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Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 3:07 am ]
Post subject:  How to Handle this Situation?
OK, so this is fucking retarded. I know. I'm in highschool, so I'm dealing with some really stupid fucking girls. Just thought I'd make that clear.

So this girl is in my social circle so this was probably a bad idea to start off with, but anyway..

Hung out with this girl on multiple occasions before with a group of people. First time we hung out it was a group of 6, second time it was like a group of 4.
But I've seen her around and shit at school throughout the year, etc.

Started texting her, had some extremely interesting conversations, but I probably fucked up and didn't make it sexual enough. Anyway, she enjoyed some of it (she posted screenshots of the conversation to facebook) because it was so funny.

So then I was like "fuck maybe this chick likes me"
Looking back I'm like "fuck I was getting friendzoned"

Anyway, a few weeks ago I asked her out on a date. She said yes, I texted the next day and confirmed that I'd pick her up at 7. So she texted back and said "oops I forgot, I cant go today. Sorry!"
So I just didn't answer, because she didn't make any effort to reschedule or re-initiate.
Fast forward to like 5 days ago. There were some festivities set up in my town (like a fair)
She was working one of the shops or some shit and texted me and said "hey come talk to me"
I just ignored it.

Some girl I met there was all over me, I ended up walking around with her on my back lol. So I think the target saw this. I guess it was kinda like a DHV.

So she texts me again that night, I answered, we had a short conversation, and eventually it ends where I sorta poked fun at her small boobs (in a fun manner, not being an ass)
She replied with some shit like "Goodbye :'("
So I was just like "Bye!"
Wasn't gonna be like "OMFG IM SO SORRY I DIDNT MEAN IT CAN I TOSS YOUR SALAD ASAP OMGOMGMG"

So like two hours later she texts back and is like "you're such an asshole! >:| lol"

So I was like. Yeah, fuck it, I don't feel like answering.

At this point I'm just like, WTF is going on...why do you keep talking to me. Do you wanna fuck? No? Do you want me as a friend? Do you just miss my funny text conversations? WTF do you want from me?

So the next day she texts some shit, turns into a small conversation. Tried to make it kinda sexual, completely didn't work, she spewed the " I thought we were all best friends" bullshit
I just didn't answer after that.

So fastforward to 3 days ago. She texts and says "hey when are we gonna play mini golf?" (this was original date I had set up where she flaked on me)

I was like, fuck it. I'll give it a try. I can't just ignore her because she's in my social circle. So I text back and say "Saturday at 8?"
She's like "i have to work"
I was like "oh, alright, well, we'll figure something out"

At this point I'm just thinking she wants to hang out as a friend or BFF or some shit because she felt sorry for me because she turned me down, so I'm like...yeah, fuck that, so I didn't really make an effort at scheduling something.
So today at work I get another text
"lets do something tonight!"
I'm like "I cant"
She goes "why"
I'm like "work"
She's like " do you work tomorrow?"
I'm like "yeah, I work until close so I can't"
She's like "oh, booo :("


So somebody please explain to me what the fuck is going on here. I've heard before she doesn't want a relationship...so did I somehow scare her and make it seem like I wanted a relationship? Could she still possibly wanna fuck? I mean, I don't think so, but am I missing something? What am I to this girl? Am I just some cool guy? Am I getting friendzoned? I just can't figure out why she wants to hang out this bad, because it's almost getting kinda obvious she doesn't wanna fuck.
Is she doing this because she feels sorry for me? WTF?

And I still value this girl, she's in my social circle, so I can't just like completely ignore her and move on. Like WTF do I with this?
Thanks.
Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 3:34 am ]
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shameless self bump
Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:19 pm ]
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Anything, guys?
Author:  JacquesMaurice [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:24 pm ]
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Do you want a relationship with this girl, a friendship or just sex?

What is your preferred outcome?
Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:27 pm ]
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Sex bro, but it looks like that isn't happening... And I really don't wanna be a texting buddy/bff type of shit, but she's in my social circle, so I feel like a dick ignoring her.
Author:  Pua-novice-to-master [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:40 pm ]
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You my friend have been BFFed however she still feels slightly attracted
to you, try more playful kino, and create a jealousy plot line, by you
being playful with another girl, she will realise she likes you, you can
ignore her for a while while doing this, then when you go out with her
just the 2 of you, try a kiss close tactic try mysterys one cos it gives you
something to fall back on if she says no and you won't lose anything.
If she don't want a relationship its even better cos all you'll be having
is a bit of fun :D But don't make it awkward if it fails just act like it was
nothing and every1 else won't be that bothered but if you make it awkward
it could ruin you social circle just a word of warning.
Author:  JacquesMaurice [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:45 pm ]
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My honest answer is that to retrieve this to the point where she will be prepared to sleep with you is going to take a fair amount of work. If your desires are only sex then I would say you are better served just going after other girls from scratch. The work that you would have to put in to re-build comfort and trust with this girl do not justify the reward.

Also, let's say you did sleep with her. Even if you did properly manage expectations and state your availability was only physical, once the deed was done you would most likely face a fair amount of hostility from your mutual friends and acquaintances.

Balance the pros and cons and try to look at it objectively.
Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:46 pm ]
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Yeah that's what I thought, what gives it away that she feels slightly attracted to me? You sure about that?
Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:49 pm ]
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My honest answer is that to retrieve this to the point where she will be prepared to sleep with you is going to take a fair amount of work. If your desires are only sex then I would say you are better served just going after other girls from scratch. The work that you would have to put in to re-build comfort and trust with this girl do not justify the reward.

Also, let's say you did sleep with her. Even if you did properly manage expectations and state your availability was only physical, once the deed was done you would most likely face a fair amount of hostility from your mutual friends and acquaintances.

Balance the pros and cons and try to look at it objectively.

Yeah, right, I agree. I just don't wanna be all BFF lovey dovey bullshit, but I don't wanna completely ignore her either.
Author:  JacquesMaurice [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 2:58 pm ]
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If you don't want the BFF stuff then don't engage in it - simple.

If she calls you out on it then openly tell her that doing that isn't your gig. You wouldn't be doing anything wrong
Author:  looper [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 3:25 pm ]
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If you don't want the BFF stuff then don't engage in it - simple.

If she calls you out on it then openly tell her that doing that isn't your gig. You wouldn't be doing anything wrong
Okay.
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