you gotta realize that it is just congruent for some guys to talk shit, it is not that they are trying to cock block you, or amog you, or what ever it is you have built it up to be, it is just that guys way to socializing, busting peoples balls
and alot of the times people act out through emotions, and if they are giving you shit, they are insecure about something or getting a bad vibe from you, one of the easiest things you can do is re-frame and lead in a positive direction, make friends instead of enemies
when the guy has made it clear that he absolutely has no good intentions in reguards to interacting with you, the most important thing you can do, is just keep your cool, if he is getting to you, then you care, if you care, then you will react to him and play into his frame (you don't want to be aggressive, or worse, passive-aggressive, simply assertive and calm)
if you want it to stop, then be proactive about it, there are a million ways you could get that done, but just accepting the behavior and doing or saying nothing will do nothing the discourage the behavior, and eventually it will continue and you will become more and more reactive to the behavior until you have a passive aggressive spaz attack (the kind of behavior you are showing in your post i.e ''I wish I had of hit him in the face back then instead of not.. blah blah blah'')
simply ignoring and dissmissing people when they are trying to get your attention through negative means is an effective way to condition them to stop, but when I say ignoring I don't mean pay attention to him and say and do nothing and just let it slide, that is not ignoring him at all
it is more like saying, ya... cool man, looking at him like he is not cool at all then talking to someone else like he doesn't exist, if he persists you can call him out or what ever you want (frame his behavior in a negative manner), just know what ever you do, reacting to him emotionally will only bring you to do things that are exactly what he wants (if he is trolling and you get mad = you are trolled), doesn't matter if you ''win'' and arguement, you will look retarded to who ever you are with for falling into his frame and having a pissing match of egos, argueing only makes you both look bad, ignore him, pay attention to others, don't allow him to effect you emotionally, don't seek out his company or attention until his behavior changes, and if he continues to actively seek your attention in a negative manner, just start framing his behavior negatively and baiting him into continueing to present that behavior so the group will dis-approve of him along with you, after a while he just looks like a retard, and if you are congruent, it effects you not in the slightest, no one from the group will care for the negative opinion of a socially retarded person
but if you are reacting and find yourself in spaz mode, you can still dis-courage the behavior, but it will show a lack of social intelligence on your part, you can just break rapport on the person on a completely different level, and if they feel threatened either from the loss of approval from the group, or the fear of physical harm, this can motivate them to dis-continue the behavior, when there is an assosiation with negative emotions to the behavior, the behavior dis-continues (pretty much always unless the guy/girl has mental problems), this is why it is important for you to keep your emotions under control, if he/she can get you to react emotionally, then they can manipulate you the way they see fit by using your emotions agaisnt you to condition your behavior
possibly getting into fights is not nessicarily the best way to handle it, but when you are out of options, you can either escalate till it comes to fight, or dissmiss it and be a bigger man, ignoring it so that the guy lowers his precieved social value can usually get a guy to stop if he is just doing it for attention (when he realizes he can't get attention that way), but when it is just a congruent habbit for the guy and he doesn't care about the approval of the group at all and is emotionally non-reactive, sometimes the only thing that will work as motivation to stop the behavior and get this guy reacting is feeling insecure about what he is doing, and if the guy knows he can beat you in a fight, chances are he won't back down in a pissing match, because the threat of physical harm will not make him feel insecure (he sees no threat), so if you are smaller and you are going to spaz, use the whole group agaisnt him instead of just yourself, that way at least he gets voted off the island so to speak
us vs him, instead of me vs you
the same thing comes to mind with mystery's classic neg, ''is she always like this?''
but in my opinion, it is always better to just ignore someone then to get into a fight, just let it go, not even worth it, obviously if he is being malicious/dis-respectful and persistant stand up for yourself, but you don't have to beat him down or anything or start attacking him (verbally or physically), just don't give him attention, and don't actively seek his company
and even though it can come down to fight, bringing violence to the table, only ever brings more violence to the table
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