So basically I started hanging out with this girl, I really liked her, but since I am kinda depressed and not objective etc I wasn't able to tell if she liked me so I went slowly.. I had the basics down, acted confident, demostrated value, fair bit of kinoing etc, but as insecure I am, I never made the attempt to kiss her.. But then out of nowhere she tried to kiss me and I just froze and didn't kiss her back (happened too fast). We changed the subject and later that night I tried to man up and try to do something but I clearly had disappointed her and it wasn't going nowhere. When I brought it up some weeks later, she sayd she was interested in me and after the fail-kiss she just thought she was just stupid and I was just messing around with her (I was very flirty because I had no hope anything would happen anyway).
So last week I invited her over and we had lots of fun, connected with her (something I don't do very often, trust issues...). Suddenly we were lying on the bed just talking and messing around and this time I decided to kiss her and it worked just fine
. Then like 10 seconds later she stops me, she looked happy but also said she was confused... Appearantly I have competition now, she sayd it wouldn't be fair to the dude if she'd gone further with me now (sexually).. But I know now she wants me 
. Maybe I should have just tryd to escalate but I didnt. I'm guessing she is just careful because she still feels stupid after I didnt respond as she had hoped the first time (to the kiss) and now trys to make something happen with the other dude because he wasn't a pussy and made a move on her ^^. When I asked what feelings she had for him, she responded something like it's far from love but she still likes him too... My question now is, how can I turn this around to my advantage again and make her dump him? Because I know I was her first choice before I blew it
. By the looks they are "bf and gf" but I know for a fact they have only met a couple of times and have only made out so far.. Cant be too serious if she still likes to hang out with me like that . If it wasn't for the other dude we would be together now, even she admitted it... So any tips? Any boyfriend destroyers? Even though I think the classical ones wouldnt work, since she doesn't know him that much yet. My guess is I cant really say anything bad about that guy because she will go protective-mode (kinda did already lol), I just need to seduce her better and make her realize I'm more worthy than the other guy.. I was thinking NLP maybe? To create those emotional moments that really connect people. Or should I just let her know how I feel about her? Or would that be too needy? I really dont wanna give up on her just yet, how do I let her know she shouldnt give up on me ?
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. Any further advice is also welcome 