When did I tell you not to THINK about sex? Of course you will think about it when you see a hot ass, it's biologically impossible not to do so. I said that make yourself independent from whether you have sex or not.
As for the relationship, you're asking yourself the wrong questions. These just get you deeper in shit, but won't get you closer to the solution.
Instead of "how did it not happen?"... What exactly happened? Were we close to having sex? How close?
Leave "what's going on" out of this. You can only figure this by asking yourself other questions.
Instead of "is she actually interested?" How interested did she seem? Were there times where she seemed disinterested? What did I do before that happened? How did she show me that she loved me? When did she do this? What did I do before that?
Instead of "how can I make it happen?" What is missing? Is it the vibe, or just me pushing forward? Is it comfort? What can I do to put the missing piece in its place?
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how much personality change can one really undergo from learning said 'game'? if you're shy, weak, uninteresting, nervous by default what chance do you possible have to turn this around to any significant level?
You may not believe me but I used to be worse than you. I was the absolute creep in my class at high-school for a very long time. Since I'd been there from class 5-12, it was 8 years. It took me 4 years to realise that I'm a joke and another 2 to break out of that status partially. Let me tell you myfriend how awkward I used to be. I'm going to now tell you some stories of my school life and point out how I improved from super-awkward to healthy. No, I'm not a womanizer but I certainly will never again have a problem with attracting girls.
Grade 5. -I shit myself on P.E. lesson.
-I jump on the table and start acting like some kind of beast just to get attention
- I pick my nose without shame.
-I basically do so many creepy things that it would be impossible to remember and list all of them...
Grade 6. -I shit myself again.
- I confess my love to a girl who tells me exactly these words: "You're disgusting"
-I climb a tree because my classmates told me if I did it I'd get a kiss on the cheeks from her.(not a single kiss was given that day...)
-I excel in my studies and I use it to annoy everyone who's picking on me. On classes I laugh out loud if someone doesn't know something or start banging my head to the table.
Grade 7-8.
-I start to realise this is unacceptable.
-I still do a lot of creepy stuff. I jump up and grab the hangers and pretend to be fucking the wall.
-I still annoy the fuck out of people with being nerdy and disrespectful.
-I'm secretely in love with a girl but now afraid of rejection I never tell it outright. My best attempt was "I like your jumpers".
Grade 9.
-The year of self-doubt and frustration.
-I'm beginning to change but my environment doesn't appreciate it as I thought. They didn't forget how I shit myself twice, they didn't forget anything, and I'm still being treated like a creep.
-Still doing minor weird stuff: Math teacher was talking about the purpose of homework and said: "I'm not giving you homework to make you suffer. I'm giving it to you to practise. If I were to screw with you, I'd tell you to write 5000 "+" signs in your excersice book." I did it... I put the 5000 + signs down.
-Has a crush on another girl. On a class I randomly whisper to her from the other side of the classrom: "I think your shirt is very nice". She laughs, but not like an IOI...oh hell no...
-I play WoW 10 + hours a day.
Grade 10.
-I'm stopping creepy behaviour and I develop a very accepting, open minded, and socially acceptable mindset.
-My creepy status is about to drop. I finally have friends in the class other than the ones who were "tolerating me"
-Crush left class so I now have a new target. I buy her a gift and I want to give it to her for Valentine's. Never had the courage to do so... Looking back...all the better. Geez... haven't spoken with her more than 5 sentences.
-I still play WoW but it's not my life now. I go out and have fun occasionally.
Grade 11.
-I discover pick-up.
-I realise all my life what I've been thinking about girls is utter BS.
-I'm reading up material. I'm reading and reading and reading... For like half a year, I've read up everything I could find. Then I went out and consistently got blown out.
Grade 12.
-I go out more than I read... I get field experience. On the 31st of december I get my first girlfriend. (18 years old) After months of waiting I finally lose it(19) We break up due to distance.
Uni year 1.
-The new environment gives me confidence and shoots my inner game to the stars. Noone here knows about my dark past, they'll only see the new, valueable me. I make friends quickly, go to parties and have lots of fun altogether. I have some ONS but I realise quickly they're not making me really happy. I have some short-term relationships basically none of them is working out.
-I get a gf and be together with her for quite a while.
Uni year 2.
-I'm happy in my relationship for a very good time. The sex is awesome, the girl is beautiful and she loves me.
-Finally after months something is going wrong. She goes out one night and confesses to me two days later that she cheated and she wants to break up.
-I feel down for a while but my friends help me a lot with getting better.
And now here's the kick. I did not become angry. Three months have passed, I'm living in the room NEXT DOOR int he dorm to hers(we used to live together) I'm still good friends with her altough I don't want her back. I also happen to have a very good friendship with the guy with whom she cheated on me. Can you believe it? Can you think of how strong my inner game had to become to achieve this? And look back from where I came from. 11 year-old creepy guy shitting himself... The absolute positive thing is that my dark past only makes me stronger. Because the fact that I could come so far reinforces my confidence.
And now let me tell you my final words. It is not the game, that will get you far. It is not pick-up that will make your inner game strong. There's only one thing that can change and it is YOU. Pick-up is a tool. And it will get you as far as your motivation lets you. Learn from my story. I didn't tell it to you to brag. I told it so you can see how can you choose the path you need.
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she is a high sex-drive girl, and I know which buttons to push to get her going. having sex is "obvious" in our relationship, we are at a level of comfort where that kind of intimacy is fully expected and natural.