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| Author: | cottontail [ Sat Jul 14, 2012 9:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Mixed signals from Co-worker. (Game a co-worker?) |
This is a rather patethic story but i hope you can help me out on this one. Since this is with someone i work rather close with i feel like this is another type of game and i’m not sure how to play it. I work for a service sector company doing both field and in office work. 5 months ago a new girl started at our office and instantly i found her attractive. Didnt pay much attention to her at first and i kind of felt she was a little too immature, blue eyed, and vanilla for my taste (she’s in her mid 20’s, girl next door but has done low grade modelling (probably due to being tall, slim an fotogenic). Anyways, she started to grow on me and i found her really cute, we only interacted proffessionaly and i always make her laugh etc. I have noticed several IOI’s especially over the last 2 months in form of her sending me text messages, asking where i left an office party, that i was away for too long during a 3 week holiday i went on. Another co-worked of mine stated that he thought she was into me. When we are close kino feels natural.. During the last month she’s really gone to my head and i’m not sure how to handle this. I asked her out for a walk a couple of weeks ago and during that walk she felt cold and somewhat distant, and after all the build up at work i kind of mentally paniced at this. Didnt get any good kino response. After that walk i kinda sliped into Beta Mode for a lil while and i have given her a little too much attention text wise but then i stoped initiating text message contact but she still initiates the whole Imessage thing 2-3 times a week. My great mistake in this mess is that i kind of painted some mental image of me and her togheter and got emotionally involved before i even know she is into me. Lately i have been more distant towards her and tried to regain my alpha stance and my composure. Lol. I suspect its pretty obvious she knows im into her, i only stated that she is cute in a playful way but i think all my signals shows her that she has the upper hand. What should i do? Ask her out again or just get to know her without falling into the friends category? I’m dreading Monday night because then we have to do some business togheter for 4 hours at night. Help a bro! Thanx. |
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| Author: | cottontail [ Sat Jul 14, 2012 1:06 pm ] |
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The walk was outside of work, our only encounter of that nature so far. I'm usually pretty confident being physical with girls, but i felt that icey cold non response from her on our walk. Maybe it was due to my high hopes.. i dont know. It's saturday and sent the last text on thursday lol, i responded. Now im wondering if i should initiate contact during the weekend.. to IOI her. lol She has initiated 2/3rds of our previous contacts. Oh well i will spend time with her on monday, and i'm going to try my best to be confident/ignore her beauty and be aware of any IOI's on her part. Thank you for taking the time. |
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| Author: | cottontail [ Sat Jul 14, 2012 1:31 pm ] |
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Just want to add that me and my SPAM did a text analysis of the text-message convo's between me and this girl and we came to the conclusion that i have been too sweet and a little too obvious in my feelings for her (yet still in a playful manner). So my somewhat sober thoughts now is that i should lay low for a little longer and let her chase me some more. Because there is no fucking was she doesnt know im into her! lol |
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| Author: | cottontail [ Fri Aug 24, 2012 1:18 pm ] |
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Oh well. This mess is still on have seen her 3 times outside work. 1st time before she went on a 4 week holiday.. She was stone cold and i couldnt kino with her at all.. felt alotta rejection.. i kinda went a lite beta after that. Pulled back.. and she didnt text me until 1 week after.. She kept textin me thruout her holiday and she initiated 2/3rds of all contact.. did see her twice after she came back and now she's more relaxed and i started to kino with her and our last meeting ended with a goodbye kiss.. My problem with this whole story is the following. 1) i dont dare to tell her what i feel about her because that will make me look even more beta.. 2)i'm still tryin to get her down from that pedistal i put her on prematurely. Any advice on that? 3)How bold should i be next time we are 1 on 1 outside work? i force myself to see other girls for physical pleasure... but it only soothes the pain/longin for this one girl temporarily. I'm going to try to get this girl for real.. but i think i need some advice to cool my fuckin self.. I can keep composure in her prescense but im boiling on the inside.. what do i do? lord help lol |
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