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How often should I text a HB7+ girl? I met her at a jam, ended with a k-close and and now i have a date with her next week. How often should I text? like everyday or couple times a week? Tryin to make it so she doesnt lose interest, but still knows im here waitin for the date while still livin life and sarging.

Stop right there! You already have the date set up. Text her the day before to touch base and confirm the date, "see you tomorrow"
I'm not sure you want her to think you're spending your time just waiting for her. It comes off as needy and afc, like you've got nothing better to do than text her? Just give her time to wonder and experience emotions in her own head. She'll a lot of the work on her own, building attraction to you. Texting and calling all the time, you're just ruining your chances.

It looks like everyone has a different opinion on this...
If its set a week in advance, theres seriously a 99% chance it's gonna flake. Who knows how strong the initial interaction was but the emotions of the interaction probably aren't going to carry on til the time of the date, but I could be wrong, I wasn't there.

Personally if you can only arrange to meetup with her a week later instead of just a few days later (because of work commitments etc), keeping her warm with text msg's every day or 2 up til the day is going to be much better than letting her go cold. Also if your initial interaction was weak because it was short or not very intense, building rapport over text can reduce your chance of a flake.

Author:	WhatisLove [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 5:13 am ]
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How often should I text a HB7+ girl? I met her at a jam, ended with a k-close and and now i have a date with her next week. How often should I text? like everyday or couple times a week? Tryin to make it so she doesnt lose interest, but still knows im here waitin for the date while still livin life and sarging.

Author:	J Roc [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 5:20 am ]
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Quote: How often should I text a HB7+ girl? I met her at a jam, ended with a k-close and and now i have a date with her next week. How often should I text? like everyday or couple times a week? Tryin to make it so she doesnt lose interest, but still knows im here waitin for the date while still livin life and sarging. pick up the phone and call her

Author:	WhatisLove [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 5:25 am ]
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Already have called her, its been a mixture between Texting and Phonecalls, same question though. How often? Day by Day or break it up. I personally think one day, than wait a couple, ETC.

Author:	Pokee [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 1:01 pm ]
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Stop right there! You already have the date set up. Text her the day before to touch base and confirm the date, "see you tomorrow" I'm not sure you want her to think you're spending your time just waiting for her. It comes off as needy and afc, like you've got nothing better to do than text her? Just give her time to wonder and experience emotions in her own head. She'll a lot of the work on her own, building attraction to you. Texting and calling all the time, you're just ruining your chances.

Author:	CaptainJackHarkness [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 2:43 pm ]
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Sigh...... Fucks sake.

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Author:	vcwriter [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 3:17 am ]
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It's funny how newbies really want hard numbers and rules. The best answer, this early in the game, is "text her less than she texts you". If you're always starting the conversation, she never has to work for your attention. If you're always available, she can't miss you. Ask yourself this: if you had actually developed your "pick up" skills to the level you aspire to, how available would you be? If you were working at the career of your dreams, would you text back in 5 seconds? If you were having a ton of fun, would you really be checking your phone? If you had an active social life, would you really be waiting to make plans with her? There's no actual number to attach to it. Just live an interesting and fulfilling life, and text her when you're bored. Or at least pretend you have an interesting and fulfilling life, until you actually do.

Author:	TheSeagull [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 3:26 am ]
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vcwriter said it better than I could. just one more warning: do not text her for the sake of it. as in, I am an AFC, this is the first pussy I could end up getting in a year, so I will keep pestering the girl to make sure "she knows I am interested". only text if you have something worthwhile to say. as the relationship progresses, the meaning of "worthwhile" can shift onto touching bases/sharing something just funny/inner jokes/... but at this early stage, you only wanna text DHVs about your amazing life, if at all.

Author:	Blown_Away [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 4:16 am ]
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Quote: Stop right there! You already have the date set up. Text her the day before to touch base and confirm the date, "see you tomorrow" I'm not sure you want her to think you're spending your time just waiting for her. It comes off as needy and afc, like you've got nothing better to do than text her? Just give her time to wonder and experience emotions in her own head. She'll a lot of the work on her own, building attraction to you. Texting and calling all the time, you're just ruining your chances. This.

Author:	PeteLDN [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 10:01 am ]
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especially in the beginning its a power game! think of it this way he who cares less has more power. Depends on the girl but if you have already gone out once or more wait... distract yourself.. wait for her to message you. responding is fine.. maybe if you want a rule wait 30 minutes before you respond to her first text. its a mind game but she will play the same game with you. I know in todays day and age we want everything instant but instant is not the key to success in my opinion. just think of it in this way how would you feel if you could have your pick in girls and one just wont give you any space... its needy and unattractive... its a shit test i hope you know, testing your neediness. Its hard but somethings are only gained through endurance. Im new to the forum so HI, i hope what i say might help. pete

Author:	goundy [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 10:12 am ]
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It looks like everyone has a different opinion on this... If its set a week in advance, theres seriously a 99% chance it's gonna flake. Who knows how strong the initial interaction was but the emotions of the interaction probably aren't going to carry on til the time of the date, but I could be wrong, I wasn't there. Personally if you can only arrange to meetup with her a week later instead of just a few days later (because of work commitments etc), keeping her warm with text msg's every day or 2 up til the day is going to be much better than letting her go cold. Also if your initial interaction was weak because it was short or not very intense, building rapport over text can reduce your chance of a flake.

Author:	WhatisLove [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 4:03 pm ]
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Quote: It looks like everyone has a different opinion on this... If its set a week in advance, theres seriously a 99% chance it's gonna flake. Who knows how strong the initial interaction was but the emotions of the interaction probably aren't going to carry on til the time of the date, but I could be wrong, I wasn't there. Personally if you can only arrange to meetup with her a week later instead of just a few days later (because of work commitments etc), keeping her warm with text msg's every day or 2 up til the day is going to be much better than letting her go cold. Also if your initial interaction was weak because it was short or not very intense, building rapport over text can reduce your chance of a flake. That sounds like a better answer, I would of set it up earlier like this week, but work is shafting me this week. So I will text her every other day or something just to keep the connection strong to avoid the flake but I will not appear an AFC. I will keep everything important and leave the small talk later. Thanks

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