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Author:  TomSmall [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 12:14 am ]
Post subject:  DJ/punter relationship
I'm a DJ and when I was doing my thing a week or so ago, a hot girl came up and requested a song. I obliged and that was that. We didn't have a conversation as such or exchange names. When I got home that night, I had a Facebook friend request from her (she would have found me on the Event page for the club) so I accepted and posted "Hi! Thanks for coming tonight!" on her wall. She replied with a private message and we discussed music and then our weekends a little until it petered out. A day or two later she tried to revive the conversation by asking me (in a private message again) when I would be DJing again.

Okay, the IOIs seem to be in place here. Now I want to try to take this interaction off Facebook and into the real world. Any suggestions on how I could ask her out without seeming too forward? I've been threading very carefully as I don't wanna screw this up. This girl is hella pretty.
Author:  TomSmall [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 10:11 am ]
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No advice at all?
Author:  Pokee [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 1:01 pm ]
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Without being to forward? If she's giving you IOI's, it's the green light to approach. I don't think you could be too forward in this situation. And even if you could, so what.

You don't wanna screw it up with this girl.
Author:  TomSmall [ Tue Jul 17, 2012 6:26 pm ]
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Proably because people think since ur a DJ ur getting plenty of pussy already :) Joking aside though, next time you're DJing, what is stopping you to invite her to the venue and then ask her to join you in your booth while you're performing ur set?

That might make her feel pretty good i assume?
Ha, not quite rolling in the pussy.

I like this advice and will likely use it. Thanks a lot!
Author:  TomSmall [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 6:31 pm ]
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I'm not DJing again until the 16th of August. The girl still seems keen to talk to me via Facebook PMs. The last message she sent was a request for a song about a week ago which I didn't reply to (wasn't really neccessary). Would you reccommend I wait 2 and a half weeks till i'm DJing again (she said she's definitely coming) or ask her out before that on FB? Ahhh, I really hate talking on Facebook!
Author:  Pokee [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 6:53 pm ]
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Here's what I'd do: I'd tell her to come along with you down to the record store because you need to pick up some new shit for a new set. (That doesn't need to be true.) Then while you're out say, let's go get a bite to eat. Then if that goes good say, "come back to mine and I'll spin you a couple of songs for your own private show. And get her to dance for you, and escalate. That's meat in the bag, bro!
Cheers!
Author:  TomSmall [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 7:45 pm ]
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Likewise, hate txt, chatting and all that shit that isnt personal :) Joking aside, if she is approaching you i would definitley not wait 2.5 weeks until you see her again. Do you have her number? If not then either get it or game her on FB and take her out, if you do have the digits call her and tell her you wanna go out and have fun.

Good luck man!
I don't have her number. Our only exchanges have been on FB (and our brief impersonal first interaction at the club which I mentioned in the first post). You're making me think I should just go for it. I'm overthinking what line I should use though.
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Here's what I'd do: I'd tell her to come along with you down to the record store because you need to pick up some new shit for a new set. (That doesn't need to be true.) Then while you're out say, let's go get a bite to eat. Then if that goes good say, "come back to mine and I'll spin you a couple of songs for your own private show. And get her to dance for you, and escalate. That's meat in the bag, bro!
Cheers!!
Problem is, like most DJs these days, I don't use physical records any more, so the record store line wouldn't work...
Author:  DJ_Z [ Mon Jul 30, 2012 11:23 pm ]
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Oh my god...stop thinking so much and invite her out. "Hey, I feel like going to club ***** Saturday, if you want to tag along text me, ***-***-****."

Tadaaaaa.
Author:  TomSmall [ Wed Aug 01, 2012 10:30 pm ]
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Okay, update time.

Earlier this evening I sent her...

"Shame I didn't get to talk to you properly at the last [MY CLUB NIGHT]. It's pretty hard to have a conversation with someone while you're DJing! I'm probably going to [ANOTHER CLUB NIGHT] on Saturday. 'Mon down if you fancy it."

(This wasn't my whole message. There was another paragraph in which I said I wouldn't be playing the song she requested because it's not the sort of thing I play. I did this in a friendly way of course).

She came back about an hour and a half later with...

"Aww, yeah I didn't think it would fit in but God loves a trier! It doesn't change the fact that they're CLASS! :P And I'd like to but I'm working late shifts all weekend so will have to pass. Will be sure to say hi at [MY CLUB NIGHT] though!"

Mmm, hard to tell if she's being nice or she's genuinely busy. I guess I should take it on face value. Any tips for a reply? You guys, particularly TonyKing have been very helpful so far.
Author:  TomSmall [ Fri Aug 17, 2012 4:49 pm ]
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Okay, I was DJing last night and she was there (she even hotter than I remembered). She didn't approach or make eye contact with me for a hour or two. Not ideal. When she finally came up we only made small talk for 1-2 minutes tops. However, she did send me this PM through Facebook (arrgh) a few hours ago:

"Hiya Tom! Just a wee message to say [MY CLUB NIGHT] was PURE CLASS last night, had such a good time and every song was brilliant. So happy that you played [SONG SHE LOVES]!"

High praise. How should I play this? Also, i'm DJing tomorrow night and I don't think she knows so I could invite her...
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Aug 17, 2012 10:20 pm ]
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I repeat, invite her out to do something where you're not working. If you only see her while you're DJ'ing, you run the risk of just becoming a status symbol. She can go into the club and look cool because she knows the DJ. Don't be a little bitch, HIT THAT.
Author:  TomSmall [ Wed Oct 17, 2012 7:45 pm ]
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Okay, a few months have passed and I kept this girl in my sights. She gave me her phone number out of the blue about a month ago on Facebook PM and we've texted a bit. She came down when I was DJing last week and we had a bit of a chat (for only the second time) and it was fine. She seems to think i'm a cool guy and sends me the odd message. I started a chat with her on FB last night. We chatted a bit about ourselves and she finished with -
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"anyways, I have to go hang out with my housemates, speak to you soon no doubt"
Then she went offline and I replied -
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"ah, sure thing

would like to talk to you properly sometime when i'm not DJing. a drink perhaps"
I said that to test the waters. If she replied with something along the lines of "yeah, that would be good", I was going to call her and ask her out properly over the phone. But about an hour ago I got this reply -
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"Aw thanks Tom, although this is super awkward and I probably have the wrong idea but I am seeing someone kind of :) If that's not what you're getting at then just ignore that, haha embarrassing! But yeah, a drink would be cool! :)"
Weeeeeeell, I did suspect she might be seeing someone because of a few photos she posted on her FB at the weekend but it was hard to tell. Anyway, how should I reply? Do you think it would be a good idea to go out for a drink with her as a friend?
Author:  HardToKill [ Wed Oct 17, 2012 8:23 pm ]
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See if you can get her a VIP invite, put your DHV through the roof!!!
Author:  TomSmall [ Thu Oct 18, 2012 7:50 am ]
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I haven't replied yet and will need to ASAP. Not really sure what to text her... Should I acknowledge that she thought I might be asking her out on a date or pretend I wasn't?
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