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Author:  Acid999 [ Fri Jul 20, 2012 5:55 am ]
Post subject:  She tells me she's a player?
Hey guys!

I met a really cute HB9 a couple days ago, and #closed. So im txting her and weve got quite a bit of comfort going so I start talking about relationships. Well she starts literately bragging about what a player she is and how many guys she has gotten. I have gotten quite a few IOIs and im pretty certain shes into me. How do I reply?
Author:  Blown_Away [ Fri Jul 20, 2012 6:44 am ]
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Tell her she thinks she's a damn player because she never met you... or something like that.
If the bitch is bragging for something you have to put her back to earth.
And don't talk any more about relationships she might got scared.
Talk only about sex and be confident!
Author:  MrFeelGood [ Fri Jul 20, 2012 7:39 am ]
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Tell her she thinks she's a damn player because she never met you... or something like that.
If the bitch is bragging for something you have to put her back to earth.
And don't talk any more about relationships she might got scared.
Talk only about sex and be confident!
don't take this advice! this will just turn it into a bragging war that makes it her ego vs. yours! and trust me, women's egos have been allowed to inflate FAR further than yours or mine would ever be acceptable--she will win every time. instead, ask her if she thinks she's good enough to get with someone as great as you! ;) she will undoubtedly say yes. act like you're not so sure, but willing to test her theory. then, ONLY once she's naked before you, say "wow, i guess you were right" and then just TAKE THAT SHIT ;D
Author:  MrFeelGood [ Fri Jul 20, 2012 7:45 am ]
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oh and another way to win is to reframe and spin this in the opposite direction. make it seem the absorbent number of men she's been with makes her a SLUT and not a player. the only difference is your perspective, and most women are deeply afraid of looking like a slut. don't say it to be insulting--say it like "oh wow, you're really that slutty...? i think i changed my mind, i dont want to be with you anymore..."
Author:  Don Draper [ Fri Jul 20, 2012 9:29 am ]
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I think this is the classic position in which underplaying can actually work in your favour.

Her : I'm such a player! I've been around the block so many times!

You : Well, I don't even think that I can get out of the driveway.

Now, you know it's not true, and even she knows that it's not true. But, your obvious downplaying of your 'skills' would give her an idea that you probably might've met women like her and her being a 'player' doesn't phase you much.

You'll find thousands of posts her talking about the 'frame' and it's high importance in the pick-up situation, this is what they allude to. Words are only so much, it's how you feel that drives the interaction. It could be discomfort or it could just be a slight amusement. There's a world of difference between the possibilities.
Author:  TheSeagull [ Fri Jul 20, 2012 4:44 pm ]
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to me, it smells of "shit test". the way to pass it is to be unaffected.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sat Jul 21, 2012 7:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She tells me she's a player?
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Hey guys!

I met a really cute HB9 a couple days ago, and #closed. So im txting her and weve got quite a bit of comfort going so I start talking about relationships. Well she starts literately bragging about what a player she is and how many guys she has gotten. I have gotten quite a few IOIs and im pretty certain shes into me. How do I reply?
First you need to know why so you'll know how.

She's qualifying herself to you. For a woman, she has a masculine frame. She wants the dominant role in a potential relationship. Fighting for dominance in the initial stages is counter-productive.

I have encountered something like this before. The chick was bragging how a good fuck she was and how many guys she banged. This was unusual since feminine girls have solid anti-slut defenses. Most likely, you came across to her as a non-judgmental, open-minded person which is good.

You can turn the tables around later and show your dominance. She'll appreciate it when you make her feel like a lady and that you're man enough to put her in her proper gender role. But until then, you'll have to bait her by accepting her qualification-- that you're not a threat. Make her feel secure that she's the dominant one without going overboard as an AFC.

Bait her with lead-in questions and statements like, "Since you appear to be a very skilled player, then you must be excellent in bed. Is this correct?" If she says yes either directly or indirectly, she will prove herself to you that she's awesome in bed.

Don't be sarcastic. Be genuinely interested in what she has to say. Give her enough rope to hang herself with.

When the bedminton competition comes, that's the time when you show her who's the boss. She'll melt like a puppy when she realizes that you may be humble but you carry around a big, sturdy and reliable schlong. Lady Gaga prefers disco stick to schlong but, meh, I'm no Lady Gaga fan. :twisted:
Author:  MrFeelGood [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 10:37 pm ]
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She wants the dominant role in a potential relationship.
Observant! Best way to deal with women who desire dominance is like a parent with a child who desires dominance. Just smile warmheartedly, say "thats so cute, you're too funny" and let them have their fun. She wants to be a big girl? ;) Let her be a big girl.
Author:  IwantEasyLove [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 11:36 pm ]
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"well you need to be on my bench"
Author:  AmazingArt [ Fri Jul 27, 2012 11:51 pm ]
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Hey guys!

I met a really cute HB9 a couple days ago, and #closed. So im txting her and weve got quite a bit of comfort going so I start talking about relationships. Well she starts literately bragging about what a player she is and how many guys she has gotten. I have gotten quite a few IOIs and im pretty certain shes into me. How do I reply?
This girl is attracted to you but also wants you to be attracted to her therefore making you jealous. This whole "shit test" theory applies some times but not here. This girl is clearly attracted to you but she wants to be wanted. So what you have just stay on course don't let this whole perception of "this girl is testing me I have to do something to get her back" get to you and you'll be good.
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