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| Author: | dechs [ Mon Jul 09, 2012 7:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Alone in a bar or nightclub |
I'm sure you've been asked the question. "So are you here by yourself?" Never really figured out a socially acceptable answer to that if you really are there by yourself. The best I have is saying my friends went to heavy metal bar and I hate the music there. It's not a lie per se, chances are my friends are in a heavy metal bar and I really do hate the music in those places. There seems to be a bit of a social stigma about going to bars alone, how does one make that go away? |
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| Author: | lusitanpua [ Mon Jul 09, 2012 7:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Alone in a bar or nightclub |
Hi, I think there's no problem of going alone to a bar. The problem is HOW your are behaving in that bar: when standing in the bar, do you have a predatoy look? An ansious look? Like you want something, visible to everybody in the room? If so, well my friend, then you are "alone". There are plenty of pua guys that go alone to the bar and yet they can score. Really and i'm not bullshiting you. Me, for example, i don't have any issues with that. And what? Some woman asks you "so are you here by yourself?". Man, that's an excellent oportunity for you to explore by telling her some history that stimulates her emotions and humor. "Yeah... today i am... something bad happened and i'm here trying to forget it...". Be creative, don't tell her right way everything and go play along. But this only an example. Peace bro. «May the force be with you» Quote: I'm sure you've been asked the question. "So are you here by yourself?" Never really figured out a socially acceptable answer to that if you really are there by yourself. The best I have is saying my friends went to heavy metal bar and I hate the music there. It's not a lie per se, chances are my friends are in a heavy metal bar and I really do hate the music in those places.
There seems to be a bit of a social stigma about going to bars alone, how does one make that go away? |
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| Author: | Gradi0 [ Tue Jul 10, 2012 12:20 am ] |
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There are many acceptable times to be alone in a nightclub or bar, and many times you are alone even if you go there with friends. Sometimes a friend needs to use the bathroom, other times you're thirsty and want a drink, you just do it. You're technically alone for those few minutes, but it doesn't even phase you because you know your friends are right around the corner. I would suggest to try to get into this mindset. Or better yet, make friends while you're there. Bartenders, bouncers, guys, etc... anybody. |
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| Author: | NonStopReaper [ Tue Jul 10, 2012 6:10 am ] |
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I go often by myself. just carry the same energy as you would with your friend. Dont by any means bust out your phone to facebook or check " messages " you dont even have. Greet random people on your way to the bar and chat up the bar tender (if they are not busy) this will help you build rapport with the place. Chat with the workers like you've known them. this will help the fact that, you dont care that you did come by yourself and that you are friendly and outgoing. Now you can try to opening up new set or mingle with people. |
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| Author: | skills360 [ Wed Jul 11, 2012 1:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Alone in a bar or nightclub |
Quote: I'm sure you've been asked the question. "So are you here by yourself?" Never really figured out a socially acceptable answer to that if you really are there by yourself. The best I have is saying my friends went to heavy metal bar and I hate the music there. It's not a lie per se, chances are my friends are in a heavy metal bar and I really do hate the music in those places.
There seems to be a bit of a social stigma about going to bars alone, how does one make that go away? Hb: are you here by yourself? me: No i am here with my best friend hb: where is he? me: i grab my balls I do this very frequent since i game alone... hb: hahahahahha! |
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| Author: | Damon001 [ Wed Jul 11, 2012 10:13 pm ] |
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Mental discipline is key in these situations. If you keep talking positively to yourself then you'll feel better and this will show. Also, it's probably not textbook Game but there's always the option of chatting to the less attractive ladies in the place until you feel more comfortable, and you also get some minor social proof! |
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