you, it is your choice to respond or not. If you want to get over her completely, delete the message she sends you and don't reply. If you do send something back, be uplifting and really happy. Keep your messages short. None of that "I want you back, I will wait for you, I hope you are happy" bullshit. No. You are moving on and it's her loss. She fucked up and now, if she does have feelings for you (and she probably does), then it's her fault for losing you. You were willing to treat her well. And she gave you? "My love for you was a lie". Fuck her. Seriously, move on. She doesn't DESERVE you. I know it's difficult. It may take a few weeks. But it is crucial you talk to other people, and build a connection with new people, especially new girls. Good luck. |
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| Author: | Lerroy [ Sat Aug 04, 2012 3:37 pm ] |
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Thanks Tr@veler, i appreciate the input. I'll delete everything related to her. |
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| Author: | Snarg [ Sat Aug 04, 2012 3:45 pm ] |
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I'm really sorry to hear that. A breakup is a horrible thing to experience, and no matter how many you go through in life, they never get easier. Psychologists have determined that a breakup is just as painful as physical affliction, and I might even argue that in some cases, it's worse. No matter what ends up happening with this situation, though, it will get better and you will be happy again someday. To answer your question, yes, she will most likely regret her decision at some point. It might not be enough regret to where she'd want to make an effort to getting back with you, but most women go through a period of regret after a breakup. She might realize she made a mistake and that she's missing out on all the good things about you, or she might not. One thing that did not do you any favors was to plead with her that the two of you can work it out. That will only drive her away, so make sure you don't do that anymore. The best way to handle a breakup is to cut contact and move on. You don't have to go out and find another girl right away (in fact, I recommend you DON'T do that), but you should definitely go out with your guy friends. Exercise daily and rebuild confidence in yourself. At some point, she might regret her decision and come running back to you. Do not bank on this happening as you won't ever get the closure you need to move on if you are waiting for her. The whole point of "no contact" is to give your head time to clear so you aren't so emotional toward her anymore. That way, if she does contact you, you can make a logical decision as to whether she's even worth getting back with again. If she doesn't contact you, you've already moved on. It's a win-win scenario. |
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| Author: | BITmixit [ Sat Aug 04, 2012 9:13 pm ] |
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Best thing thats happened to you mate in my opinion. Fuck that shit, telling you her love for you was a lie. Thats fucking cutting it deep. First of all: 1: Follow Tr@vs advice. 2: Get yourself some bros and get out on the game scene. Don't worry about the shit that she's done to you, take it as a life's lesson. However always remember how much it hurt as the next relationship you have you can prepare for it mentally. I used to get all "omg why? i will always wait for you" but now if a girl dumps me then I'm all "Your loss, I'm a great guy. cya." and get over it by the weekend. Life is far too short to live it any day being miserable. Especially over women, they get annoying after a while anyway. |
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| Author: | Victor_S [ Sun Aug 05, 2012 11:18 am ] |
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Great advice given above but I would be wary about deleting all contacts because curiosity might kill you. I would definitely ignore her though. |
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| Author: | Jason Stackhouse [ Sun Aug 05, 2012 1:24 pm ] |
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Tr@veler wrote you gr8 advice. Meet more girls. Really. The only way to pick up and have a girl in a LTR is to be ready for losing her. You have to be happy and have a successful life without women to be a pussy magnet. When it will happen it's possible that your ex will want to return to you, but than ask yourself: Would I be with that girl if there were 2 hot blonds, 10s that will do whatever I want togther in threesome. |
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