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Author:  LD [ Fri Aug 03, 2012 11:47 am ]
Post subject:  conversational examples
Hey guys,

due to circumstances, i have been forced to take public transport to get to work. While i was pissed at first, i realized this was an excellent opportunity to 'approach', or open.

Following are two conversations from the last two days. Monday and tuesday, i had the company of some friends.

You can critique if you want to, but i do mean to share these as examples. I have seen multiple threads lately on how to connect, make conversation or just approaching/opening at all.

Here comes the first:

This one is a HB8. Pretty nice body, but she had these mysterious dark eyes. I like :). She was just sitting there, while people were gathering as the train was about to arrive. I opened on the moment we are all packed in front of the door to enter. Smileys are used to indicate ... a smile (duuh :)). The final trainstop btw is at the coast.

Me: hey! So, you're travelling alone?
her: hey :). No, actually i am going to work. How about you?
me: Ooh, unlucky you :). I just stopped working for today, heading home

she gets on the train first, i follow her. lots of people, not many seats are available. Se sits next to 2 other people. Of of those people had his backpack on the only leftover seat. So i said: Move you things please, i would like to sit her. And so i sat right across of her.

Her (she re-initiates contact): so, where do you work?
me: oh i work in Bla. I am a computer nerd working for Company Blabla
her: oh, cool! But you dont look like a computer nerd
me: that is because you dont know me well enough. but i can tell you: under my clothes here i am wearing my suspenders.
her: haha
me: where are going now? where do you work?
her: I work at the beach, catering job. My dad had a restaurant there.
me: i would say: cool! but i dont think you will have a lot of work today (very bad weather here, rain all the time)
her: hehe yeah i know. Pfff, travelling all this way, actually for nothing. Thank god i get paid for doing nothing :)
me: haha yeah. where are you from? I think you are from blabla
her: yeah i am.
me: your accent is a give away :).
her: haha, but so is yours! have you ever been there?
me: yeah, actually i have. For *name of well known metal festival*
her: haha, really? You dont look like a metalhead at all!
me: i know, but... that is because you dont know me :). My suspenders have spikes.
her: haha cool!
me: do you like your catering job? Because tbh, i would absolutely hate it. with this weather, you must have packs of nagging tourists
her: pff, tell me about it! I like the job, but i hate the rude customers
me: oooh, rude customers... yeah, forgot about those! what is the worst thing that has happened to you recently?
her: (thinking)... pfff, there are so many! But this one stick out! .... (tells a story about a very rude customer, some wanna be millionaire, apparently young enough to be arrogant as hell )...
me: holy shit. :O you are kidding, right?
her: nooooope, i am not :)
me: darn, i would feel like... nut kicking. I mean, shit, i wouldnt be able to control myself!
her: haha yeah, i know, right! i felt like throwing the fish at his head and pick at his eyes with the fork! (the dude ordered fish)
me: haha, dangerous! You are a freaking hellcat! I like dangerous :D but i would have never thought you are so wild. You look so... zen
her: haha! that is because you dont know me well enough
me: :D. Cool, very cool. any other dangerous stuff i should know about you?
her: hmmm let me think.... yeah, i lived in South Africa for 8 months.
me: Omg, that is dangerous indeed, because you are white.. and female ( racism is still a big issue there)
her: yeah, and (here she goes into story mode, very passionate about her stay there. i jsut knod, say wow a couple of times etc)
her: ... and then i came back! and the weird thing is, i didnt love this country anymore
me: that's it! I totally love you! You are like... my Columbus!
(you should have seen her face at that moment :D.. Unfortunately, i had reached my destination. so i had to go. I was getting up). Here, this is my name. Add me on facebook. You look cool, but i am not yet giving my phone number. I have had bad experiences with that (which is true btw). Lets meet again, we can continue this adventure perhaps with a nice cocktail.
her: ok. that would be awesome! :)

I am not into facebook gaming. But its convenient for setting up another rendez vous.

This was the first one.

cheers
Author:  LD [ Fri Aug 03, 2012 1:12 pm ]
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The other girl was a HB9. Very pretty. I was already sitting in the train, for once, he was early. I had my laptop open and i was actually a bit pissed at myself. While i was waiting for the train to arrive, a nice blonde passed by, in a hurry, loaded with a shitload of suitcases. She passed by and sat down at the utmost end of hte trainstop. at one side, i wanted to open her, but i didnt feel like walking the entire end. and i was in quarrel with myself because i didnt approach for such a stupid reason.

