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Author:  GKS [ Sun Jul 22, 2012 11:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Damn it! Oneitus!
So I went on a date with this HB9 a while ago. We fooled around a bit, I fingered her in the park and we did a bit of dry hump and heavy makeout then I decided to freeze her out because I was a bit upset that she wouldn't look at me directly while we were having conversation on the date. She didn't respond when I texted 2 days after and again couple days after that. I deleted her number but she was still my friend on FB.

Recently I commented on her status and she started responding back. Tease and poke fun as her as if nothing happened, I kept everything aloof. I did spontaneously invite her to do stuffs 2 weeks ago, she said she was busy. I sent her a message on FB today.
Quote:
Me: Hey I want to see Dark Knight but I'm afraid I might get shot. So you're coming with me, I can just push you in front if anything happens :) Tuesday night?
HB9: Haha wish I could, but I'm broke! And I might possibly have plans
Me: Bummer! Still let's grab a coffee sometimes. There are a few things I want to ask you.
HB9: Ask me?
Me: Tch you're no fun. I guess I'll spell it out for you. I'd like a second chance with you and take you out on a proper date. We got on the wrong feet last time and I was upset bc you wouldn't even look at me while we were talking. We had a great chemistry and I don't want to waste it because of some misunderstanding.
......... SENT...... AND no reply.

Then I realized how AFC that last message sounds. I think I've having oneitus for this girl, I do want to win her back since she has good potential to be a gf. Any suggestion on how to go from here or anything wrong about what I have been doing?
Author:  Zolstice [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:08 am ]
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Deny, blame her. Make it sound like it's HER mistake and that she should be the one asking you out and that you're the nice one for giving her a chance to rectify her last mistake.

Should have been:

Freeze out

Tease her on FB how she can't even hold eye contact on a first date

When she responses tell her you'll give her one more chance and to meet you at X on X day.

If she does not comply, move on.
Author:  GKS [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:14 am ]
Post subject: 
I should have worded that last message different. It would be so much better as "Tch you're no fun. I'm giving you a second chance since you might not be able to hold eye contacts last time bc you were nervous ;)"

But I suppose I can always reframe to that if she does reply.
Author:  Dr. Jones [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:31 am ]
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She said she's broke AND might possibly have plans. It's like, "Well one excuse just won't do, I'll throw two at him for funsies." What up with that?

Regardless of her being fickle, I hope all works out.
Author:  GKS [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:32 am ]
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Quote:
She said she's broke AND might possibly have plans. It's like, "Well one excuse just won't do, I'll throw two at him for funsies." What up with that?

Regardless of her being fickle, I hope all works out.
Haha yea I saw that one coming too. Especially at the "might" "possibly" have plan. I was lost to my oneitus frustration for a moment there. But I usually have no problem fixing my oneitus. If she doesn't reply, I'll just move on since I just got 3 new fresh numbers today :D
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:52 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Deny, blame her. Make it sound like it's HER mistake and that she should be the one asking you out and that you're the nice one for giving her a chance to rectify her last mistake.

Should have been:

Freeze out

Tease her on FB how she can't even hold eye contact on a first date

When she responses tell her you'll give her one more chance and to meet you at X on X day.

If she does not comply, move on.
Um...... do you understand what a freeze out is designed to do?

She's already NOT complied - to anything. Freezing out someone who is ignoring you - isn't freezing her out - it's common sense.

Best,


RR
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:54 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:

Haha yea I saw that one coming too. Especially at the "might" "possibly" have plan. I was lost to my oneitus frustration for a moment there. But I usually have no problem fixing my oneitus. If she doesn't reply, I'll just move on since I just got 3 new fresh numbers today :D

.....and.... if you're getting new numbers, it isn't oneitis.

You fingered a chick, didn't escalate properly enough to either close or have her want another date.

She's broke? Seriously, why would that be a factor? I pay for a date - if it's a date. That'd never even be an issue.

Move on - she did the night you fingered her.

Best,

RR
Author:  GKS [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 1:03 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:

.....and.... if you're getting new numbers, it isn't oneitis.

You fingered a chick, didn't escalate properly enough to either close or have her want another date.

She's broke? Seriously, why would that be a factor? I pay for a date - if it's a date. That'd never even be an issue.

Move on - she did the night you fingered her.

Best,

RR
Actually I could have close it but I didn't have a condom with me and she isn't on the pill. I only reinitiated contacts because she kept complaining about how she is lonely and want to find a guy on her statuses. But you're right. She did move on and I should be too.
Author:  GKS [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 2:46 am ]
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She just replied "I suppose, it depends on what you want to do. I honestly just wasn't feeling a lot of chemistry."

Wonder if I should go caveman on this or be nice.
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 2:46 am ]
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Yeah, that's the point...

I'm not trying to beat you up... just making fact - her failure to contact you is confirmation.

Sucks - truly....

But - there's always another woman....

Best,



RR
Author:  GKS [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 3:08 am ]
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Your advice is always right on the spot RR. All those experiences you have do speak the truth. :D I told her being fuck buddies would be ideal for now and we'll see after we spend more times together.
Author:  IwantEasyLove [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 4:56 am ]
Post subject: 
your texts are in intolerably in poor taste.
Author:  IwantEasyLove [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 5:01 am ]
Post subject: 
your text are too long. your text arent funny!
Author:  RetiredRodeo [ Mon Jul 23, 2012 12:11 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
She just replied "I suppose, it depends on what you want to do. I honestly just wasn't feeling a lot of chemistry."

Wonder if I should go caveman on this or be nice.
Wow...

Do whatever you're feeling.... Myself, I'd not spend any energy on this chick. She likes to pronounce the fact she's not interested.

Seriously, I'd ignore her. Drop any contact. What's the point? If you run into her later on down the road, re-frame and see if she's thawed. But I'd make no effort to interract whatsoever...

WAY too many other women for that shit.

Best,


RR
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