Hey mate.
Unfortunatly for you i can hardly pick something from the conversations (as i guess there are two in here) that was actually good.
what was the deal with the bedtime? Disneyland? are you going to bring me flowers or chocolate? I mean, common mate, would like to get flowers? Why do you bring those things up?
You neg her 2 times in a row without any reason to do so, you blabber something about a gift, just like that, out of the blue. That is all bad stuff. Really bad stuff. It seems like an act, you are acting like you dont care and like you dont crave for her attention. Unfortunately for you, your act gets blown in the second conversation.
Then the question about your own profile pic... that was like a total cry for confirmation. Not cool. One would say you dont have much confidence around women.
And then the biggest mistake, one that is almost in every piece of text you wrote her except when you apologize and your act falls apart: You want to go in security, not journalism. So stop interviewing women  . In other words, stop asking questions just to get the conversation going, asking questions where the answer doesnt interest you at all. At one moment, that becomes significant clear, where you ask a question just to leave the conversation.
the entire interaction could be summarized into one word: desperation.
But enough with the breaking down! For me, that was the easy part.
First off, i do want to say to you that i very much admire the fact that you wrote your conversation here, where it is open for harsh criticism. Respect for that.
Secondly: Get rid of trying to be like you dont care. You do care, you do want to get somewhere with her! Also, your interaction must completely change. When i read the convo, i have to feeling that you feel like you are each others opposite and you need to convince her to be attracted and interested in you, while acting like you dont care.
Instead of that, it is you who needs to be interested in her, while you are not depending on the result. I hope you understand what i mean here, but lets go a bit deeper into it. It is ok to show genuine interest in her. By that i mean: ask questions from which the answer really interests you. I know you just want to bang this chick, but... is she really good enough for you? Does she meet your requirements? Perhaps you havent had many experiences (which is ok) and you dont really know the difference between quality women and seamen bags.
This is something you should think about. What does it mean to you: a sexy woman? If it is only a great body, then you are missing out on some serious fun and every once and a while you will get yourself into trouble because of emotional chaos from her side.
When you know what you are looking for, look for it. Ask her questions like, what do you like doing? how would you react when this or that is happening? Dreams? if you reach your dream, how would she feel?
Also, relate to what she is saying! Ooh, yeah, i totally understand! i would feel almost the same in that situation! Omg, you like to travel? me too, i feel like columbus must have felt when i land that airplane in some exotic land.
you know, stuff like that. relate and connect. Let that be the first steps you need to master in order to continue. You will see, if you ask then for a get together, they will be more willing to do so.
I hope i made some sense. If not, and you have questions, shoot! That is what we are here for.
About the girl from the conversation: you can still talk to her, but i honestly think you blew it already. Still, if you still wants to talk, practice what i was saying here.
cheers and good luck!
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