Anyhow, from the corner of my eye i saw her entering the train. i looked up from my laptop, had a neutral face and she comes sitting across of me. Excellent. I start closing down my laptop while she gets her tablet pc out.

me: hey
her: hey
me: (pointing at her tablet) are you satisfied with that thing?
her: you mean this?
me: yeah
she: no, not at all (while unplugging one of her headset thingies)
me: oh really? what brand is it? Is it an apple or samsung?
she: none of them. Its a cheap one. guess i got what i paid for
me: yeah, and obviously nothing more :)
her: hehehe yeah indeed :).
me: so you kinda bought it on an impulse
her: yeah i did, and actually i dont really know why i did
me: hehe yeah, you usually get that with impulses :D You dont look like an impulsive person though. So, you use it to play music on?
her: yeah, and for internet surfing. To break those long boring train rides
me: heheh yeah, those rides. I know exactly how you feel :)

(here i just shut up, turn my head and start looking out of the window. After about 20 seconds...)

her: so.. why do you ask?
me: (i smiled on the inside, this was a very good sign). Well, you see, i am a computer nerd working at Company Bla. Soon, i will be forced to work on one of those things, but i actually hate them.
her: ooh, at Company Bla? That is cool!
me: yeah, indeed it is. its a very cool company to work for.

(she starts toggling on that tablet and i resume at looking back through the window. She puts her tablet away ...)

her: well, i bet they have cool extras for their employees at Company Bla.
me: (this is it, i just know that i am game. this is the second time she just re-initiates the conversation) oh yeah, you bet there are! One of our biggest clients is a tour operator and we get major discounts if we book our trips from their catalogues
her: Oh my god! i should better go work at your company!
me: :D yeah, i assume you like to travel then?
her: hell yeah!
me: oh that is cool :D me too! You have made many travels already then?
her: naah not that much
me: tell me, what is the most cool trip you have made so far? The one that still gives you shivers when you think about it
her: ... (thinking) hmm i think it was Greece. (here she tells in short about her trip. how cool it was, about hte great SPAM, etc etc. Really, her eyes were shining when she spoke of it. So i decided to make use of that!)
me: hehehe look at those eyes! You are really reliving it, right?
her: yeah
me: while you are thinking about that SPAM again, how did you feel on that trip?
her: well... i kinda felt free
me: oh that is cool. I like freedom and i like people who feel free. Yeah, i can imagine, with that warm weather, not a single care in your head... the ocean on the background... i would feel pretty free as well
her: *sigh* yeah
(i love it when this happens. So lets break that feeling in hopes of getting it back later on in the convo)
me: well, where do you work? you dont seem to happy about it....
her: i work at PooPoo (major bank in our country).
me: oh well, that looks cool though. what do you do there?
her: callcenter
me: ouch
her: haha, yeah indeed!
me: common you gotta tell me, the worst customer today, what was he like?
her: well not a customer, it was a coworker from another settlement (short story on how they always look down on people from the callcenter)
me: hehehe yeah. i can feel you right there. I would hate that job, from the core of my hearth. I would never have the energy to stay cool like you did. if telephones could kill, i swear to god, i would kill all of them jerks!
her: haha, so you are a massmurderer?
me: massmurder? Girl, i am talking genocide here! :D
her: haha. but yeah, i try to stay cool at one side, but i am not going to let people walk all over me either!
me: and right you are! Damn girl, i like women with a bit of guts and wit!
her: (all smiles and glitters). but i am actually looking for another job.
me: well, we still have openings at our callcenter :). as i said, its a really cool company. And did i mention the parties yet?
her: :D nooo, you didnt! Parties? sounds exciting :D
me: ooh it is! and when i say party, i really mean... PARTY!
her: oh really?
me: yeah really. (i start talking about the parties thrown, in short). but hey, i might have some pictures!
her: oh cool. but, are you sure they are meant for my eyes?
me: well, i am going to look, and if there is truly embarrassing stuff in there, i am just going to say that i cant find them :)
her: haha, ok
me: (getting my laptop out, starting it up) here is a cool picture of how they transformed our parking lot. The dj set (which was huge btw), the bar and lightset...
she: cool! but hey, there are more pictuere there.
me: (silence with some strange look on my face)
her: haha, common, i ve like only seen 4 or 5 pictures!
me: you have seen enough missy :D. If you want to see more, you should come work for us!
her: yeah, seems cool, but i dont want to do callcenter anymore. I am really looking for something else
me: aah cool, like what? What would be your dream job?
her: a sales representative
me: omg... really? i think that is truly sexy. girl, you are my dream woman. where have you been!
her: hahaha, really? why?
me: well, for starters, i have been a sales representative after my hours for about 8 years now. I recently quit, because i got other plans. I love sales. I love the techniques, talking to people and most of all... i love the freedom (ding dong, lets trigger her happy feeling again).
(here i go in some detail describing this feeling of freedom while doing this kind of work. If my works were a fishing hook, i would have caught a whale).
her: yeaaaaaah... that is totally what i am looking for.
me: that is why i like you. What is holding you back?
her: well, its hard to find a job. i ve been looking and looking, but there arent many opportunities cut out for me. htey all ask x amount of years of experience. And my boyfriend keeps telling (KABLAMO. here she stops in the middle of her sentence)... yheah i have a boyfriend.
me: yeah, that is cool, no problem. and he keeps telling you what?
her: well, that is should be glad that i have job and that it is not a good time to change jobs. he keeps telling me htat i should go for security instead of throwing away a good paid job.
me: well, yeah, i can see why he tells you that... but ofcourse... if you want to be free.. and also the thrill, the excitement of a new job... its quite an adventure for somebody. Something to look forward for somebody like you! (take that boyfriend).
her: yeah i know! But i am not going to listen to him. You know, its my life, my choice and i really want this!
me: again, right you are! You got to stand up for yourself there. Even though i am sure he only says it because he doesnt want to see you get in trouble
her: yeah, i know, but that is soo boring. and who is he to tell me what i can and cannot do in my life
me: (i truly love this chick at this point. she got balls, figuratively ofcourse... i hope) btw, my name is LD.
her: mine is Ballsygirl
me: :) nice to meet you
her: yeah, same back at you
me: i want to see you again some time. Add me on facebook.
her: how do you spell your name?
me: got something to write?
her: nope; but wait, mine is easy. You add me.
me: ok.
we then had a short conversation about building houses in our country, and then it was time to leave her as i had reached my destination.
me: well, have a nice day. we will be seeing each other someday :)
her: bye!

and that was it!

cheers!
Author:  aClassic [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 8:11 pm ]
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Great Stuff! Keep em coming!

Lots to learn from this.

That is some great coversational skill.
Author:  charblad [ Tue Aug 07, 2012 10:38 pm ]
Post subject: 
ok critic from me
#1 was good yea, but I prefer having the women offer their contact info to me, or asking; I've given my number out ONCE and never had them respond, everytime they give out their number we get much further; being that "safe" guy with girls doesn't usually go over very well, I'm sure if you had your reasons you'll just dismiss this

#2 holy crap, I skipped 90% of the conversation and so should've you (bad grammar, gets the point across) after she reinitiated twice you could've ramped up the interest a LOT more than talking about your jobs; she likes you, so stop building rapport and start building attraction; the way it sounded you should've been able to kiss this girl before you left the train but your mouth was to busy talking

Not just to critic, your game had good elements but I prefer to show the weak ones than praise the good - now post about did they message, date, or flake you
Author:  LD [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 6:27 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
ok critic from me
#1 was good yea, but I prefer having the women offer their contact info to me, or asking; I've given my number out ONCE and never had them respond, everytime they give out their number we get much further; being that "safe" guy with girls doesn't usually go over very well, I'm sure if you had your reasons you'll just dismiss this

#2 holy crap, I skipped 90% of the conversation and so should've you (bad grammar, gets the point across) after she reinitiated twice you could've ramped up the interest a LOT more than talking about your jobs; she likes you, so stop building rapport and start building attraction; the way it sounded you should've been able to kiss this girl before you left the train but your mouth was to busy talking

Not just to critic, your game had good elements but I prefer to show the weak ones than praise the good - now post about did they message, date, or flake you
Hey!

thanks for the comments! By showing the weak elements, you give me a chance to improve, so no problem!

about the telephonenumbers: i dont really care. i am quite confident that they will contact me, and if not, well, guess she wasnt all that much interested. that is how i do it.

you are right about the second conversation, except for one thing: there is no way any woman/girl would let me kiss her on a train, except perhaps if there was nobody else in the compartment. But it wasn't, it was crowded.

How do you suggest to make convo #2 better? Could you give some pointers of what you whould have done different, perhaps by example?

Ciao mate!
Author:  charblad [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 7:33 am ]
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For #2, take her OFF the train, but not literally, sit down next to her to compare laptops or so you can hear her better or because a couple mightwant to sit together and you're both taking single seats, then brush her with your arm *accidently*, then on purpose touching her because you made a joke, and now your telling a detailed story and while explaining where you got hit while doing something you touch the inside of her leg, even if you don't go FOR the kiss you can see what type of scene thatd create and how engrossed she would be, she might even miss her stop
I've had my "in the moment" moments, nothing else is going on and noone is watching you in a crowded room, if you'd rather you can lead up to just before a kiss, and tease her saying "next time we meet"
Author:  LD [ Wed Aug 08, 2012 8:06 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
For #2, take her OFF the train, but not literally, sit down next to her to compare laptops or so you can hear her better or because a couple mightwant to sit together and you're both taking single seats, then brush her with your arm *accidently*, then on purpose touching her because you made a joke, and now your telling a detailed story and while explaining where you got hit while doing something you touch the inside of her leg, even if you don't go FOR the kiss you can see what type of scene thatd create and how engrossed she would be, she might even miss her stop
I've had my "in the moment" moments, nothing else is going on and noone is watching you in a crowded room, if you'd rather you can lead up to just before a kiss, and tease her saying "next time we meet"
You got a point mate!

thanks and cheers
Author:  Criss hell [ Sat Aug 11, 2012 10:46 am ]
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LD : in word I can say it was amazing.
I got # closed from hb 10 (gorgeous hb I've ever met) just by memorizing your conversation. I am not native and this tupe of conversation hugely helps me.
Especially the travel part and feeling free hugely made the difference.
Dude I am kinda nerd so if you keep posting similar stuff probably you will simply change my life. It's 4 am in the morning. sorry for the grammar.
I am waiting for more cool conversation or links to them.
Thank you again!
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